It's really helpful for providers to know some of the challenges the men here are facing. I would love to know what I could do to enhance someone's pleasures and make the session more enjoyable.
I want my clients to feel i'm a willing participant because repeat business is what I strive for.
Though my heart goes out to him:
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Would like to secure a session with you on Thur or Friday this week and need to know what general area you are in and what donation you seek for one and/or two hours. I do have a penile implant and don't know if you know what that is or not so will explain a little. When climaxing, I do not ejaculate but it goes into the kidneys and I pass it off later when urinating. I can stay hard for hours for there is a pump in with the testicals that can be pumped up and in addition, I also, when excited, still have some help from the body and mind in getting very firm. I refer to myself as a very horny man and do appreciate a lady like yourself.
CG
Dear So and so,
Thank you for your email which described your medical condition. I am glad to hear that you are able to cope with this situation, however your condition is of no particular concern to me, because my services involve companionship, and any gifts which I receive are for my time and my company only. If you would like to arrange to see me.....
No doubt that some ladies have been put off by his condition, or he would not go into such detail about it. The response that I suggest would not imply that you have agreed to any illegal activities, but it lets him know that his condition would not be a problem for him in a meeting with you.
I had a client that had had prostate cancer and this was the situation, too.
I was glad he 'walked me through' some things with him, as he also gave himself an injection in the penis, and THAT was hard to see..
I just prefer a gentlemen introduce himself without being graphical. I agree this information is important to know but would have preferred this conversation after we've set the date.
I've never discriminated against and client and I've seen clients in wheelchairs, on crutches, post prostate cancer victims, and even assisted someone who took the shot directly into the penis. I've been around for a long time and seen it all and I would never let his condition influence my decision.
I think the poor guy was just trying to let you know ahead of time instead of setting a date and then springing it on you. And the nature of his problem makes it impossible to even mention without getting somewhat graphic.
Your rule about getting explicit in a first communication makes perfect sense 99.99% of the time. That's a lot better than most rules do. Excludes the jerks and LE. But it seems this fellow is in that 0.01%. Maybe you could bend it a little here and take sdstud up on his excellent suggestion. If you haven't emptied the trash on your email it's still possible.
This is just a suggestion, I'm not trying to tell you how to conduct your business.
I liked it though. That would be a new and different experience. I haven't been with someone who could climax without ejaculating, or who could stay hard for hours without Viagra. I think an individual who is comfortable divulging this would be interesting to meet.
I have a similar thing in that I can stay hard for hours without cumming...this just started in the last year or so
I've learned to hold it back and I get a bunch of mini cums that doesn't affect hardness...you get to stay right on the edge of cumming for a long time and it feels(to me anyway) much better than just popping right off the bat then not being able to get it up again in the time you have
Sounds great but it does have a downside or two
One of which is if we are going at it for an extended period and she wants to rest...once my penis is not being stimulated it goes down and it will refuse to go back up for a couple of hours
Secondly if you are about to cum and manage to hold it back you are now committed...no matter what you do you will not ejaculate(at least this has been my experience anyway)
And thirdly some women feel they've failed if the guy doesn't demonstrably cum with a ejaculation...it's hard to explain to the lady that you truly enjoyed your time with her(in all likelihood far more than most guys in fact)
Just for those who suspect some performance enhancing drugs might be why this happens I can assure you I have never taken any of them in my life
Oh yeah this is NOT a medical condition as I kind of wondered about that myself so I went to a MP and got a 40 minute time with a lady and including showering, the massage, and the FS ending...I made it easily with time to spare
I think it's just knowing if I cum fast...even if I have the woman for a couple of hours I won't be able to get hard again for the rest of my time with her so it's better for me to do what I do and I get much more enjoyment out of the session
BTW Ladies...I am aware that doing this makes much more work for you so I tip generously when I'm successful in holding back
"this just started in the last year or so"
Spontaneously?
Or was it triggered by something you read, a Tantra session, or some other experience?
Just like female ejaculation, this is something that often must be learned. I highly recommend finding providers who understand the joys and benefits of learning to fully cycle and run your energies, vs. simply expelling. This'll save you the generous tip, and can lead to amazing heightened sensual-spiritual experiences.
