We all know hygiene is important. A provider may see multiple clients a day. I know some providers may not have time to clean themself between clients. How to politely ask the provider to clean herself, or even take a shower? She might be upset if I ask. I can make sure I am clean, but I want to make sure she is also clean.
We all know hygiene is important. A provider may see multiple clients a day. I know some providers may not have time to clean themself between clients. How to politely ask the provider to clean herself, or even take a shower? She might be upset if I ask. I can make sure I am clean, but I want to make sure she is also clean.
Of course anything can be done politely so during screening you can express that upon arrival you would like both parties to take a shower for you to feel comfortable.
If you are so repulsed by providers (whorephobic), then why exactly are you booking appointments? You are making a lot of sweeping generalizations and assumptions.
I am not whorephobic. I have no problem to taste whatever the whore has. I just try to avoid to taste whatever left from the other guy.
Posted By: AnastasiaKane
If you are so repulsed by providers (whorephobic), then why exactly are you booking appointments? You are making a lot of sweeping generalizations and assumptions.
Well first you say providers don't have time between clients to wash up and then you say providers do have time but they purposely don't wash between clients. I mean, which is it? Your prejudice is confusing even you.
Dear Ms. Kane: Would you say the approach when bringing up the subject of hygiene is one that you should always approach tactfully? Also would you broach the subject as a suggestion and initiate it with yourself taking a shower and saying I would appreciate it if you would join me? Just trying to get a woman's point of view.
Yes, I believe so. Certain cultures prefer to shower beforehand and I completely respect that. However, it seems a bit rude to insinuate that providers are unclean. I don't mind taking showers with clients but usually they are regulars and I put my hair up and have no make up on.
Water inevitably splashes and can ruin makeup and soak your hair/make it a tangled mess. This is why most providers probably prefer to shower prior to the client arriving.
I usually have a shower cap, someone, I don't remember who, needed one and now I need to buy a few more. I buy toothbrushes by the dozen. Keep lot of girly body washes in the shower and usually offer (sometimes)but only my regular providers have used my shower. Go figure.
Posted By: AnastasiaKane
Yes, I believe so. Certain cultures prefer to shower beforehand and I completely respect that. However, it seems a bit rude to insinuate that providers are unclean. I don't mind taking showers with clients but usually they are regulars and I put my hair up and have no make up on.
Water inevitably splashes and can ruin makeup and soak your hair/make it a tangled mess. This is why most providers probably prefer to shower prior to the client arriving.
I always take a shower in between dates. Always. And another after my last client of the day. Because guess what?
I LIKE to be clean AND don't want to smell like anyone other than myself. My dogs don't like it when I smell like someone else, either lol!
So while it's been years since I had someone ask me to shower in his presence to prove to him that I'm not (literally speaking) a dirty whore, I would decline as politely as possible. And then tell him that we're clearly not going to have a "love connection" (shout out to Chuck Woolery!!) so I'd like him to leave.
Other ladies will be more laid-back and perhaps even invite you to shower with them, but to me that request just signals bad news.
Oh, and I don't take showers with clients unless it's an overnight date. Just personal preference.
Thank you Debbie. I appreciated you honest. That's the thing I try to avoid. But not every provider is like you.
Posted By: DebbieNoonerGirl
I always take a shower in between dates. Always. And another after my last client of the day. Because guess what?
I LIKE to be clean AND don't want to smell like anyone other than myself. My dogs don't like it when I smell like someone else, either lol!
So while it's been years since I had someone ask me to shower in his presence to prove to him that I'm not (literally speaking) a dirty whore, I would decline as politely as possible. And then tell him that we're clearly not going to have a "love connection" (shout out to Chuck Woolery!!) so I'd like him to leave.
Other ladies will be more laid-back and perhaps even invite you to shower with them, but to me that request just signals bad news.
Oh, and I don't take showers with clients unless it's an overnight date. Just personal preference.
You will find that Debbie is hardly in the minority.
