I came here with my eyes wide open. I may not understand everything but I look at it like dealing with a Spanish or Greek shop keeper. You play the game, She hustle's , I get hustled we both get what we came here for. There is one that has opened up just a little to me. In that small space I find a very caring and passionate person. I hold that little trust very dear. I know that the main reason she wants to see me is the "gift", but I think there is a very little bit more. See, she is good at her job, and I am enjoying it, but that is as far as it goes.
I looked at your list and the first one on it is one that got away. I just keep saying, it will get better. Later and have fun.I've been in the hobby for most of a year now, and having a great time, better than I had imagined when I first started.
But one frustration is that there isn't anyone that I can talk to about it. Not my wife (of course), not my adult sons, not my friends (all of whom are married), not anyone I know.
I'd just love to be able to say to a good friend, "I had a great time with Lady X the other night. Have you had the chance to meet her yet?" Or just talk about a hundred issues the way that people involved in other hobbies (like flying model airplanes) do.
Is everyone else in the same boat, wishing they could talk about their hobby experiences and questions but unable to do so?
Unless you are very fortunate, this is it. I don't know how well mentioning names will fly. I feel your pain.
It's not the same as having a buddy to talk to. Like when you were in high school and collage and you could talk about your conquests with your boys. It's the same reason many of us are even in this hobby, we could all watch hotter girls in porn while sitting in our house alone but it's better with a real person.
a couple of Gents in the Carolinas who, after talking on boards, decided to meet in person and I know it went well for them. They have Me in common along with a couple of other ladies which gave them a bundle to talk about and "compare notes" on.
I think it's a healthy way to make buddies in the Hobby World!
I know that I enjoy making buddies with the Ladies when they come through Columbia and want to meet Me in person. It makes for easy screening with them and a dialogue far from what "civvie"/"normal" friends are comfortable with!
Best Wishes & Happy Hobbying!
xoxo
Seductive Sloan
Not a bad idea. I just might have to explore that since the other way is all but out in this region.
Agreed, I have a friend that showed me the hobby. While he is out of it for now, i know I can talk about it with him once I get stories to share. Its hard to not have anyone to chat with, but these forums are here for a reason.
There are a bunch that actually do that. Years ago when this was more of a community we had what we called the Carolina boys. There is a trust issue initially but we slowly built hobby friendships. We have exchanged emails , phone numbers and even met when in town and had a cup a joe or a beer. I think I have more phone numbers for guys than for ladies. And it isnt a bad thing.
One advantage is the back channeling. You read a review and that is official but there is a story behind the story. And it can be a good thing. The boards introduced us and from there we made some great friendships.
Have you ever pmd a reviewer to find out more info??? Some guys are asses and wont give ya the time of day, but others will let you know the rest of the story. And when you find someone with the same taste as you then you can really hobby
I too would enjoy a face to face gab session about the hobby to share experiences. I have established some good relationships through pm and shared e mails. I have even suggested a lunch with a couple of guys but there was no interest.
Oh? Some of us went to a strip club together. Talk about hobby fun.
good luck talking with other guys to get the "rest of the story" ---- never run into an ass .... yet !!
There wasnt any real asses back then. Some stoopid guys maybe lol
I can understand the trust thing. Especially with the M+G issues that I have heard about. I have ben around since 03 but just not real active. I can see the advantage of a small social gathering and would like to explore that . I just decided not to backchannel right now because you can not cut and paste verbal communication, and there are too many WK around here and middle school type cliques.
You have been MIA most of the six months I have been active. good to here from you.
VIP going to drop for about a week here, but I will renew. I keep telling my self that my life will not always suck
good day and good week
Yeah I went MIA for a long time. The people on the board seemed to have a shift change. Steph and Julia seem to me the only mainstays that are still posting. There are some trickles from others but nothing like there was.
feel your pain about wanting to share some experiences about the gentleman we have seen.
We have these boards here but there's nothing like being able to chat with your girlfriend and let loose over a few drinks but it is a DISCREET LIFESTYLE and one must keep things on the low unless just speaking in general.
It is nice to savor those moments you have had and then explore them even more with that woman that has that magic touch
with anyone other than some "hobby" friends made via the board. I knew it going in, however, that "Hobbywood" was my private escape from the real world. Everyone in my "real world" circles would be shocked ...... probably like yours. So, I just smile to myself and enjoy the memories made with Hobby friends.