" a slight stalking vibe"? You obviously don't know anything or what you are talking about. That's the last thing on my mind or that I'd ever do. Like the advise most people gave... I will and have just ignored her. I didn't get kicked to the curb or possessive. She was the one who contacted me and let me know her schedule asking if I was interested. Don't read things into something that's not there. And believe me, I was never under any subconconcious idea that is was anything other than business. Fun business but yes just business. What a douche!
I have a provider which I have seen regularly for awhile now. First time we met we hit it off. Always have a great time and even have friendly conversations outside hobby activities. Lately, she has cancelled three different times on me without much notice. I know things can happen out of one's control but it has happened repeatedly. Second time it happened I was still okay with it. The third time made me suspicious. I find out after the third cancellation that she had met with another individual instead and that the "excuse" was made up. I know this to be fact. Additionally, once we rescheduled, she cancelled saying she had to work at her other job that day. I am okay with that too except..I find out that really didn't happen either as she went out of town touring and happened to see someone I knew. I am perplexed with all the deception. I have already made a conscientious decision that I will not see her any longer or contact her again. Even though I get unsolicited emails from her. I am not mad, but I am also not a fool. Each person has to make their own decisions and live with them. So here is the question, should I let her know that I am aware of the false statements and that I know I was not being told the truth about canceling on me? Should I let her know that I am aware that she toured out of town and visited with someone we both know even though we had a scheduled appointment? Like I said, I am not mad just more irritated that you can not be an adult and tell the truth or lie and expect me to believe you over and over again. She will contact me again and then want to know whats wrong, why do I not email her anymore or try to set up an appointment. I just want others thoughts and ideas as to how you'd react and handle this. Thanks for listening and any advice!
you a bit. However, think about what good it would really do.
You have already made the decision (rightly, it sounds) to stop doing business with her. When her emails and calls no longer receive a response from you, she will figure it out.
If you do confront her, you don't know what might happen. Some unscrupulous providers have been known to blacklist gentlemen for less.
In this case, I think silence is your best option.
Ignore her, in fact if she doesn't get the hint either block her emails or MAYBE send her ONE email saying you don't think you two are on the same page anymore and you wish her well. But that's it!
xoxo,
Steph
A good lie deserves another.
I see Julia's point and I agree. Especially since I don't like being taken for a fool. I think Tabu is correct as well. There are some mean spirited people out there and even though I can play that game with the best of them, I don't have the time or inclination to do so. And OldTed, that was a good one! So, I think I will just ignore her, her emails, requests to get together, her texts, etc. That will send a message I know. And then, if I do have to confront her then she gets the message of " I know you lied to me" as Julia so wisely stated. And I'll finish it with OldTed's advice saying she was getting old and not really appealing anymore. I know that sooner or later she'll need the money and business and I am supposed to be the one who is always there. Not really too smart taking people for granted. It's like my father always used to tell me, " Shit on me once, shame on YOU; Shit on my twice shame on me!"
Again, thanks everyone.
A hypothetical example:
Say that I like a provider a lot and she has a very GFE persona. Eventually, we will part ways. I keep reminding myself that this is only a business relationship, but subconsciously want more, even though I know that's impossible for a long list of reasons. It's just business.
Frankly, I get a very slight "stalking" vibe out of your post. My regular had a stalker after she kicked him out of her regulars circle for getting too possessive. Luckily he got scared off when he was caught by one of us regulars. Stalkers scare the sh*t out of providers, and for good reasons. Careful.
She made some bad decisions in not being honest, and you can be honest about things like "I can't make the appointment on Friday.", even in this business. Time to for goodbye.
Don't answer, just fade away...
" a slight stalking vibe"? You obviously don't know anything or what you are talking about. That's the last thing on my mind or that I'd ever do. Like the advise most people gave... I will and have just ignored her. I didn't get kicked to the curb or possessive. She was the one who contacted me and let me know her schedule asking if I was interested. Don't read things into something that's not there. And believe me, I was never under any subconconcious idea that is was anything other than business. Fun business but yes just business. What a douche!
But all the signs are saying it's time to say goodbye.
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and spend your hard earned money elsewhere. You don't owe her an explanation. She already knows why. Besides, don't we hobby to avoid these sort of games?
that you are a standby at best, send her one....just ignore her texts...maybe even block them. Its over.
Would not even want her to have the satisfaction. Silence is golden. Actions speak louder than words. Better luck with your next liaison......Time to move on!