Well said!! We are on the same page 
One can read my previous post on this thread !
The thread below got me thinking about how often providers reach out to a client after a date to thank them. In other businesses, it's common for the businessperson to send a "thank you" email (or sometimes snail mail) after a business transaction, especially after one that could lead to repeat business. I do this myself after meeting with a client, to thank them for their time and often following up with some info I think could be useful to them.
So ladies, how about it... how often do you reach out to your clients (the ones you'd want to see again, of course) to thank them following a date? This could be in any form that's ok with both you and the client--email, PM, text etc. And to be clear, I don't mean just replying to a post-date communication from the client.
Flip side... how often do you "hobbyists" get a "thank you" follow up from providers... again, something they send to you after a date before you reach out to them.
I'll give my experience later... I'd like to see what others have to say first.
It's not that common even when you do something kind and out of the ordinary for them. I caulk it up to youth and a lack of "business" sense. I remember having a conversation about this very subject with a new provider and her response was,"Fuck that! They (clients) should be thanking me!!" It's baffling, but that's the attitude.
but I'm, not sure if providers realize how close they get to NOT being contacted for an appointment.
I think it's mainly because there are too many guys who would abuse that, and keep texting, calling or emailing past the "thank you" communication. Too bad, because that takes away from those of us who understand the dynamic and who would simply reply "thank you as well" and not contact her again until it's time to arrange for another date.
I used to do this a lot, but then clients started using it as an "in" to carry on with excessive emails or texting. I always,always thank my clients face-to-face at the end of a date; I appreciate that they've decided to spend their time and dollars with me. There are some clients that I send follow-up emails to, like new clients that I have an exceptionally great time with, or those that are repeat/regular clients. But every client that walks through the door? That doesn't happen anymore.
Perhaps I'll reinstate doing this again and see how it pans out, but my gut instinct tells me that follow-up emails shouldn't be sent out to everyone automatically
I agree that I get a "thank you" email or text maybe one of of every ten times I see a new girl, but I think that a big part of why many women don't do this the "we pay them to go away" factor.
Personally, I will admit I like getting such messages, but I hardly expect to get them and I am willing to bet a lot of guys prefer not to get them at all.
...communication that they don't initiate first. Better safe than sorry.
I've taken all 3 provider-initiated texts as tremendous compliments...I can see where some guys would resent the intrusion but in my case byall means intrude away!
That make sense, but a PM here or on 411 is nice to get.
I'm 3 out of 5...
but it was after I sent them an email thanking THEM for an off the charts connection. I've only had that kind of experience with 2 providers. I've seen them many times in the past 10 yrs. because we share a special friendship.
I think this is a great topic! For myself, in the spirit of discretion, my clients know and can trust, I will Never initiate a text message or email first. But I always respond promptly when I receive one. And as MissErin said she does, I always thank my clients for choosing to spend their time with me upon leaving since I know they have lots of amazing options! I think it also depends on what they have shared about their personal life as to whether they want me to check in with them or not inbetween meetings.... I love my clients and I have a huge respect for the boundaries that this hobby requires.....
Normally I don't make any mention of it, but if I do really hit it off with a provider, I often will make mention that I am single and I not only don't mind unsolicited texts and emails, but that i would welcome them is she is so inclined. I do leave it at that however and let any her initiate any conversations we mght have. it's my way of knowing that she too is interested in conversing and not just being polite to a paying customer
Session was bad.
I recently had the most amazing first date and recieved a nice text the next morning.
She knew i had a hobby cell and i thought that was very nice.
Made me feel good. Confident! Lol
Now that said, etiquette is kind of leave you alone after so nothing wrong with discreet
Those guys are keepers.
"Thank you so much [insert name of client] for being showered, cumming in record time and leaving as quickly as possible."
I send thank-you notes even if I don't want to see the guy again. It's just a good business practice.
The one time I didn't was actually a few weeks ago. The guy acted very odd (disinterested and aloof) during our appointment...he didn't want any GFE activities, left early, and was (seemed) very rude to me when leaving. I thought he really had a terrible time and felt that it would be better just to leave him alone. (He emailed back a few days later to say he had a great time and wanted to schedule again. Still trying to figure that one out...)
I try to do it when I get home, or at the latest, the next morning
you (or any provider) would send a thank-you message to someone you didn't want to see again. If I were in that position, I would not initiate any other contact with such a person. I don't understand how it's good business practice to thank a client you never want to see again.
I think that it's good business to be nice as possible to a client, even if I don't want to see him again.
Thank you notes/post-date communication is part of my particular service, as I define it. I'll at least give him the same service that everyone else gets. I don't want to give him any reason to find me lacking, or feel that something was missing... I don't want to give him the impression that he wasn't appreciated (even if he didn't deserve to be), because then he might give me bad backchannel or write a bad review. Hobbyland is a very small world. Better just to keep things friendly and civil...then, just always be busy when/if he emails.
unless I know it's genuine. I always know when it is. So far there have only been 2. Most of the time it's just a perfunctory business formality
send a thank you email(hobby email never work email),pm,or a message via P411.
