on the provider. I always prefer cash since I know exactly what I'm doing with my cash all the time (usually going toward bills, remodeling or investing). However, an additional gift occasionally is always welcomed but not necessary.
Hugs,
Ciara
Wondering if anybody has some insight on this. I have been in contact with a few providers here, and very happy I found TER! I have asked a few of the ladies if they would prefer a very generous gift certificate in the same amount but in lieu of cash donation, and some said that would be lovely, others said no way. Just wondering if legally this would still be considered solicitation if there was no actual cash exchanged. The providers who have accepted the certificates told me where they like to shop and I oblige. Even nicer on a return visit when she is wearing something that she got with the certificate and enjoys showing it off for me! Comments?
And I don't know. Attorneys, comment? (might want to post also on the legal board, but I wanna know NOW!)
I have known of ladies who've accepted GC's (prior to the appt time, natch.)
Others might not because they can't pay the rent with a GC..so money matters.
I guess it depends on the lady and whether the bills are paid. You may catch her all paid up, but needing some things at Home Depot, Amazon or Target!
I haven't checked the statutes, but I believe the term they use to define prostitution is "anything of value" or "consideration" in exchange for sex. Usually, the law is pretty careful about making it difficult to do indirectly what you can't do directly.
Ladies? How do you feel about this? This is a great question...I'm very interested in any replies from the ladies.
on the provider. I always prefer cash since I know exactly what I'm doing with my cash all the time (usually going toward bills, remodeling or investing). However, an additional gift occasionally is always welcomed but not necessary.
Hugs,
Ciara
Yes, it is called bartering and it is considered as solicitation. It has the same value as cash in the court of law.
I prefer to actually buy the gift at their favorite store. It is fun to give a gift and watch them open it. They usually model it on our next meeting.
I have started something new with my ATF. I asked her what is her wish that she really wants. She wants a Harley cycle. My tip is in a separate envelop reserved for her Harley. I asked her to open a new savings account just for the Harley. She is now savings all of her tips in this account. She is amazed on how fast the account is growing. She is great and she deserves to treat herself to a new Harley.
I have heard of men giving gift certificates to women in lieu of cash payments that had written on them $300 for the value only to have the girl go to the store and find there was only $30 on it.
As one lovely lady stated (above), I would rather have the cash going towards my bills. I also heard of incidents (as the other lovely lady stated), where gift certificates where actually at a lower value, then what it was presented as.
Mel 
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Whoa!!! I never thought of that, but I guess that does happen! Never had anyone actually question one yet, but I guess that could be a reason why a provider wouldn't take one, and I can say I don't blame her! Thanks. I will in the future I will reconsider my actions, and just ask if a gift from their favorite lingerie or bath shop or whatever would be nice. The ones that have accepted are obviously those not much worried about their bills being paid. Whatever the lady wants, the lady will get! Thanks to everyone for their responses!
If it was only to avoid solicitaion situations, it has been clarified that this tactic won't work....other than that, I can't imagine this being in the best interst of either party - you have to schlepp around to get the GC and I'm limited as to what can be done with the money.
If the certificate was in excess of my rates for companionship, I may consider it, because there is icreased value to temper the negatives (limited to where to my money vs more money to spend).
honestly, would you want your paycheck from your employer to come in the form of a gift certificate? your personal situation is irrellavent - as is mine - its none of thier business if your rent is payed or not, its your money, that you earned, and you are free to spend it where you wish, right?