; )
BTW, I agree that this particular gent may have been too upfront in his initial e-mail, but feel that it was an honest attempt to share what he felt was pertinent info.
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I think it was a combination of factors that started this recently
I decided to take a break from um...civilians after a long term relationship broke up and so now I had to go back to condoms again with the reduced sensation after years of not needing them
Partly also was a major part of why we had broken up was sexual differences...I wanted sex and she didn't...that can really hurt your confidence and when I first went to a provider I overcompensated in the one way I could and that was by lasting as long as possible
Then there my was hearing about Kegel exercises and doing them to excess
It could also be possible I'm not cut out for this hobby and I need more of a connection with the lady I sleep with to have a traditional orgasm
Or maybe all the above are just rationalizations and I'm just a cheap bastard and wanted to be sure I got my money's worth
Anyway back to the OP...this is not something you can exactly bring up to the lady in emails before you have met her without getting summarily blocked from emailing her at all
I do the explaining if any is necessary AFTER the session is over
Yes, the subject line I initially posted IS inappropriate to ask a lady about unless you have a good relationship and have established a level of trust.
However, consider asking about:
energy practices, Tantra, neo-taoism, etc.
Aksing if a lady is familiar with any of the above is perfectly fine, even in a first contact, and may provide you some amazing experiences.
For you, I would recommend investing the $13 for "The Multi-Orgasmic Male" by Chia and Arvara. This is a well-written book which explains the above esoteric practices in a more accessible and practical (i.e., physical) format.
Play safe, and have fun!
D.
Dude,
You're not entirely unique in that regard...I sometimes do it, too. I've been trying to balance it, however, and find a point that allows me to let go.
Generally, I'm not able to get the right stimulation for non-ejaculatory orgasms when I'm wearing a condom...just doesn't seem to work all that often. I can, however, go for hours, and my focus is usually on my partner's pleasure.
I've also achieved true multiple orgasms several times...by that I mean multiple ejaculations. Again, this is not something I seek to do with anyone outside of a LTR, since it's not possible with a condom.
For me, this awareness came about spontaneously...I was with a former SO, came and stayed hard, and she wanted more so I kept going. The second orgasm happened about ten minutes later and surprised the hell out of me. (I must have looked like a rodeo champion still in the saddle after a 98 point ride..."Hey, look at ME!")
As with a lot of things, the line between possible and impossible is self-imposed and all in the mind.
"You're not entirely unique in that regard...I sometimes do it, too."
I'm not sure why you feel I was stating that I was unique in this regard? These practices are becoming more and more common, as well as known and explored.
As to the right stimulation for non-ejaculatory orgasms... have you tried getting the "variety" pack and just testing different condoms? I have a friend who had the same issue, but once he found the proper fit this disappeared.
Another thought, try exploring this with manual and oral stimulation. Depending on the lady, cover may not be required... you can explore the extended states... then switch at any point you desire.
It's fabulous that you focus on the partners pleasure, but spend some good time in your own!
PS - I loooove the image of the rodeo champion!
I did a photo shoot with some friends once... straw hat, sybian...
wasn't there just a thread of whether ladies have fantasies?
There's one now!
Thanks for the grin
: )
Isn't revealing that poor bastard's email on a public board a compromise of the provider confidentiality? Now, we all know that some guy has to pump his nads to ejaclate. Can you imagine the guy reading this on the board embarrassed...
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It's really helpful for providers to know some of the challenges the men here are facing. I would love to know what I could do to enhance someone's pleasures and make the session more enjoyable.
I want my clients to feel i'm a willing participant because repeat business is what I strive for.
Now, I didn't find that email too graphic - I found it very informative and helpful, though the topic alone, along with many disabilities will seem 'graphic' to someone who isn't accustomed to it.
And, things affect us differently the first time than subsequently, certainly.
I am familiar with disabilities, and also took care of a Vet who was a quadriplegic, having to perform many 'nurse' duties for him.
I think this was good grounding for you and does definitely open up the sense and sensitivities.
So, start a new thread, and let them know aliases are welcome!
Well, at least he was honest and didn't surprise you. Graphical yes, but I think some might have been surprised and well I guess it would avoid an awkward moment.