But never by text or by calling for discretion purposes
I usually send the message right after the date very short thank you.
Most gents respond and I have some who have not responded.I thought maybe they did not have a good time but I have seen them after.So maybe some guys appreciate the messages and some read it and could care less.Then there have been more than a few times where guys have reached out first before I could send thank you.
so much fun together and we met again the next day. She hears from me every once in a while and on occasion, though not often responds to a note. we're in different cities which may be a blessing
So ladies, how about it... how often do you reach out to your clients (the ones you'd want to see again, of course) to thank them following a date? This could be in any form that's ok with both you and the client--email, PM, text etc. And to be clear, I don't mean just replying to a post-date communication from the client.
Flip side... how often do you "hobbyists" get a "thank you" follow up from providers... again, something they send to you after a date before you reach out to them.
I'll give my experience later... I'd like to see what others have to say first.
I get a text and or send a text .. there's almost always a commncation..
Whether i send the message first or not depends on how the hobbyist and i communicated (email or txt) .. whether it was in call or outcall.. and whether they beat me to the punch or not.
(I cant always send an email so fast if Im leaving a large casino and need to communicate via email.)
the other 1% are clients I wouldnt see again... thtere's always going to be a few jackasses who just irritate me enough to never speak to them again. But those are serious jackasses (need blacklisting types
It's not that I don't appreciate those who choose to spend time with me, it's just that a significant aspect of this sort of arrangement is discretion. I would hate to initiate contact and be met with a reply from a disgruntled s/o or some other awkward scenario. Because of this, I always make sure to express my gratitude during the encounter and once again at the end...
On the other hand, I'd say maybe 90% of my appointments are followed up with a thank you email from my clients, usually within 12 hours and I always reply to these. I don't know if you all know how much most ladies appreciate this gesture, but we really do. There's something so satisfying in knowing that someone you met with the previous night is still thinking about you the next day, so if I don't say it enough, I'll say it again here to all my paramours:
Thank you, darling. I can't wait to see you again soon. xoxo
On the one hand, you say "There's something so satisfying in knowing that someone you met with the previous night is still thinking about you the next day... ". But you never share this thought with any client on the day after.
Here's a way to send a thank-you, with discretion. You said you express your gratitude at the end of each encounter (which is a nice touch!). How about you ask at that time, if you've not asked before, if the client would be ok with your sending him/her a communication in the future, and if so what form is preferred? Discretion is maintained, and you can then send a thank-you if the client is ok with it and you wish to do it.
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Well said!! We are on the same page One can read my previous post on this thread !
I never take them seriously, just at most a sign of good will. Its all business.
after a visit, I send my special friend a quick note telling her how much I enjoyed our time together. I think it important to show sincere appreciation. She replies with a thoughtful note back.
Nothing wrong with trying to make someone you are fond of smile.
I don't want to be a pain in the ass with flooding in boxes with unwanted dialog, so I am careful. But there is a small subset of ladies I see where for sure I reach out with a thank you, or sometimes they do. And there is only one where I get the odd text, checking in on me. She knows I have a way she can contact me that is 100% discreet with no chance for embarrassment. So I am good with that, and like hearing from her. I have seen her many times, and this relationship is a little deeper than what I normally experience.
The kind of communication that makes a difference, is when it goes beyond the obvious 'just business' almost obligatory follow up to a thank you. Stuff like her being super pissed about the Patriots winning the super bowl, and me rubbing it in. And her just hammering me till I shut up about it. Or asking for opinions on car purchases, which has also happened. When there is a glimpse into the real person behind the persona, and we just treat each other like real people, I end up feeling that small amounts of communication are appreciated. In fact, it helps to keep me coming back.
A wide range of opinions and preferences here, from "always" to "never" for providers, and lots of variation on the client side also. And although I didn't ask about sending thank-you's to providers, interesting stuff there too.
I've had 2 providers initiate a contact with me after a date to say thank you. Both were texts. One included an apology for talking too much at the beginning of the date (which wasn't a problem, she was fascinating to talk with) and the other was a simple, sweet thank you. OTOH, I almost always send a thank-you to the provider a day or two after the date. I don't do it if I know the provider doesn't like communications like that (rare in my experience) or it wasn't a good experience (also very rare for me). And almost always the provider responds in kind. If she doesn't respond, I take it as a hint that she doesn't like or have time for that kind of communication.
I've always wondered why more providers don't send thank you's to their clients--specifically me--after dates. If they'd had a bad experience with me, I'd understand the lack of a thank-you, but I've never had any provider turn me down for 2nd and later dates and I've been told by several providers that I'm a "perfect" client (but maybe they tell every client that LOL).
This thread has given me insight as to why there aren't more thank-you's sent, and for that... I thank you!
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