"screened and vetted." I just want to go to a gathering, not attend Harvard.
Resurrected: For those of you who know what "Happy Hour" is please ignore the following.
Happy Hour was/is a gathering for FREE where guys and girls in the hobby can gather to hang out and maybe make a connection or at the very least enjoy the conversations of like minded individuals.
The event(s) typically take place in a local venue like a bar or club where there is no cover but the group has a certain amount of privacy like in a banquet room or assigned their own section. Everyone pays their own bill for food/drinks and gentlemen are encouraged to purchase beverages/food for the ladies in attendance but it is not required or expected.
If there is an interest I would love to arrange a monthly meet-up alternating from north to central San Diego.
The people coming would need to be screened and vetted to ensure all in attendance are people who are active and safe allis of the community. The location would be sent via email the evening prior. I would love help with this if anyone were interested. Please message or email me.
Hope to get something going!
GK
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As one of the exiled from the closed site, it would be great to meet new people.
"screened and vetted." I just want to go to a gathering, not attend Harvard.
I agree. If they were to just set a time and a place, I would definitely stop by and introduce myself and most likely make a few great new contacts. However, I'd rather not get vetted for a cocktail party.
I think by "vetted" is just meant looking at your profile and making sure you didn't sign up day before yesterday and have no reviews
Logic for the win!
I'm still out. The best idea is just to name a place, a day, and put out the word. Anybody who wants to stop by and introduce themselves can. That way, the ones with no social skills will be culled from the herd by natural selection. Maybe I'm naïve, but if nobody does anything illegal, why does it have to be a BFS?
...and put out the word." It's no secret LE monitors these boards and would like nothing better than to meet providers without having to provide their handles and be screened. It doesn't matter that nothing illegal happens; they've made contact with providers and can arrange to meet them and bust them at a later date.
Not before the party. The best thing they could do is attract as many potential clients as possible and make plans for a later date. Then, before the date, make sure they are properly screened. Correct me if I'm wrong, but there's nothing illegal about meeting people for a cocktail, regardless of what website the event was planned on. The whole idea is to drum up business, right?
...the third degree before I see them privately, I'd be resentful. They've already met me and gotten to know me. I might as well see someone else.
That's why screening is necessary; if you go to a well-planned event, you can be assured that no one is LE. It's a one-stop shop - I've been to many M&Gs in L.A. and have made appointments with providers without any screening other than meeting them at a M&G. That's the benefit of having a great host (Bond007) like we did in L.A. He was very thorough in screening hobbyists and providers.
Nothing to be resentful about if you meet someone you would like to see, and then she wants to screen you. Its an integral part of the process. It wouldn't hurt my feelings at all. In fact, I would appreciate that she is also keeping ME safe by screening ALL of her own customers. Most of the guys arrested at a group meeting in January in Seattle let someone else do the screening of other members and did not do their own check. I would rather drift in anonymously and be responsible for my own safety than to rely on someone else who may not give a shit about whether I am safe or not. Anytime your personal information is contained in a group setting, you are only as safe as the weakest person in the group. Just sayin
...is held by the host and all he or she has is your TER handle and an email address. The security of a M&G is only as good as the trustworthiness of the host.
I attended many M&Gs hosted by Bond007 and he was always very vigilant about screening. You've stated that you don't give out your TER handle so maybe M&Gs are not for you.
Not for me. Your analysis makes perfect sense otherwise.
what's to stop some "non-discreet" guy (or gal) from bringing an unvetted friend
There would be guidelines for the gatherings and one would be NO GUESTS who are not approved/screened prior. Failure to comply would result in banning of attending future events. It's really not that difficult. Each of us individually needs to decide if we want to go and if so adhere to the policies in place that will keep the gathering safe and fun.
Hey Team,
I happen to agree with Cour-de-lion. I've been around 5 years, plenty of reviews. If I've got to jump thru hoops it is not as appealing
I am offering to plan gatherings. It's not easy. If anyone would be jumping through hoops it would be me dealing with the inquiries and nay-sayers.
What "hoops" do you think you would be required to jump through? I'm talking about basic screening to be sure the people in attendance are safe and credible.
I mean really.
Does anyone want to go to an event where the attendees are not verifiable?
I doubt any ladies would show up if it were just to be posted that we would be "hanging out at the Four Points Sheraton bar, look for the group" or something that any person can see. Even non-members. So anyone who doesn't want to be screened must be a dangerous person or doesn't want to go. Pretty simple.
I'm hopeful users here who are interested would agree that an open invite posted online for all to see could result in problems and more likely poor attendance by providers. The goal for these events is to have a nice time and maybe meet someone who interests you in a safe environment. That's all it is.
Mwah
I happen to agree with Cour-de-lion. I've been around 5 years, plenty of reviews. If I've got to jump thru hoops it is not as appealing.
My reason is that no provider or booker has my TER handle and can match up my real name or face to it. I other words, when I book a session, I use only my real name and don't ever mention I am a TER member or that I write reviews. Its so I can write honest reviews without blowback. Does that make me dangerous in your book?
Kudos Goldie!
While I don't attend often (even the ones from the other site) it would be great to share a drink with like minded adults
I would like it if Happy Hour started earlier like maybe 3pm or earlier.
