I have only ever had 3 BDSM sessions and they were all with the same well-known mistress in my hometown, Atlanta.
This mistress is great, phenomenal...I never have any intentions to see another mistress. My question is based around what I could expect in the future. Before seeing this mistress, my only experience in the hobby was with full-on escorts. In the BDSM sessions, we have ended with me giving myself an HJ, her getting me off holding a vibrator on my dick, and last time with her using a strap-on on me while I give myself an HJ. So my question is to people with more experience than me... will my ejaculation likely ever evolve in these sessions to where she is giving me an hj, bj, or even full intercourse as she gets to trust me more? Or is that just not usually the way of the BDSM lifestyle? Is it completely inappropriate for me to ask her directly? She is perfect in my opinion and I will continue to see her no matter what, but gosh the thought that I may be able to have more sexual experiences with her just blows my mind and my secret hope is that one day might be possible. Thank you for any opinions on this matter!and they would be very happy to accommodate you up to and including FS.
But other BDSM gals are purists in this matter with some not even allowing the guy to find any sexual release at all.
There are many shades of gray, so to speak.
Ok thank you for your reply! If you know if any Atlanta bdsm ladies are in the GFE also boat, please let me know.
This girl
Why does "purist" BDSM typically preclude GFE or PSE? Apparently I'm not familiar enough with the psychology behind it. Is there an apparent contradiction of the sub / dom aspect with GFE/PSE?
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The line is established by the dominatrix. Decades ago, it was blurred. Then, an influx of college educated women--I know at least four professional dominatrices with post college degrees, including Mistress Psyche who has two PhD's and the former Mistress Anastasia who was a professional psychotherapist, set up the barrier. They told themselves: "GFE/PSE was prostitution, BDSM was role-playing." Artificial, but there it is. Plus, any sexual activity associated with BDSM brought in the police. In the early 2000's, Bloomberg's NYPD cracked down on commercial dungeons, sending in undercover police who arrested anyone in a dungeon when the undercover cop requested a sex.
I repeat, though to the original question: even with a professional dominatrix who will eschew GFE/PSE, after four or so sessions, she should be willing to give you release, either through a vibrator or with her hand. You should have developed that relationship, or the chemistry was never there.
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By the fourth session, you could expect her to bring you to completion either with her hand or with a vibrator/TENS/PES unit. You might ask respectfully. However, BJ, full intercourse--very doubtful unless she is also an escort. Professional dommes will often bring you off with either a handjob or with a vibrator or with a TENS/PES unit set at vibrations but more than that--no. Remember, they want to always be in control.
Every Domina is different.
It is always best to ask. Giving yourself a hj is no fun. lol
You are so right Madame. Giving your self a hj is no fun and expense if your sessioning UGH
A self HJ is such a letdown after a great BDSM session. That's the main reason that I have stopped seeing traditional pro dommes. I now primarily see kinky GFE providers and more open-minded dommes who are willing to help with my release.
Besides, it's so much fun to be restrained and have a beautiful lady mercilessly tease and milk your cock until you have to beg her to stop.
Giving yourself a HJ is fun, just not nearly as much fun as other things. 
If I had to choose, then 100% of the time I would choose even hugging someone else, platonically, over masturbation. Being intimate with other people is the greatest thing there is. However, in all fairness, when that's not a choice, I wouldn't say that masturbation isn't fun.
Absolutely correct. After four sessions, the answer should be different than on the initial session. If not, there will never be chemistry between the two.
I am an open-minded and extremely kinky as well as dominant GFE provider. I think that you will find exactly what you are looking for during your time with me. Please have a look at my reviews and my website, and I hope to hear from you soon.
xoxox
Tori
Defintely think you should ask just to see.
It's totally up to her, as you well know. Many Dommes do not have traditional sex with their clients and it has nothing to do with the ladies not trusting them enough. They just don't want to, which is why they aren't escorts. Yes, I believe it's inappropriate to ask her about it. IMO, if she wanted to do that with you she would initiate it. Of course, you could always choose someone that you KNOW is both kinky & willing to engage in full body contact 
I'm one that does both & it's awesome!
Speaking as a lady who did pro-domme work for a while, intercourse and oral were never on the table.
I crossed over into full-service land a while ago, so there's no boundary between bdsm and full service for me. Lots of pro-dommes have that specific boundary in place for a plethora of reasons.
If you're looking for that with this particular lady, it wouldn't hurt to ask. You've seen her a handful of times, so that shouldn't be too taboo of a topic (hopefully).
If she doesn't offer any type of GFE/PSE services with her bdsm sessions, I'd suggest looking to providers who specialize in kink and bdsm dynamics. There are a handful of us out there, and Tori Valentine would be perfect for you since you're both in Atlanta.
I hope you find what you're looking for! If you ever happen to be in Chicago, you can check out me, Elle Solo, Alyson Parker, Eva Godiva, Lolita DeLovely, or Ravyn Roulette. All of us offer what you're looking for.
Good luck
Although each Mistress is different..... I am finding that more and more Mistresses have a full menue of services and endings. In the last few years I have seen more willing to do oral (giving and receiving) and even full service. ATL has quite a few. My experience is..... that you need to see then a few time before you get to know how far they are willing to go.
& love to combine the two for most fulfilling experience. My sessions usually end in full service because I want to have fun as well & I consider it a reward to you.
But every Mistress is different and must be respected. Communicated is key. And there is not harm in looking elsewhere for your wants & needs.
xoxo Ciara
Whoops, my finger hit the send key too soon. Domination means that what the Dominant wants takes priority. What the submissive wants can certainly be taken into consideration. In a scene or session, the submissive has to have something going on that is somehow gratifying or pleasing, or else s/he would not come back.
I have never known a Pro Domme that would not listen to requests from a submissive who has repeated with her. It is understood that she is going to do what she wants, but she definitely wants to know what is in his mind.
Personally, I do Sensual Domination as part of my offerings. Domination takes a lot more planning and energy than my other offerings. If a submissive were to say to me "I will keep seeing you no matter what, but I would like _____________________" I would appreciate him putting it that way. If he were to give me an ultimatum, I would throw him out.