First, no one FORGETS to add the extra hour. If you didn't say "hey I'm having fun, don't worry about the clock" then he either assumed you're ok with the overtime or he's taking advantage of you.

Second, come on Viv, you've been playing this game how long and you don't recognize it coming or have a sense of timing? Most providers seem to have a pretty good talent for managing an hour appointment. Part of the blame has to go to you for not managing the situation.

What would sound respectful? That is somewhat dependent on the situation. For instance, I would not find any of these examples impolite:
-if a client starts by discussing a "wishlist" that obviously can't be completed by a normal man in the time scheduled, ask if he wants to extend then.
- if in the course of the scheduled appointment, you "satisfy your client" on the early side, ask if he's up for round two, casually mentioning we've got x time. Maybe offer just a nice massage or Mutual shower to round out the appointment if he doesn't think he can recover or he doesn't wish to extend.
-if you're both just going hot and heavy for the hour, that's when YOU need to use more judgement and say something that won't kill the mood. If it was me, I'd prefer to hear it before I overstayed my welcome. That said, I'd be very grateful for a little OT if it meant ending with a bang.
-if he's just lingering, get dressed, toss him his boxers and tell him you have to be somewhere.
-if you both really did lose track of time and he doesn't offer anything upon realizing an extra 30-60 has passed, suggest that since you both had such a good time, that next time he book 2hrs.

It's not tacky and you don't need to stop the fun and have an immediate monetary exchange, but it's part of P4P and OT doesn't happen unless both parties let it happen.

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Something subtle like asking if I would like to shower before I leave or slowly start dressing up. That is usually enough hint for me.

Personally I think the provider should have the responsibility of keeping an eye on the clock.  Recently I had a great session but realized as I exited that it was out the door at the 45 minute mark.  In other words the provider shorted me and kind of gave herself a very nice tip.  I won't be going back.  On other occasions I've had sessions that have gone way over time.  Again it was the provider's call and on those occasions the boundary between friend and client got blurred.  I don't go back expecting that treatment every time, but I do go back.  Using music is a great way for providers to subtly keep track of time.  Whatever the method, I firmly believe its her responsibility.  If i exit on the hour I'd never make a comment, or call her a clock watcher.  She's simply following the clear rules we have in the hobby.  Now if a client doesn't get the hint and hangs around then I would never make a booking with him again, and I'd seek advice from other providers on what to do.

Most clients will obviously want to stick around longer than agreed upon.  Very few (unless it's was a bad session) will want to leave early.

I'd say it's on the provider to make it clear the time has expired.  I understand you don't want to offend, or possibly lose a client, but that's the nature of the business.

You are in this to make money, right?  Well, every minute he sticks around is the same as him taking money out of your pocket.  It's an opportunity cost.

If the client doesn't understand this, nor respect your time, then he's a loser and you shouldn't worry about offending him.  

All of that being said, a little "oh no!  Our time is up" always works for me.  

I usually set the room up so that it's easy for me and my client to see the clock without having to look on the night stands next to the bed or me having to "clock watch".  

It's as simple as moving the clock to a place that's in front of the bed, like the tv stand.

I also sometimes pick play lists on my phone that last the length of the appointment.  

Once the time is getting close to being up you can simply ask if they want to shower or freshen up before heading out AND offer a time extension if your schedule allows it.

...she casually asks me, "so, what are your plans for the rest of the day?"

and then, if i'm going on and on about my plans, she coyly suggests "would you like to shower before you go?"

yes, guys are jerks, and few of us have time sense...it's kind of on you, the entertainer, to stop entertaining at the allotted time.  or, if you feel like things are going great and your client doesn't want to stop, you have to politely mention "hey this is great but if you want more time, we have to make arrangements before we continue."

blame it on your accountant or assistant or something.

However much people mike like the idea of romantic illusion, it is a business. And time is money. No one likes to be reminded of they impending expiration of fun times... But the best defense to that as a client is to be cognizant of time on your own. Also.... don't short change yourself on time. If you constantly find yourself unsatisfied with agreed upon session length... you need to buy more time upfront. I think it's perfectly reasonable for a provider to remind a client that his time is running short. But asking for compensation after time has run out might be pushing it. A lot of guys only bring what is required to a date and no more than that.

-- Modified on 8/6/2016 3:17:52 AM