There are some hard limits I doubt I'd ever do, marks on my body, intense pain, sounding, BS. I did puppy play once and that felt weird since I do that when I play with little kids. It's not something I ever see myself doing again.
GS is a soft limit that I've thought of trying but haven't yet.
Hard limits are things I have no interest in doing or taking part in, full stop.
Soft limits are things that are challenging for me, but maybe a little intriguing and I'm open to exploring them with the right person(s) at the right time in the right headspace, on my terms.
Everyone's definition of these terms differ, which is why it's so important that clear discussion of likes and limits is placed at the forefront of every BDSM encounter.
Speaking as a dominant and top, I love encouraging people to explore things they may be a little afraid or nervous about, but I respect hard limits fully. If it's something you want to push yourself to do, it's not such a hard limit, is it?
Posted By: AllyVixen
Have you ever wanted to push yourself but been afraid to, As a Mistress, I would love to see some of your answers to this question.
Question:What are some of your hard limits that you've been wanting to push yourself to try?
I agree. As a Dom, I sometimes have a sub give me a lot of things as hard limits. I will then tell her that if those are really hard limits, I absolutely won't touch them. But maybe some are really soft limits; things you don't do often or haven't done at all but if you're in the mood you could possibly do. They usually move a lot of their hard limits to soft ones and I'll push one or two depending on how the play time goes.
There are some hard limits I doubt I'd ever do, marks on my body, intense pain, sounding, BS. I did puppy play once and that felt weird since I do that when I play with little kids. It's not something I ever see myself doing again.
GS is a soft limit that I've thought of trying but haven't yet.
I provide many services that other providers don't & won't. My subs are willing, and we discuss prior to play, so we are on the same page.
Caviar Dreams with forced consumption is pushing limits for me as a Mistress because it is a very intimate act between slave, and Goddess.
Having a devoted sub for 1, 2, 3, or more years is an example of pushing limits that I also cater too! I have had 1 loyal gent who has made me a very happy BDSM Queen for the past 3 years, this is a life-style.
Many of my hard limits are because I either know I don't enjoy them, or like marks I can't have them. So I don't have many, but don't have any desire to push them. Someone did once and I ended the session.
Soft limits, those I am hoping are pushed. Every session, as far as someone wants to push them.
Where in the world did you find this awesome pic? And is this drawing based on some real-life domme? And if so, how do I go about booking a session with her?
In my mind, hard limits are hard limits for a reason: They are totally "Nope, thanks, not gonna happen, no judgments are implied, and should not be inferred, but if this is something you truly want to do with your subs/clients, maybe we're just not a good fit."
I don't have too many hard limits, though. My no-go zones are basically no "showers" or human toilet play, no smoking fetish stuff, and no "forced bi" or cuckold/SPH/"I'm going to bring in my big black stud and have him fuck me while you watch and see what a 'real man' can do." (Although I'm ok with lez-cuckolding. Yeah, I know, hypocritical double standard....so shoot me...)
Nearly anything else is a soft limit for me. I was always ok with the concept of taking it from behind with a strap-on/vibe--in practice, I mostly found it to be a Pain In The Ass Over time though, a couple of my friends have been patient and "worked with me"--now it's generally an enjoyable part of playtime (when done with a skilled practitioner). Same things goes for sounding/medical/catheter play. Theoretically I was ok with it--but it's certainly not an activity to be entered into on a first session; much trust has to be built up before I'll do that with someone.
Nearly anything other than my hard limits? Yeah, I'm probably ok with at least trying it once--maybe twice to make sure
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Over time though, a couple of my friends have been patient and "worked with me"--now it's generally an enjoyable part of playtime (when done with a skilled practitioner). Same things goes for sounding/medical/catheter play. Theoretically I was ok with it--but it's certainly not an activity to be entered into on a first session; much trust has to be built up before I'll do that with someone.