It makes me appreciate even more the providers who're clear and timely with communications to clients. IMO if a provider doesn't have time for that kind of communication, or just isn't good at it or doesn't like doing it, they should outsource it.
That is, how do you confirm a date? I'm no newbie, and I've had my share of NCNSes and last-minute cancellations to appreciate clear communications about confirmation. It sucks (or maybe not!) when you've been looking forward to a date and plan your day around it and things fall apart with little or no notice. (Yeah, I know emergencies happen - they just seem to happen a lot more than normal for some people.)
I've seen several approaches. When a provider has an assistant, I usually get a confirmation email early the morning of, or the day before for an early morning date. Even if it's an automated reminder, I'll reply to make sure the assistant knows all is good. Providers w/o assistants might send an email, or occasionally a text msg.
If the date was scheduled far in advance, ie a few weeks or more, I like to confirm at least 24 hours before. That's especially important if I haven't seen the provider before, so I don't have info on logistics yet. If I don't get a confirmation, I'll send an email confirmation and ask the provider to confirm.
Related question.... what do you do if you've asked the provider to confirm, say the morning of or the day before, and there's no response? Do you keep hoping for a confirmation up to the last minute (figuring prep and travel time) or do you set a deadline, eg "please confirm by X time or I'll assume the date is off"? Providers, what do you do when there's no response to your request to confirm?
you plan to confirm, and that should be at least the day before and then the morning of the tryst.
If made long in advance, then at least a week or two before is also good.
If they fail to confirm within a few hours of the anointed time, then I'd say you are relieved of responsibility and are free to try for another provider.
This is a two-way street.
Sometimes emails end up there.
I prefer to text the day before and then again a few hours beforehand if she's got a number for you to use.
But as was suggested, it's best to inform her of how your going to confirm if the arrangement was made a few weeks prior.
Common Courtesy on both parties if they are able too contact the other. If they are not going to show up. Especially if the date was set up more then 2 days before the desire day. Or if the provider agree to see you and she check your reference and one or all came back a bad she should tell you a lie, or the truth about why she won't see you on the desire day. That way neither one is sitting around wasting their time for somebody never to show up. I had this happen to me just the other day. Where a provider agree to see me then she must of check my ok's on P411, because I can see when a provider check out my profile. When the day came for us to meet I sent her a email to confirm with her. I never heard anything back from her. When I got to the hotel I sent her a text and nothing to this day nothing from her. I did sent her a email to her P411 account and she did read it. I am not sure if one of my ok's was bad or not or if it was something else on her part I will never know.
confirm with me...if I have a last minute emergency then I surely would let them know ASAP. If I don't get confirmation at least 24 hours in advance, I assume they can't make it.
When a client sends you a confirmation at least 24 hours in advance, what do you do? Do you get back to them to let them know all is good on your end, and if so how quickly do you do that?
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Usually in the morning for a nooner. If I don't get a response by the end of the day, i'll send another message setting a deadline to hear back. I almost always hear back after the first one, but I've had my share of last minute cancellations usually claiming illness or some emergencies. My philosophy: like goes on.
Say he's booked a date for Wednesday the 30th, a month in advance.
I'll tell him something specific, like: 'I'll be in touch on Tuesday the 29th to confirm'
Then, I'll email him Tuesday morning or early afternoon, 'Hi just confirming our meeting tomorrow at 9PM. Can't wait to meet you!'
If he replies, then we're on.
If he doesn't reply by that evening, I'd say, 'Hi, I still haven't heard from you about our meeting tomorrow at 9PM. If you'd still like to meet, please let me know by tomorrow at 12PM. If you've made other plans, no problem, but please let me know'
If he still doesn't reply by say 9ish the morning of (has never happened to me), I'd write again, 'Hi, I haven't heard from you about our date.' Then I'd reiterate that he needs to be in touch by 12PM, or I'll assume he's made other plans.
Around 11-11:30, I'd probably send one more message, just to cover my ass.
The key is to be very specific about when you will be in touch to confirm, and what deadline you set for assuming that the date is still on/not...
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I usually confirm with a gent the day before our appt if he is already in town.
If he is traveling the day of the appt I always ask him to call me with his room info after he checks-in.
If a gent does not respond back to me after I send the confirmation email depending on when I sent the email I will follow up as it gets closer to date time.Usually in the second follow-up email I will ask the gent to confirm by a certain time to confirm.This only applies to the gents who don't respond to the first email.
If still no response and it is a half hour or closer to appt time I assume the date will not happen and something must have happened
I usually book sessions at least a week or more in advance, and most providers (or their asst's) have been very good at maintaining communication, right up until the day of the date. If I haven't heard anything by the 24 hr mark, I will definitely send out an email or text to make sure that we are still good to go.
I have only had it happen once that I waited until the hour of the session to contact the provider to ask her if everything was still good, and of course it wasn't. She bailed on me and used a lame excuse....but I think that she either double booked or got a longer session client so she kicked me to the curb. This was during a visit to Vegas, and it taught me a valuable lesson. At least she did email me back with that lame excuse 
If I don't get a response by the day of the session, I would make one final attempt to communicate right at the time that our session was supposed to have taken place. If I don't hear anything back within 15 minutes, I would write her off as a NCNS and put her on my DNS list.
My preferred method is to contact in the morning for a same day or next day appointment. I may accept two days out. It has been my experience that booking more than one or two days in advance seldom works. Either something will come up for me or her. The traveling girls get lots of cancellations so it's rare that the girls can't accommodate me within one or two days.
By the time an appointment is made I have her number so I call and confirm the morning of the appointment.
And I think a lot of that is due to the fact that I won't even step foot outside my door If I haven't confirmed the appointment right before I leave.
In addition to the seemingly standard day-of confirmation, I'll almost always contact my client before I head out to meet them. Because I see a lot of business travelers, everything from meetings to rental cars to business dinners can cause snags in their schedules that might throw things off. And unfortunately, sometimes our appointment is the last thing on their mind while they're dealing with these issues. This also gives my clients the opportunity to push our meeting back a bit, if necessary, which saves me ever having to wait on them while they finish up cocktails with a coworker or whatever.
As for incall appointments, I'll contact them the morning of. If I don't hear from them at least 2 hours before we're supposed to meet, I'll leave them a voice, text, or email message letting them know that I have to assume they're no longer interested in getting together. Usually, that lights the fire under them to call me back and confirm, and as long as they call me back within the next hour, I'll still meet them. If not, oh well! I know I've lost a couple of clients who didn't think they needed to confirm until 15 minutes before our appointment, but I'm honestly just too busy in my personal life to play games lol.
It makes me appreciate even more the providers who're clear and timely with communications to clients. IMO if a provider doesn't have time for that kind of communication, or just isn't good at it or doesn't like doing it, they should outsource it.