It's a shame you had to deal with a nutjob. It makes it harder on us guys who are well groomed and well mannered, trying to be professional, respectful and admiring. Be safe.

And in that "Village" live some real idiots !  Sounds like you have found him !!  Good luck going forward !!

As you fully acknowledged this was your fault, at first, at least the lack of screening part. After that, this asshole was fully responsible.

Don't beat yourself up over it, you made a mistake. You're human. Lesson learned.

I think it may be tough mentally to separate what these ass clowns did and what an innocent unconnected guy may say to you or text you in the future.

We trend to blow things out of proportion in life, but this world is illegal and can be a bit dangerous so you are right to have reservations.

Cant remember who but someone here used to say to listen to that "uh oh" voice inside each of us. I think that is an innate ability that we shouldn't disregard so quickly.

When in doubt in the future, turn those dudes away. Safety first.

Sorry you had to go through that shit. This is something the guys here need to hear about from time to time bc some bitch about verification methods. While I don't like all of them, I don't argue with a woman and her needs to feel safe as I move to girl #2 on my list.

Nice post, sorry this happened to you and lessons learned for both the guys and the girls here.

It will give other providers more resolve to carefully screen and avoid jerks like that

Sounds like the type who would have lied through his teeth had you quizzed him prior...

The providers best protection is their peer network.  While I've never asked for a provider reference I would hope they would hope I left a positive impression.  

As it has been said, the majority of us wish to leave a good impression by being respectful and responsible for time management.  

Sorry you had to deal with the jerk(s).  I don't mind answering the screening questions to make the provider more comfortable.  There has to be an element of mutual trust...

nothing is hard to believe anymore. But who the fuck does this jerk off think he is?  And what has his friend, your client that referred him, had to say about it. I'm not a violent person in the least, but people like him should haves his legs broken, to force himself on you or anyone like that.  

The second instance would certainly raise the hair on my neck.  

I'm glad to hear you escaped without further incident. Regardless of anyone's opinion about anyone on this board, at the end of the day, we are family. We should look out for each other's safety when we can.  

Unfortunately it was you in this parable, but we'll all take something away from this.Thanks for sharing this with us.  

Stay safe. Have fun. Repeat.

What a bozo ! The golden rule always applies. Who does he think he is. It takes courage to write about this, good for you.  

You were smart to have a back up available. Even with screening, a back up plan in case of such a bozo seems to be necessary for our lovely ladies.....

I had the same thing happen to me...unfortunately I couldn't get out of my situation because the guy was so violent I don't trust anyone now... As far as the massage I think some guys might just like giving massages and giving a rub down to a sexy lady....I can see how it would be a turn on so I wouldn't write off anyone who mentions massaging you....as long as they past screening....good luck...sorry that happened girl...

Get word out about asshole.

I think you were very brave in keeping your cool until your friend arrived. I figure that once you realized the mistake of not having screened him, panic could have set in, but you did the right thing and remained calm. He could have gone violent if rejected.  

So now the important part: I am a nice guy, I promise, and I do give some magical massages that are out of this world and won't cost you a penny, would you like one?  There, that's it... that's the smile! Cheer up and don't let this bad experience bother you, just learn from it and move on.

His referal was probably as bogus as it was vague.  He probably thought if he could get you naked, he'd get a freebee out of it.  The line is so transparent.  He was trying to SCAM you.  Glad you did not let him get away with it.  
You are right...  if I were you, I would block him too for trying to SCAM you.  He blew his chance with you.    
I think you did well to deflect a subsequent similar approach.  You won't fall for it again.  And Thank You for posting.  I do not respect SCAMMERS in either direction.    

Now my Favorite ladies do not pay attention to the donation until after the play, (old school) but it should be correct & ready upon arrival.  If she wants to verify it, I'm fine with that...  particularly on a first date.   So he had several red flags...  not following the rules, aggressive behavior, not having the donation immediately available.

You could start a side business. :-)

ou could advertise free erotic massages from men who claim to be "the best."

Book your massage clients for the same time slot. Then when your massage guys arrive, you can just hand him a tube of oil and tell him which table to go to. Kiss him on the cheek and say "thank you so much."

You need to learn how to capitalize on this free labor pool you're drawing from

This was NOT your fault. Should we taking screening seriously? Yes. Regardless of whatever that turned up though, he had absolutely no right whatsoever to do that. Your body, your choice, always!!

I feel like those are more isolated incidences, and that most men who offer massage during a session are doing so with the best of intentions. Most men I have met through this work honestly do get enjoyment from their partner enjoying themselves. It's normal to feel hesitant though, and just pay attention to your gut.  

And I'm really happy to hear the guys on here calling out this ass wipe for what he is.  Cheers men!

Definitely would be happening again. That's so random and creepy. Just a way of getting free feels