Sorry, but this is just one of the risks you are going to have to take in this hobby. 90% of the women you will meet, unless of course you are doing $80 revolving door, BP specials, are going to be clean and fresh, but there are no guarantees. if this grosses you out, I guess you better start booking nothing but overnight dates. Or of course, you could stick with the Kgirls who start off every session with a mutual shower.
BTW getting the first appointment of the day is no guarantee. I hope this story doesn't chase you from the hobby, but it's a true story. I had a hooker GF a few years ago who I spent almost every night with, leaving in the morning either when I needed to be to the office or shortly before her first appointment of the day. Well one day she had a 7AM appointment show she got up at about six to start getting ready while I stayed in bed catching a few more z's. About 6:45 she starts waking my ass up to leave so she could go to work. Well I happened to be a bit hornier than usual that morning so I dragged her ass into bed with me, had my way with her, completely messed up her hair and makeup, and didn't leave until about right at 7 AM with her morning appointment already having texted her that he was downstairs. Do you REALLY think she had time for a shower?
Oh, and to make you feel even better about this, we had stopped using a condom months before this, I wonder if he was able to taste the difference?
Enjoy your next date and remember there are no guarantees in life.
Thank you for the reply. I am wondering probably everybody stay in this hobby long enough might has the opportunity to taste body fluid from other guys just like whore did.
Posted By: GaGambler
You will find that Debbie is hardly in the minority.
Sorry, but this is just one of the risks you are going to have to take in this hobby. 90% of the women you will meet, unless of course you are doing $80 revolving door, BP specials, are going to be clean and fresh, but there are no guarantees. if this grosses you out, I guess you better start booking nothing but overnight dates. Or of course, you could stick with the Kgirls who start off every session with a mutual shower.
BTW getting the first appointment of the day is no guarantee. I hope this story doesn't chase you from the hobby, but it's a true story. I had a hooker GF a few years ago who I spent almost every night with, leaving in the morning either when I needed to be to the office or shortly before her first appointment of the day. Well one day she had a 7AM appointment show she got up at about six to start getting ready while I stayed in bed catching a few more z's. About 6:45 she starts waking my ass up to leave so she could go to work. Well I happened to be a bit hornier than usual that morning so I dragged her ass into bed with me, had my way with her, completely messed up her hair and makeup, and didn't leave until about right at 7 AM with her morning appointment already having texted her that he was downstairs. Do you REALLY think she had time for a shower?
Oh, and to make you feel even better about this, we had stopped using a condom months before this, I wonder if he was able to taste the difference?
Enjoy your next date and remember there are no guarantees in life.
Nice ... thanks for adding to the whoreaphobia here. Poor bastard was probably thinking, "Wow, she's really wet!"
Posted By: GaGambler
You will find that Debbie is hardly in the minority.
Sorry, but this is just one of the risks you are going to have to take in this hobby. 90% of the women you will meet, unless of course you are doing $80 revolving door, BP specials, are going to be clean and fresh, but there are no guarantees. if this grosses you out, I guess you better start booking nothing but overnight dates. Or of course, you could stick with the Kgirls who start off every session with a mutual shower.
BTW getting the first appointment of the day is no guarantee. I hope this story doesn't chase you from the hobby, but it's a true story. I had a hooker GF a few years ago who I spent almost every night with, leaving in the morning either when I needed to be to the office or shortly before her first appointment of the day. Well one day she had a 7AM appointment show she got up at about six to start getting ready while I stayed in bed catching a few more z's. About 6:45 she starts waking my ass up to leave so she could go to work. Well I happened to be a bit hornier than usual that morning so I dragged her ass into bed with me, had my way with her, completely messed up her hair and makeup, and didn't leave until about right at 7 AM with her morning appointment already having texted her that he was downstairs. Do you REALLY think she had time for a shower?
Oh, and to make you feel even better about this, we had stopped using a condom months before this, I wonder if he was able to taste the difference?
Enjoy your next date and remember there are no guarantees in life.
A trick who tried that whoreaphobic attitude would be asked to leave OR as court suggested, take a freaking long ass shower or bath and take it off his time.
and almost every one of them takes a shower before the session and then again after the session, and these are "bar girls" that a lot of people here would look down on.
