I would want to know a head of time, but if you do show up before I ask you to leave I'd make you some tea, soup or something. I'm too nurturing lol. Proper thing to do is notify them before the encounter. I wouldn't be with someone that has a cold, personally. Health is everything.
What if I came down with a cold on the day of our meeting should I call, text, or email and tell you that I got a cold (which ever form of contact that works best for you)? Or should I just show up to prove to you that I do indeed have a cold. If I did just show up with a cold would you tell me to go home and get some rest, or would just not allow kissing and go through with the session?
I for one would not want to open a door to a provider that has a cold or is not feeling well on the day of our date. I know I would rather hear from her before hand to see if I would still be interested in meeting her on that day or if I would like to reschedule our date.
It is that time of year after all.
I would want to know a head of time, but if you do show up before I ask you to leave I'd make you some tea, soup or something. I'm too nurturing lol. Proper thing to do is notify them before the encounter. I wouldn't be with someone that has a cold, personally. Health is everything.
To be notified in advanced, me being the lady I am, I love to pamper but in those circumstances my health must come first! I have no problems with rescheduling, which I think is the best solution.
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I always say
"Please cancel on me" if you are feeling sick.
...saying you have a cold, she could think it's BS. OTOH, if you show up with a cold to "prove" it, you've wasted the time she's scheduled for you and you may owe her for that time. She won't want to catch your cold which would put her out of commission for a while.
One time, I was sick as a dog with some flu-like virus. I even lost my voice a little- like I could only talk quietly. I saw my client anyway because he scheduled way in advance and was coming from out of state.
A few days later, he was like, "DAMNIT! I'm sick as a dog!" He probably would've appreciated me cancelling and I shouldve, but just didn't want to seem flaky. Lose/lose situation.
Ok, so it's a stupid solution as you can't control getting sick, but you are both right, it's a no win situation.
I have never had to cancel a session due to being sick, but I have been cancelled on a few times, and I have to confess there is always an element of doubt when someone cancels short notice due to being sick. I understand completely that it's a 100% valid excuse, but that lingering doubt usually manages to creep in anyhow.
I guess it's a matter of the lesser of two evils and I have to say cancelling is definitely the lesser of the evils, especially if you are highly symptomatic, there is nothing sexy about a coughing, hacking, feverish sex partner.
After all, if you are sick, I wouldn't want you to come all the way to prove anything. Your word is enough and I wouldn't ignore you after something like that. It happens, and it's better to be safe then sorry.
I saw one guy while my allergies were acting up. Something in the flea bag motel he got just really made it bad. He kept asking if I was sure I wasn't sick. Meanwhile, he smelled like curried asshole. Ever since I got real strict about which circumstances I would serve under.
I'm telling you, some cultures don't use toilet paper to wipe their ass. Just the left hand (preferably their own) and some water. Thus, the smell ..