I'll bet you that if ANYTHING about you SERIOUSLY bothers the providers you see and who get questioned by your next prospect during screening, that the lady you're hoping to make a date with would turn you down. If that hasn't happened, then probably they have found you a very suitable client.

I doesn't bother me....

as I see it..there is not one perfect person on the planet...I am certainly not..

had a 500lbr once...and it was an awesome date...yes, he realized his size and i realized his size, but he was comfortable with himself and very cheery...spending time with him was so much fun...he asked me to stay the night with him knowing that i would have to sleep on the couch and he had his cpap machine...we could not have intimacy the "old fashion" way, but we did do other activities that were quite fulfilling for both of us...his attitude about himself made him sexy to me

"I'm very, very masculine, super clean, very nice and respectful (I ALWAYS offer compliments as we play and always say "Thank you.")"

^ This is what's important, not body size - type

Don't worry over it, if someone doesn't care for you as you are, there
are plenty more who will....

B-
xo

I am more interested in a connection with your mind and heart and the rest will come easily. Size doesn't matter to me if the connection is there during the date.

I always feel bad for people who ask questions like these because if a hundred women were to tell you that they think you're sexy just how you are it probably wouldn't change the way you feel about your body. In addition you're about to deal with a bunch of guys telling you to lose weight as if the thought has never crossed your mind.

Alright now to answer your question. Like most adults I prefer a healthy looking body in my partner. That means not too skinny, not too fat. Some muscle definition as sign of an active lifestyle, but not an unnatural steroid-y look. Well proportioned and symmetrical. I think this is just naturally ingrained in the human psyche. Now with that said is body type the sole determining factor in my attraction? No. To me mental attraction is about as important, so while I may be willing to overlook your belly I might be totally put off by your obvious insecurities. Funny how that works, eh?

If I am with you then I want to explore you, even the parts you may not think are sexy. If the lady asks about your body then yes, you should tell her, but if not then I don't see the point. It would be awkward if at the end of your introduction  there is:

"Sincerely,
RoadkingUSA

P.S. I'm fat "  

I feel like that would absolutely kill the mood before you even have a chance to meet. When she sees you I'm sure she understands that you are not a thin man. Keeping your shirt on will not make you look thinner. In addition, no woman wants to feel like she's making love to Winnie the Pooh, so please just take your shirt off.

i actually prefer men like kevin james myself..

i give you a ton of credit. youre a man who admitted your insecurities. thats not an easy thing to do in this world. so good on you for that. we are all human and have them... just gotta learn to shine in the places that you can and it will make up for what you feel that you "lack."

xo

What is important is everything else you mentioned about yourself, you sound like a wonderful man. If anything to put your mind at ease you could mention you are "Big and Tall", that way you have given a heads up - will take some of the stress off of you.

I would choose a respectful, clean, heavyset gentleman over a trim, obnoxious, unshowered, goob anyday

Honestly, when I see clients I don't think much about what they look like.  For me it's more about making eye contact, making a connection, talking, feeling safe, being able to relax.  There have been one or two times that it's occurred to me a guy was particularly attractive or unattractive, but it was really a thought that just blipped through my brain when we met.  Heck, there have been a few times when the guy walked in and I could tell in an instant that he was not attracted to me! (I'm pretty sure they had fun anyway, hehe)

My reason for being on a date though is not to worry about whether the guy is hot.  My purpose is to turn the guy on, make him happy, help him relax, and most importantly, give him pleasure.  I love talking to a man, flirting, figuring out what he's missing, what he needs from me.  Being successful at that makes me feel sexy and awesome and fulfilled.  

And with overweight friends, I love touching them, the same way I love touching everyone I'm in bed with.  Human touch is highly therapeutic imo.  With overweight friends though I sometimes wonder whether touching their bigger parts makes them uncomfortable?

Oh my dear...

Obviously I can only speak for myself, but size, in many ways, doesn't matter to me at all. I rather like it in general when human beings have some meat on their bones, so to speak.  

Personally turn offs are largely the result of personality, the tone of the conversation...a general lack of chemistry I should say. Chemistry is a powerful thing, and when I become attracted to someone's mind I'm attracted to the entire person...that's just the way it works for me I suppose.

As for the more intimate details, I think letting things progress naturally is best. I'd like to think that both parties would voice their concerns if either became uncomfortable in any way.

Fat guy with hot chick lol.  

So do I have a type IRL? Sure. Not the typical type for many ladies... I like 50's, seasoned, a little meat, in a suit.  

In this industry I get to exercise a few fantasies I've watched, but never thought it would happen. And for years, I've had the fantasy of walking into a porn shop and the guy behind the counter is very over weight, kind of messy hair, bored out of his wits, checking out the chicks who come in.  

