Have you ever thought of who it would be worse for if one was caught and outed?
Would it be worse for a married man with a family, or would it be worse for the ladies? I'm talking in terms of career and how it would affect family life.I mean how are they getting caught? Is the provider keeping it hidden from a SO or Does she have kids?
Did she get arrested? Was she caught by the wife? Was he caught at work or by the wife?
If she was arrested, and has kids, I think she has it worse.... if she has no savings, she has to stop and may struggle financially... She may have her kids taken away lose her family
If a married man gets caught, maybe same can happen, but chances are he is established , has income prob wont lose his job...
he will have money
Plus his being caught indicates a single mistake, versus hers indicates an entire career/character/multiple "mistakes."
But the biggest factor would be, who has the most to lose?
So life is short just enjoy yourself and stop worrying about this bs!
Would it be worse for a married man with a family, or would it be worse for the ladies? I'm talking in terms of career and how it would affect family life.
Or other newsworthy outings.
1. Eliot Spitzer - resigned as gov of NY, joined a high-power law firm, wife is divorcing him, daughters of "that" age thought it was kind of creepy
2. Ashley Dupre - his date - I don't know ... where is she now?
3. Unnamed Agency Owner - she was named all over the news in NY when her agency was busted but we can't name her here. She was busted by the feds but mostly for money laundering, tax evasion and few other financial crimes. I think she was convicted and given a long sentence.
4. Tele-evangelist priests and pastors busted for Hobbying: Jim Bakker, Jimmy Swaggert, Peter Popoff, Ted Haggard, and lots more. Some women, too!
5. Senators, Reps and other government officials - Barney Frank had "goings on" going on at this DC home, maybe due to his live-in BF / housekeeper. The other Mass Rep got caught with a House page (not for pay, so maybe not the right category). The Senator who got caught soliciting gay sex in the men's room at an airport, what's his name?
6. Who was the English actor that got caught picking up a TS street walker in LA? He later went on the Tonight Show and discussed it and is the butt of many jokes but has been a good sport about it. Ah ... Hugh Grant. (Google is amazing ...) The SW was Divine Brown; what happened to her? I don't know.
This is a very rough first pass at answering your q with this "examples" approach. I hope that others can clean it up and add to it
If the outing is with a celebrity, it can be lucrative for the girl. I suspect it's much different than an ordinary outing if the girl plays her cards right.
Divine Brown claims she's a millionaire from all the personal appearances after the Hugh Grant incident.
Ashley Dupre married a wealthy man and has a kid. She made a lot of money with guest appearances
It always seems that when a man is 'outed' it can have more immediate problems for him, especially a threat to a relationship or marriage, but he can claim that it was a 'one time thing' or a 'moment of weakness' so he can often be forgiven
Though for a woman to be outed as an escort, provider or any variation of same, is something that seems to be attached to her forever
A writer such as Georges Simenon could happily claim to have slept with thousands of woman, many prostitutes, without any complaint against him, yet look at the historic Profumo Affair and Christine Keeler has been haunted all her life with the public image of her as a prostitute
The perception that men can go out and fuck whoever they want and be forgiven while women are expected to be virginal and maternal is still there under the surface and barely needs a scratch for it to reappe
amount of "this sucks" is happening on both ends.
I'm not sure why quality of life is measured by occupation, a successful marriage, and three kids. Why can't everyone have a genuine, validated desire for things to go well in their lives?
Lots of prestige - status - and life situation ringing in this OP, and some others, as though status is what validates someone as more human and worthy of a good life than someone else.
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Status comes in many forms. A guy might not be worried about losing his Porsche turbo but nobody wants to be an object of scorn in their real life community. In the real world some people have a social circle of family and friends. That is why most of us don't go around bragging about this activity.