t basically anyone in their 20's. It's like they were born glued to their cell phones.
It's kind of sad, reallyThere is one lady that I see regularly. She always has her phone with her and sometimes it gets a bit on my nerves how she is always texting and such. I have spent a lot of time with her and when she puts it down and gives me her full attention things are just wonderful. Have thought about asking her to put it away at some points but just haven't yet. I did ask her once if she has ever challenged herself to go without her phone for a day and she just said something like "no, you know me. I couldn't do that". I do have to give it to her that the first few times I saw her she did not pay the phone much attention. Of course those were just hour visits. Now we usually go get lunch or dinner and spend a few hours at least together each time.
Just wondering if anyone had any thoughts on this subject.
...but she shouldn't be using her phone in front of you. If you're on a lunch/dinner date, she can at least pay you the courtesy of going to the restroom to check her phone, or waiting until you leave to do so.
I've been known to forget to put my phone on "do not disturb", and I'll apologize for the disruption and switch it over. But texting throughout a date? I could see if she needs to do a safety check, but not too much outside of that.
If it's an overnight/extended period of time, I think it's reasonable to discuss phone usage/time to attend to other business and set aside time for that to happen. I don't expect my client's life to stop simply because we are spending that much time together; i would hope the same courtesy be extended to me.
t basically anyone in their 20's. It's like they were born glued to their cell phones.
It's kind of sad, really
Other hobbyists?
If you are paying for time and companionship she absolutely should be all about you.
There are many other better professionals out there.
If I hear the cell phone go off once on a date im on, i will not repeat.
Move on..
First you ask if the provider in question was communicating with family (indicating that would be acceptable to you) then you go to to say:
Move on...
Which is it?
During long, extended dates I sometimes leave my personal phone on, but will only check it if I hear a certain ringtone or alert. Yet, it can still be heard. Is that so unreasonable?
There have even been occasions when a date and I just got so hot & heavy the second he walked in the door that I neglected to turn off my work phone. Yeah, it makes noise. I ignore it and then when we both come up for air, I'll grab it and turn it off. 
Are these instances really such unforgivable transgressions?
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Well of course,
The OP at least made it sound like it was constant and distracting to the date.
I've been with many where it is not only distracting but them working on their phone is annoying.
I guess that is what I was referring to.
My hobby phone goes off quite as bit to. LOL I leave it in the car during the date.
And yes, family / kids are exceptions for me.
As far as I am concerned if I am off the clock I will do whatever I want with my phone or anything else for that matter. On the clock...no problem leaving it alone. but I only do hour appointments. If it were longer dates I would at least check it in the bathroom if I was being paid the entire time.
being used while she calls and/or texts on her phone?
If so that is not too cool it should be put away unless it is an emergency.
If it is OTC well...while it is still a bit rude to be wrapped up in your phone at least it is not on your cost.
I would just tell her can you please put your phone away during our time together unless it is an emergency.
I know we all like to do multiple things on our phones but there is a time and place for that and certainly not in the middle of an appt even with a regular.
Just my .0
I'm 20, part of the millennial generation glued to their phones, yet I have no trouble setting it aside during a date, even a multi-hour or overnight date. The only reason I'd touch it would be to change the Pandora station for mood music, or to set an alarm on an overnight date if neither of us were morning people (I'm not, so I rely on my partner to wake me up on overnights, otherwise I'd sleep until noon!).
Sounds like you need to have a talk with her. All too many people, providers and clients alike, start to feel entitled during dates with people they've known a while. I had a long term client that I recently had to cut loose, because he started asking for discounts all the time, staying over time, showing up very late to our dates, and getting way too personal (wanted me to invite him to my graduation, where all my friends/family and uhm, *legal name* would be). Likewise, many providers start slacking on their end. They might feel they don't have to "perform" as much, dress up or do their hair/makeup as nice, etc. Taking the "Girlfriend Experience" a bit too literally.
I'd suggest gently reminding her that she's on the clock, and that you're making a significant investment and would appreciate it if she could dedicate her full attention to you while you're together.
I think one of the confusing things in this situation is that the line of the client/provider relationship has become a bit blurred. We never discuss time or money anymore. We usually will have lunch or dinner and then spend whatever time we can together until one of us has to go. I always take care of her even when it is not expected and she always tells me how much she appreciates me. We have also gotten to know each other pretty well on a personal level so I guess it's somewhat like we are friends. As for what she does on the phone it seems to be a mix of family, friends, and others. Many times she will tell me what is going on. She is pretty good to me and I know I am good to her. Just ocassionally the phone gets me so I thought I'd throw it out there.
Guess I've got a pretty good thing going over all...
If there is no real boundary on the clock and off the clock, how can you expect her to not touch her phone if hours go by? If she is decent enough to allow that much latitude, how about you go that extra inch and allow her some?
May have given the wrong impression. I don't expect her to not touch her phone at all. And I think we both allow a lot of latitude to the other. Just gets a little much every so often. Guess it would be similar to going out on a civie date and the other person is always checking thier phone or texting. Would start to get to anyone. Like I said earlier, when I have her full attention things are wonderful. Was just throwing it out for thought. It's all good.
No matter the rapport you may have established (pretty apparent it is one way) with your ATF...........this IS a business and you ARE the client. If she did not turn off her phone as soon as our appointment began..........there would be NO second appointment
There does not seem to be an on the clock, off the clock time boundary. Given that, hey she can use her phone. Otherwise set the on the clock boundary and if the time is off the clock, she can do cartwheels if she feels like it because she is not being paid to perform.