I am not saying I want coached every time. Just tap me on the shoulder when you have enough and let me keep my ego in place. Lol.
I really enjoy pleasing as much as being pleased. Question to hobbiest- would you like your provider to let you know how to improve your techniques? And question to providers- do you give instructions on technique to your partners. (If they are willing
I'm always open to learning something new, or improving upon something.
I have thought about setting up a session on the premise of getting the truth on my performance and getting input on improvement. Just as in real life, if she says you did good, is she just being polite? Different women like different things so going off of one person's advise may not be the best thing to do.
was many moons ago after having indulged my self of the services of a Korean whore, she looked at me and said "number one chargeee, number ten workee". (translation: nice dick, but you haven't a fucking clue what to do with it.)
I took that to heart and the next time I saw her she complained that I almost helped her achieve orgasm and if that had happened her moral compass would have required her to refund my money. I've been working on that refund ever since.. and the women seem to be appreciative of the effort.
Have you asked for instructions?
I'm always open to learning new things, and how to improve. Or just a suggestion to do something different - different strokes for different folks.
I know a provider who considers herself a "love coach". And it's not just marketing baloney. She really does that, if the guy or gal wants some coaching.
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"Everything in life and in business, including sex, is improved by better communication"
After decades of practice orally pleasuring one woman, I thought I was the pussy eating master. Now a few months into mongering, have to admit I feel like a novice!
I'd appreciate gentle suggestions from the escort to adjust my technique to her liking.
Honest, open communication requires a level of trust and comfort that may take some time to develop.
A mango works just fine too, so I've been told. 
Some providers oblige me and some don't.
Case in point:
A long time ago one gal insisted I continue DATY until she came, sometimes for up to a half hour or more.
I ended up with bone fragments in my neck so now I can't do DATY very much without great pain. She later told me she came many times, but hid that fact from me.
New York City Mayor Ed Koch always used to ask, "How'm I doin'?" in public because he wanted feedback from us peons in the streets.
"A popular figure, he rode the New York City Subway and stood at street corners greeting passersby with the slogan "How'm I doin'?"" (Wikipedia)
I assume he was the same way behind closed doors. Now he's asking the cherubs up above.
I still need and welcome advice for improvement from my dates
Have you noticed how few responses you have from the gal's ? One - and it was fairly nebulous !
The gal's in the profession-with the rarest of exceptions-are not in it for their own sexual gratification. They are in it for the money...
That doesn't necessarily mean they don't care and all that....but....my guess is that as long as you are clean-don't hurt them-aren't rude or abusive-arrive on time and leave on time-and "donate" as directed-they are good to go !
Discuss please ~!
Their pleasure can be our pleasure as well. Similar to the OP, I find pleasure in pleasuring a woman. One of the beauties of P4P is that providers will be more than happy to fake their pleasure and see you again, and again, even after having failed to deliver any real pleasure for them. Nonetheless, the desire remains to make the fantasy a reality and turn the faked "O" into a real one.
On the other hand, however, such an instructional session would have to be either agreed upon in advance, or handled very delicately. It could be a disaster to have a provider dictating and correcting every move (unless, of course, that is the client's desire).
I probably was unclear. Specifically I was interested to know if Hobbiest would be more prone to go to a Provider who would "help" them in their techniques of foreplay, oral and other areas they are lacking. While I realize many Providers are wanting to "get the job done", I was wondering how many Hobbiest would more prone to return if the provider were really involved enough to "instruct" their client on techniques?
You raised another question in my mind. While I realize this is a business, how many Gals enjoy enough for their own sexual gratification?
Means he might be great eventually for her BUT what about the other ladies he might see? It might have to start all over again.
I love sexual gratification. The problem for me is I have to be attracted before my lady parts start to work. And if the guy is not a good kisser, well game over for me, it is like the Sahara desert.
If he learns different "good" techniques, he tries until he gets it right. But someone has to teach "the good" technique
Look all I care about is that he not irritate/hurt my lady parts. Other hookers might be concerned for their orgasm however by the lack of replies that might not be the case.
