I must have stopped paying attention after the first sentence or so.

I don't mind when the phone is whipped out during the session, it is a medical condition!

Though the root cause might be the same, what I am referring to is this:

We're kissing, starting to match rhythms, tongues going deeper, really starting to get warmed up....

And he yanks his mouth away and his suddenly nibbling my ear!  Oh... ok... this is good... yes, a little tongue... now trailing his tongue with wet kisses down my neck... mmmmmm yes....

And he pulls away again!  Back to DFK... ok, now I grab his head and really start going for the deep tongue action, let's keep the pace going, yes very good, now nibbling a little... and BAM!    

He stops cold and steers me towards the bed.... alrighty, I'm all for that!!  

Clothes start getting tugged off and we're off to the races!!!   To take matters into my own hands and hopefully get the flow going in one steady direction, I head down south: some stroking, licking the boys, then head on up to take his cock fully in my mouth..... Boom!  
He grabs me under the armpits, pulling me up for more DFK.... (what the hell dude, is this your first time???)

 
And so on.... a whole buffet of confusing foreplay and sexual activities that just feels disjointed and makes it impossible for me to establish a good pace and rhythm.    

Anyhoo... I was hoping you were talking about THAT and maybe had an opinion/explanation.  

:-P

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Hey look! A squirrel!

Many studies have....
Hey, anyone wanna hook up tonight ?

And played pleasant but undiverting music when meeting clients.  I once played the cd at the incall, which was a Massive Attack album and was way distracted when the House MD theme song came on.  Lol

     That said, it can be useful if you like to really observe the other person's reactions closely.  There are so many types of responses to contact (breathing, sounds, movements, tension, etc) that it helps if the mind tends to dart around some.

I've learned the hard way to avoid women with "ADD"

ADD is a term that is used very loosely today..
The girl I dated two summers ago told me she had ADD.
She stabbed her ex husband. Was supposed to be taking Lithium.
She was a fucking maniac.. I adored her. She liked to paint naked.

This summer I met the Russian girl. Same exact personality as the Lithium girl.  
I couldn't resist her spunky ways. This one was trained in the Israeli army.
She beat the shit out of her still husband! Bad... She has skills.

See what I'm getting at? As much fun as those girls were. The sex, the adventure.
Just fucking amazing... I don't want to be the next guy who gets stabbed

wait a minute, i'll get right back to you on this