I think a lot of people enjoy looking down their noses at others.
Well except in your case in regards to SW's, it's tough to take a shower before a "car date" I suppose
i always find the best approach is to be sweet as honey. "would you be willing to do me a huge favor? is there any chance you could hop in the shower for a quick rinse?"
IMO, concern about hygiene goes both ways. any woman who would be upset that a client considered a request to shower an affront should be equally willing to wash up themselves.
i don't see multiple clients in a day, or even in a week, so this isn't really a concern for me any longer.
just bear in mind that if you ask her to take a shower, she likely *will* count it against your time together. if you want to know for sure, ask.
Which is why you had better jump in the shower with her to control the time, or 45 minutes later she'll be getting ready to head out the door for her next appointment, "Wish I could stay, Babe! ... you have a great shower ... call me"
Posted By: butterflydust
i always find the best approach is to be sweet as honey. "would you be willing to do me a huge favor? is there any chance you could hop in the shower for a quick rinse?"
IMO, concern about hygiene goes both ways. any woman who would be upset that a client considered a request to shower an affront should be equally willing to wash up themselves.
i don't see multiple clients in a day, or even in a week, so this isn't really a concern for me any longer.
just bear in mind that if you ask her to take a shower, she likely *will* count it against your time together. if you want to know for sure, ask.
Any woman who would be upset that a client considered a request to shower an affront should be equally willing to wash up themselves.
I'm not one to ask my clients to shower. The only time I might is if he's wearing a strong cologne, aftershave or body spray, as I'm allergic to scents, perfumes, and fragrances of all sorts.
Just recently one of my good regular friends had doused himself in Aramis prior to arrival and explained that he was unable to wash it off. OK. I took an antihistamine and let it go. Later, I also had to apply hydrocortisone, but I did not get "upset" nor will I mention it to him again. Henceforth, I'll simply take my allergy meds prior to his arrival. LOL.
To me, and speaking from my own personal experiences with these situations, when a client wants me to shower in his presence that means he is either too uptight for he and I to click well; or he really does think I'm a dirty whore. Surprisingly enough, I have no desire to spend time with someone of the latter mind-set. :-P
Aramis was my father's cologne of choice. he passed away 18 years ago ... so i'd probably ask a friend to get in the shower, too; not because the scent is offensive, but because it's very emotionally evocative for me.
to take a shower. If they smell, I sure do or lie like a rug and get them to leave. This guy wants to ask any hooker to take a shower, it seems even if they small fine...he did not make that distinction. And for sure take it off his time.
If I ask her to take the shower, no matter how I say it, it will show some disrespect to her. Nobody is stupid. Just like I am not stupid enough to believe whatever the provider said to me. I think I might just choose to don't think about it.
Find someone who is willing to talk or email a little bit about the date you'd most like. Be clear that what you want to relate is not graphic, explicit or fetish-related. Perhaps write it as a short story?
IDK, but my point is to pitch it as a "Shower Fantasy" where you join her to sensually lather her up (do NOT insert soap or soapy fingers into her vag!) as nothing gets you more excited than a hot, soapy wet woman, and then afterwards you want to towel her off and carry her gently to the bed for sweet, sweet love-making!
No? Not gelling with how you view, and like to treat, "whores"? Damn.... I could actually get into that one.
Then perhaps a "Shower Show" (a strip club where I once worked offered that) where she sexily lathers up while you watch....Hell, you might even get her to do a little shower-nozzle masturbation for ya..... not bad, right??
While neither of these are a direct approach, it IS a way to get the assurance that she is freshly showered and clean.
Well, now that I've managed to turn myself on with that imagery, it's off for a little shower-nozzle time of my own! Heheheheh.
Watching a woman bathe is a huge turn on. I never dared communicate that predate. Personally I never had a provider not smell fresh, if did I would likely walk. But have asked for mutual showers, and to watch her shave in bathe. It is a huge turn on. But I usually don't do so on the first date. Did it once and she took me wrong and the whole date was awkward after. And I never got my show. I have turned a few ladies do you want to rinse off into fun bath time by saying half jokingly "Yes, especially if you join me. Now that sounds fun." while smiling. Sadly a few say no and I shower alone.
