Hello, I am completely new to the hobby and therefore do not have any references or experience. I was wondering what suggestions you guys could give as far going about getting references? I've been hearing about preferred411 as a reference. Should i do that? Will that pass? Also, does anyone know of any newbie friendly providers? Im in the raleigh area. Thanks for any help.
Ladies here in RDU that are newbie friendly. As long as you are prepared to give us the info we need to feel comfortable seeing you, its not a huge problem. P411 IS good and will probably help with most ladies, however, be prepared to give the info the lady needs. Some ladies will accept your P411 and need nothing else, some will accept your P411 and STILL need more info. Each lady is different, so therefore, each of us have different comfort levels.
Good luck in your search and Welcome to the "hobby"!
Great! Thank you for the great information!
First make sure in your own mind you want to do this. I have seen several cases posted on the TER General and Newbie board of buyers remorse. I am not judging you or others, just a little warning.
Next, do all of this, but be diligent and take no short cuts.
1. Read the self help center, it is found under the life preserver icon near the top right of the page.
2. While you are reading, go over to the newbie board and introduce yourself. Tell them in that first message that you are doing the first step, that will save "swimtreker" the host from suggesting that. You will find men and women there that will be gentle , like Katymarie was, unlike the General board which can be brutal.
3.Do not follow what I did, but select one lady at a time, research her and reach out to her. Be patient, it may take her a little while to verify you and be comfortable with you.
4. Research means to read her reviews and ALL of her web site. Do not, in general, contact her until you are ready and understand her requirements.
5. Select a well reviewed lady. To me this means six to ten minimum reviews, with most reviews by reviewers that have ten or more reviews posted.
6. Don't be in a rush or bargain hunt. By this I mean that in your area you may need to expect to spend a significant part of $1k for a two hour date. I would not do less than 1.5 hours, two is better for the first.
I know this seems like a lot but it really is not. Once you two have taken care of the details, relax and let her do her job. Take care of your emotions because if you do not you might fall in love. These ladies can make you believe you are the best ever and you might forget how you met her (lol).
Have fun and come back here and let us know how it goes, within the rules of course.