Best advice I can give is listen to the lady and the MOST important is be aware of her body language. That, as far as I am concerned, is the best "technique" a guy can learn. That can be applied to every woman and it will be very appreciated.
are pretty much by definition "clueless"
Not only are all women different, but just like men, what is a turn on one day is a turn off the next.
I have a general rule, go gentle until urged to go harder. You can always "turn it up" when requested, but once you've been too rough, firm, fast, etc the damage is done and even dialing it back when asked is too little too late.
Truer words were never spoken.
1. gentle
2. listen and watch body language
Those two things will make any guy ahead of the rest.
...the Venus Butterfly or Seinfeld's move that ends with "the swirl."
I think it's his nine digit bank account. That does seem to be one "technique" that works on at least "almost" all women.
If hookers really gave a shit, there would be scads of replies. When a trick asks a question like that listen...if you hear crickets you have your answer ...very loudly!!!
Crickets:
In the order of insects they fall under all of the Orthoptera and belong to the Family of Gryllidae !!
All of which translates back to : Crickets !!
When a question is asked and the response is "All I Could Hear Were Crickets"
That translates to "You Have The Answer" !!!
I would like to hear from Providers to
If a client specifically asks me what they can do to improve, I might give them a few basic pointers ("Maybe don't lick the side of my face?" or, "The human spine doesn't usually work that way..."), but I feel like sex is such a personal thing! What works for me may not work for other ladies and vice versa. If they want more instruction, I always preface it by saying that "*I* really like this, but that's just me. Every woman has her own preferences."
I guess the number one bit of advice that I offer is that it is SO important to try and read your partner's body language. If the woman you're with gets quiet, stiffens up, pulls away, or seems to be dodging some part of you... She's probably not into whatever you're doing. Because it's our job to ensure that you have a great time, some of us might put up with things that we don't really enjoy (but aren't bad enough to ask you to stop). Being aware of changes in her body language is a great way to make sure that you're making the experience as pleasurable for your partner as it is for you
Lessons in body language might be better taught. That by far would be the best lessons taught.
Telling a gentleman what turns me on! After all, I do like to get mine too
I also love when a guy tells me what he likes, rarely happens honestly though. I guess I may be doing things right in that area lol
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Seriously though, asking for guidance is not a problem. Also, watch body language for clues. Most importantly, what works for one woman is not necessarily applicable to others
in all seriousness, coaching is fine. But in order for it to work, you have to actually do what I want you to do, which means understanding what I'm saying. I'm very blunt and direct when asked for coaching sessions, and what really truly gets me off might not turn you on as much as you think it will.
I find that if a client is more specific with a request, the coaching sessions is easier. If a client asks me my favorite way to be brought to orgasm, it's not going to have anything to do with PIV sex or DATY. IF a client wants me to instruct them on how to bring me to orgasm via DATY, that client might actually get what they want out of a session. If you want a particular answer, you have to ask a specific question.
because really, it doesn't have much to do with how I actually want to be brought to orgasm; not in most cases. It's how the client wants to bring me to orgasm, and then instructing them how to do it.
I am not saying I want coached every time. Just tap me on the shoulder when you have enough and let me keep my ego in place. Lol.
Every woman is different and what I tell you might not work with the next one. Personally I just want to get through the session without getting my lady parts mashed up too much.
I coach you not to mess up my lady parts, as in be gentle and then back it off by the power or 10...most guys don't really know what gentle means.
If a guy asks me I will say generically, go as gentle as you can until I tell you otherwise. I will ask for no hard sucking or biting of my clit....that is more a warning than a coaching tip...lol
For me it is better if they are getting into it also so if they dislike or really like something TELL ME!!!!!
Don't stop . I'm easy though so a guy can do pretty much anything to my nether regions and I'll enjoy it. When I'm giving oral though I love getting feedback or instructions if I'm not hitting the right spots.