Personally, I'd like to see happy hours or mixers resume at some point. But not now or any time soon. It's gonna take a while for things to calm down.
LE considers escorts sites, forums, mixers, happy-hours etc. as venues for negotiating sexual transactions. And in this town they seem to be aggressively going after them.
Agreed here for sure. Would like things to settle dkwn before jumping into a happy hour etc.
However Goldie Knoxx you are a complete doll for suggesting this & standing tall through the grief (yes, I do know it's wise grief Mr. Bill! 
) of this thread! Lol!
Looks like you could use some help & would be more than happy to get the happy hour together with you!
Be well & until then... TTFN
simply because all the escorts that I see tell me that I'm their favorite client and their other customers are fat, old slobs.
I don't want to ruin that belief
Great aspect of the dead board, was planning to attend next Monday's but obviously can't now 
I would probably swing by and have a drink or 6 but only if it were screened and semi private.
I would love to meet local ladies but my schedule is VERY tight.
Thank you for taking the initiative.
BTW, of course the gentlemen are going to buy the ladies drinks. Duh
I support the idea. I get to read or hear about it. And it's good to feel being part of an active community.
similar to a M&G, but held in the afternoon. There are slight differences, but very similar in the MO. Sounds fun.
The fact your post was removed makes me wonder why you would even question me. I'll tell you what you should do, contact TER and ask them. You do know how to do that ?
Since you presumably do, provide us a link to the "rule".
TER staff is always happy to explain why something was removed or moved.
Try not to fret.
You can not post links to exterior services or links that post personal information.
Did you really not realize that the names of the site runner and his pal were listed?
That one is still in jail?
That their court dates were listed?
Like, really?
Come on now.
The names, court dates etc. are all in public domain! In every local paper, in fact. Every day I read linked articles on TER where all kinds of personal information of various people is detailed.
You really should check out the self help center, there's a section called "discussion board guidelines"
Since you presumably do, provide us a link to the "rule".
What do you mean by "obviously"? If TER doesn't publish the rules, how does one is expected to know and follow them? How do you know them? What rule was violated by that post? In any case, the news is all over the place and hopefully everyone got the message.
Did you whine to TER Adm to get your posts removed on that thread? You cried like a baby to get someone to give you the board name. You must happy as a clam now that you know the name.
What's the big deal with asking about the rules or the site? With everything that's going on, the more information everyone has the better. Don't you agree?
DUH: Obviously you can't link articles naming community members real names.
You could say "search: ____________ " and supply enough info that someone could do their own leg work or realize that some information really isn't meant to be shared here.
Does anyone remember Glamour Massage? Well this is very similar. Don't link pages that expose personal info like real names.
Not sure why that needs to be a guideline.
Seems like COMMON SENSE to me.
But then again, I know and employ discretion.
Kisses and hugs for knowing the rules?? Really? Are we in grade school here? Anyway, the most likely reason the other posts were removed was because TER requires similar topics/posts to be included in the most recent thread. For example : if someone wanted to say that attending the happy-hour was not a good idea, they should say it in this thread rather than start a new one. So, no big deal. Certainly no reason for sarcastic and snide remarks. A simple suggestion would have been enough. Animosity among some hobbyists and providers in this town is mind-boggling!
This site is heavily censored, especially when discussing one specific provider from San Diego (no, I will not name her here). I have read the rules and still have had multiple posts about this provider removed. Even posts that weren't about her, but about the ideas she was discussing that didn't agree with her stance. To top it off, TER doesn't even provide an excuse. They simply say "your post was deleted due to the removal of the thread." AKA somebody didn't like what you had to say. Knowing how edited this site is, I have a hard time believing what I read in the reviews now. I've said it before and I'll say it again, censorship is the single worst thing that can happen to this website. Without the credibility, what's the point? You might as well trust the other non-review sites.
what it usually means is that a poster had second thoughts and realized he/she said something that made them look stupid, and had his OWN post removed, and so it automatically removes all subsequent posts that flowed downstream from the post that was removed. It sort of makes sense, because it would be confusing to leave a comment from one of us about a post we were commenting on but has been removed by the original poster. Our posts become collateral damage from the post that was removed. Its not really censorship or some kind of conspiracy, its just the way the program was designed.
...replies to that post, including yours, will be removed. And an entire thread doesn't have to be removed - only the offending thread in a branch and its replies.
What does it mean when my post gets removed even though I replied to the OP, not to an earlier reply? This site has lost a lot of credibility in my eyes and it's a shame because so many others rely on it heavily.
Then it's probably because some thin-skinned member probably whined to admin that you somehow slandered them and if TER moderators agree, it will be removed. This happens to me, too. Some here are too serious and think I'm bashing them when it's just a little humorous chain-pulling. Especially, on this board. The GD board seems to be more populated with people than can join in laughing at themselves for saying something dumb rather than try to remove it, which takes down comments of others as well.
As noted...would need it to be private and screened but I see it as a chance to interact with lots of lovely ladies that I've met and meet some new ones.
Any excuse to see beautiful women tell me, half jokingly, how attractive I am, open's up my wallet lol.
I'd also enjoy like minded men, although I'm probably in the minority of the sub 35 year old enthusiasts.
I'm in. If I pass muster that is. White listed here I think...