you start with training wheels and your daddy running alongside of you and work your way up from there.
Seriously, there are million stories out there of things that have gone wrong in a hurry. rip-offs and worse, and about people on both sides of the equation who were outed, threatened or harassed. Start with a no-exceptions policy about references, follow-up on every reference, and if there is a handle on this board or elsewhere, let your fingers and keyboard do the work and check out both the subject and the source of the references. Don't apologize for doing it...hard-to-get has been a turn on since the Garden of Eden. Likewise, be a stickler about what must not be mentioned in communications...anybody who isn't a complete moron knows why that rule exists. Someday you may get to the point where you have a more-developed gut instinct about these things and consider other ways to confirm who that is knocking at your door. Always trust your gut: an ER visit for a busted cheekbone courtesy of an violent asshat costs a lot more than politely declining an opportunity. Remember what your mama told you ( or should have): a guy will tell you anything to get into your pants. Play safe, buckle up every time and and don't text and drive at the same time
My preference to not take clients who do not have references is starting to take it's toll.
I get multiple inquires from men who are new to the hobby but I have to turn them down.
I do this because I just cannot find a way to verify them that makes me comfortable...
How do you do it?
Message me or email me or reply here but I'd really appreciate the help.
Thank you!
better clients, able to produce the necessary references. You already have a guaranteed date 
Well as a newbie still. I have talked to a certain well known provider and did something's to provide info. I provided 1.my ter handle 2. Company with a email sent from company email 3. Provided 2 forms of photo id scanned an sent from company email.
Things didn't work out with timing but seemed she was good with me after providing all of these quickly. I completely understand and don't blame you for being safe. Hope this helped.
who did what you described in your post and got caught by their company and fired. I realize the need for screening on both sides but when you give out that kind of information you make yourself a target and easily trackable. I also know of instances where a jealous or angry providers have contacted workplaces and or family to out someone. The risk is for both provider and hobbyist. Just think twice before you act. I could be costly.
One of the ladies agreed to help me. She is well reviewed and has a presence here. I provided her with photo ID and my address. I know many will say I gave too much, but it boils down to mutual trust. She has enough info that if the unthinkable would have happened her security, what ever it is, could find my house. Could I find her if she outed me? IDK. I had a wonderful time with a great lady, she seemed to trust my info. But you have to be comfortable.
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First I want to address Floyd......I have not been on this board very long and I do find it unfriendly at times. Floyd, you are a gentleman first and foremost and I thank you for that. WilmAlice, I see no ladies have answered your quest for help. This does sadden me.
I have been in the biz for about 10 years, Moonlighting of course. I am a Diamond member of www.datecheck.com, and I am a Life time member of Preferred 411.com. I have built websites for several ladies. I can go on and on about some things that I did for people or ladies in need. However this board is not very kind. I will send you a PM. One of my traits in life is bring out the best in the people I meet. However since the past few years have been unkind I am a bit cautious of whom I do share my experience with.
Consider this an honor. Kelley White
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I got a few pm's that suggest that I may know of try to find out where someone lives or other information. I go as far as I can to not know. If I do not know, I can not tell, either by mistake or on purpose.
This is how I am, Several years ago, before my old reviews were deleted when the agencies closed I found a lady on another site. Searched her number online and found her Face book, her work place and home address and her real name. It all popped up in a Google search. No reviews were found. I deleted the search history and moved on. I do not want the responsibility of keeping that big of a secret.
OTOH I do not have friends that I discuss this with. Anything shared with me will take a Court order to get it from me. Be safe and keep on smiling
you start with training wheels and your daddy running alongside of you and work your way up from there.
Seriously, there are million stories out there of things that have gone wrong in a hurry. rip-offs and worse, and about people on both sides of the equation who were outed, threatened or harassed. Start with a no-exceptions policy about references, follow-up on every reference, and if there is a handle on this board or elsewhere, let your fingers and keyboard do the work and check out both the subject and the source of the references. Don't apologize for doing it...hard-to-get has been a turn on since the Garden of Eden. Likewise, be a stickler about what must not be mentioned in communications...anybody who isn't a complete moron knows why that rule exists. Someday you may get to the point where you have a more-developed gut instinct about these things and consider other ways to confirm who that is knocking at your door. Always trust your gut: an ER visit for a busted cheekbone courtesy of an violent asshat costs a lot more than politely declining an opportunity. Remember what your mama told you ( or should have): a guy will tell you anything to get into your pants.
Play safe, buckle up every time and and don't text and drive at the same time
... feel free to email me or PM.
Just incase the ladies forget, get on the PO board as soon as you can. There you can ask questions without us (men) butting in.
I really appreciate all of your advice and help!
I'm certainly not into taking unnecessary risks. I'd rather just stay home.
I'll take the help where I can get it so again, thank you all!