Of course it's guessing. But I highly suspicious this happened to one of my favoraite provider. I am 99.99% sure that the prior client just left. And her private tastes and smells differently from before. I have no idea whether she took the shower of just simply wiped it. Of course she said I am the only client she saw in that day.
Posted By: hbyist+truth=;(
Or have you met a provider that needs a shower? Are you assuming that most providers see lots of guys or that they do not clean up before the next?
I don't think I am much cleaner than a whore. We are in the same boat. As for hygiene, this is mutual. I am not talking to a specific provider here. But this thing did happen.
Posted By: hbyist+truth=;(
Or have you met a provider that needs a shower? Are you assuming that most providers see lots of guys or that they do not clean up before the next?
Just read more of your posts...quit now. Hookers don't need to see the likes of you if you think "whores" are dirty filthy beings.
....I never thought this might be the real reason why! That they think maybe I didn't clean myself well enough.
I always politely refuse the shower suggestion because I surely just took one.
I, too, always shower before a client, taking care to thoroughly clean the "most important" parts. I also will have just done my hair and makeup. So I don't want to mess that up in the shower.
Plus, a regular-sized shower like mine is too small to do anything really fun in there.
When I "offer" a provider the use of my shower or ask if she wants to "freshen up", I'm just being polite. You probably don't smell like a homeless person (or I'd decline the date), but if you drove awhile and smoked 3 or 4 cigarettes on the way here ... that piece of gum isn't going to cut it. I'm surprised at the number of providers who decline.
Posted By: Provider4U
....I never thought this might be the real reason why! That they think maybe I didn't clean myself well enough.
I always politely refuse the shower suggestion because I surely just took one.
I, too, always shower before a client, taking care to thoroughly clean the "most important" parts. I also will have just done my hair and makeup. So I don't want to mess that up in the shower.
Plus, a regular-sized shower like mine is too small to do anything really fun in there.
Step 2: If she goes into the bathroom to take a pee during an appt, don't say, "You girls make me shower, so I better hear the shower running so I know I"m not licking your pee"
*all while I'm about to pee - that can be stressful - to know a guy is listening to you take a pee - and while I'm pulling out this wonderful cleansing towelette that cleans all the crevices of a vagina, and anywhere else the trinkets of potty water may have splashed... also way less irritating than the soap you have in your bathroom, for more comfortable, fresh sex. Probably also more sanitary and better after taste. lol.*
These go a LONG way. If you are supremely afraid of dirt, and it's an outcall, leave a few of these on your counter - just like we leave mouthwash for you that most don't use, and the soap that never unwraps in the shower lol. The difference is, most providers will have their own sanitary things that work better than anything you could think of for freshening up. After all, us ladies have our secrets that work and clean/freshen up all of the crevices of the private areas, including twat, clit, labia, legs, and ass/crack/hole after the 10-15 minutes of waiting for you to arrive so you can say, "I just freshly showered an hour ago".
Thanks, I'll add those to the FC2 and individual packets of lube I have ... GREAT idea!
Posted By: Courtney.Ova
Step 2: If she goes into the bathroom to take a pee during an appt, don't say, "You girls make me shower, so I better hear the shower running so I know I"m not licking your pee"
*all while I'm about to pee - that can be stressful - to know a guy is listening to you take a pee - and while I'm pulling out this wonderful cleansing towelette that cleans all the crevices of a vagina, and anywhere else the trinkets of potty water may have splashed... also way less irritating than the soap you have in your bathroom, for more comfortable, fresh sex. Probably also more sanitary and better after taste. lol.*
These go a LONG way. If you are supremely afraid of dirt, and it's an outcall, leave a few of these on your counter - just like we leave mouthwash for you that most don't use, and the soap that never unwraps in the shower lol. The difference is, most providers will have their own sanitary things that work better than anything you could think of for freshening up. After all, us ladies have our secrets that work and clean/freshen up all of the crevices of the private areas, including twat, clit, labia, legs, and ass/crack/hole after the 10-15 minutes of waiting for you to arrive so you can say, "I just freshly showered an hour ago".
