I've been hobbying for the last 3 years on/off and have been married for 15 years. My sex life w/my wife went to hell after our 2nd child. She was never in the mood and I tried (@ least from my point of view) many things but didn't work. So I tried the hobbying path and everything was hunky dorky till I let my lower brain do the thinking. About six months ago I started having an affair with an old acquitance. I'm not in love w/the woman or have any other attachements other than SEX. My wife caught on and I told her the truth; that it was only about SEX.
We have two beautiful adhoring children that we both LOVE and she is a great MOM to them. So she's put these conditions forward for NO DIVORCE OR DIVORCE.
1. I must call her when I leave the office and give my whereabouts when I'm not with her. (I think this can fade over time)
2. A regular 8-6 wkday.
& others like these but this one gets me and I don't know how to deal with this.
She wants to have a SEXUAL ENCOUNTER (F..KED) by two guys and she wants me to watch the whole encounter. Damn I'm no freak and don't know how to talk her out of this. I'm thinking unless this was a fantasy of her how could one woman put herself thru this. I thought I get drunk and watch ..but no booze for me.
I'm open to suggestions?... Should have just stuck to the hobbying ..Regret ever getting involved in an affair.
I think you could be in for one of the hottest experiences of your life. Where is she planning to get the guys? Are you supposed to get them for her? No, I do not want to volunteer (although I am sure you can line up people from the board. Wait, I'm lying, I would LOVE to volunteer.).
I would pay to see my wife enjoying sex. It would be a turn on (like when she adtually DID enjoy sex). I would probably save $$$ doing her rather then spending on therapists and the hobby.
What I don't understand is, if she lost her interest in sex, why the sudden interest in being f*cked by two guys while you watch? I could've understood if she wanted two women -- that'd explain a lot. Well, if you'd only had an affair with one woman, then I'd say agree to her demand, but only if you get a free pass on another woman to be named later. Good luck, and let us know how it turns out
I does not sound like either of you are into taking responsibility for the state of the relationship.
Get a divorce.
It's one of my absolute faves, and she deserves it. Who knows, you may enjoy watching it.
And then, once you both got a little tit for tat f**king out of the way, maybe you can put some cards on the table..
Happiness has it's cost. It's how much can you afford?