I found these Healthy Hoo Hoo's ... Too much?? I do like the name better.
Thanks, I'll add those to the FC2 and individual packets of lube I have ... GREAT idea! And I found them on Amazon.
Posted By: Courtney.Ova
Step 2: If she goes into the bathroom to take a pee during an appt, don't say, "You girls make me shower, so I better hear the shower running so I know I"m not licking your pee"
*all while I'm about to pee - that can be stressful - to know a guy is listening to you take a pee - and while I'm pulling out this wonderful cleansing towelette that cleans all the crevices of a vagina, and anywhere else the trinkets of potty water may have splashed... also way less irritating than the soap you have in your bathroom, for more comfortable, fresh sex. Probably also more sanitary and better after taste. lol.*
These go a LONG way. If you are supremely afraid of dirt, and it's an outcall, leave a few of these on your counter - just like we leave mouthwash for you that most don't use, and the soap that never unwraps in the shower lol. The difference is, most providers will have their own sanitary things that work better than anything you could think of for freshening up. After all, us ladies have our secrets that work and clean/freshen up all of the crevices of the private areas, including twat, clit, labia, legs, and ass/crack/hole after the 10-15 minutes of waiting for you to arrive so you can say, "I just freshly showered an hour ago".
just like we leave mouthwash for you that most don't use, and the soap that never unwraps in the shower lol.
Hay! I use the mouthwash and I often wonder about opening the brand new big bar of soap. Usually, I just wash with the shampoo or body wash that's in her shower / incall. At a hotel, I just unwrap a fresh tiny soap since I don't want to use the one with somebody else's hairs still stuck to it. Yuck. Toss it or flush it between dates, will ya?
The difference is, most providers will have their own sanitary things that work better than anything you could think of for freshening up. After all, us ladies have our secrets that work and clean/freshen up all of the crevices of the private areas, including twat, clit, labia, legs, and ass/crack/hole after the 10-15 minutes of waiting for you to arrive so you can say, "I just freshly showered an hour ago".
I don't do outcalls, but I always have Ajax and Brillo Scouring Pads handy for the tough stains
I want to thank you everbody who has spent time and replied this post. I also want to apologize for any words I used that has offended the providers. I have no intention to look down any lady friends here. I think I got my answer. You are all super clean. The problem is me, not you.
That's how you ask her exactly! That is very unprofessional for ANY lady in this line of work not to take a shower between appointment. If I have to ask a provider to take a shower, I'm sorry but I'm leaving! Are you crazy Papi, read between the lines. I hope she doesn't work during her time of the month the smell must be morbid. I'm always honest.
To answer your question, yes they do work, and they think we can't notice the smell. Here's a clue, if you can smell it...you bet your ass we can too
Posted By: RoxanneHeartNYC
That's how you ask her exactly! That is very unprofessional for ANY lady in this line of work not to take a shower between appointment. If I have to ask a provider to take a shower, I'm sorry but I'm leaving! Are you crazy Papi, read between the lines. I hope she doesn't work during her time of the month the smell must be morbid. I'm always honest.
To a hooker to say Asshole, take a shower" to a john standing right in front of her?
Trust me there are other ways...if any john said that to me, I would respectfully reply with "dick stain, there's the fucking door". Hey treat others as you would have them treat you
To shower I would probably be mortified. I have one client that I always use the shoer(actually bath) when I arrive but that is due to his allergies to smoke. When I come in I place my clothes in a bag and immediately shower. It protects him, and I get to keep a great client.
I don't ever shower with my clients due to my hair. I will enjoy a jetted bath with them but never a shower. I always let it be known that if you get it wet you are compensating me on everything that I have lost for the day. It's not that I am trying to be rude but being ethnic hair takes a lot longer to do. I can't just blow dry and straighten in an hour. It's a 4hour process that I usually do on the weekends in my free time.
I also work a job that I have flexibility with how long I am actually in my office. Most of the time during the week I am leaving work coming to see you then headed back to work afterwards. It would be really strange if I came back with wet hair.
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