I walk up to the counter and ask if I can try out a vibrator before I buy it. He kind of looks at me funny, and I ask him questions about it and start telling him what I want in a vibrator and how I want it to feel. Eventually he shows me a vibrator he thinks would suit my needs... I say, "man. I wish I could try this... Then ask if he can show me how to use it. His eyes light up, and we go into the back and I make him open the package.  

I go through the whole tease and by the end we're all oiled up banging on a desk in back.

So a guy who wasn't expecting that gets some that night. The excitement I feel he has is what gets me off.  

So I get to sort of relay that fantasy to real life when overweight ppl come to see me. I don't think I've ever had an overweight guy not get me off during DATY because of that fantasy.

Now, I also have other fantasies that take on different forms of men that I get to enact as well. They have no idea that they're fulfilling a fantasy though lol!  

Anyway yeah you can tell the lady if that makes you more comfortable, but for me, if you tell me it may rev me up a bit in a different fashion. My fantasy comes up  

Idk if that helps, I like to shake things up a bit with wtf posts every now and then lmao

Xoxo

C

No worries...

Speaking for myself only I do not have any issue with a gent who has a bigger body size.Not a turn off for me.
This is my job I know us providers do not have to see every gent who contacts us but as long as I can verify a gent and as you said " masculine, super clean, very nice and respectful"that is the main thing.
I have seen many guys who are taller/larger and some who are very big.
If it makes you feel more comfortable you could mention your body size when booking an appt if a provider has a problem I am sure at that time she would say something.
Not every guy looks like he just walked off the cover of GQ magazine.
I find one of the biggest turn-ons is a man's confidence.
Wishing you the best of luck and don't worry about it.
This world of ours is about finding intimacy for the gents if there are providers who have an issue with your size there is many who don't.

One of my favorite clients has a big belly that hangs over his belt. His belly hits me in the forehead when I give him a BJ, and his belly sits on my crotch in missionary position.
But it doesn't bother me at all.
He is very clean (the most important, at any size!!), takes a good shower at the beginning of each session, and he is super respectful and kind. I love seeing him!

The only time fat can get awkward is when you're rimming a guy. It's hard to get in there with all the fat in the way!  
But if he just took a thorough shower, I try my best.

No & big bellys can be awesome!

I read overweight men are better lovers.

Understand

I have the same problem.  When setting up a date I let a new friend know that I am "big" and allow them to ask for clarification if they wish.  Most have no problem but a few have asked and suggested that I look elsewhere.  No problem at all.

The last thing I want is for anyone to be uncomfortable during a visit - it is hard to hide.

I am blessed that I have found a few very special regular friends who know well how to "push my buttons".

My take

As long as your hygiene is very good, no issues at all. This is the only thing I have ever had an issue with, albeit with a thin or large person. Good hygiene no matter your size = good time had by all.  

And if you are self conscious about it go and see a physician that specializes in weight loss, a nutritionist, a personal trainer, a therapist, etc.  

If you feel comfortable in your own skin the rest will fall into place.  

Good luck

Good lord, look at the average American male these days. The military is having problems finding in shape guys to recruit.
Add years and inactivity and we have a society full of belt busters.

Of course they love their big guys.  
 

Posted By: roadkingusa

Howdy ladies.  
 I've enjoyed the company of a few ladies over the past few years, and have written what I think are good reviews.  
 Here's my question:  
 Does my body size/shape REALLY matter to you?  
 I'm a pretty big boy...I buy many of my clothes at the Big & Tall store.  
 I'm very, very masculine, super clean, very nice and respectful (I ALWAYS offer compliments as we play and always say "Thank you.")  
 I am very self  conscious of my size, cause I do have a good size belly and man boobs. I wasn't always heavy, but got so in the past few years after divorce...I got really depressed.  
 Anyway, should I tell the gal in advance that I'm big? Or does it not matter to you? I have told some of the gals I can leave my T-shirt on if they want, but they have said it is up to me.  
 I know it's my issue, not yours...  
 But...  
 Does it turn you off? Would you prefer not to touch my belly? Is there a position I should avoid so that YOU are most comfortable?  
 Any replies would be appreciated.

-- Modified on 8/10/2015 7:19:15 PM

....in my case I don't have a problem with bigger men. Now some positions might not be so easy depending on shape/weight but we'll make it work. I'll praise kiss, rub, lick, touch all over your body no matter what it looks like....i'm not here to make fun of you or make you feel bad. Any professional worth their salt is not gonna make you feel like less than a human being because of belly and man-boobs.

In general tho I do ask for a general description of what you look like....most of you don't have websites like we do or profiles with shit tons of pics so it would be nice to have an HONEST idea of that. Aside from this being a  "fuck board" I need that as a minimum before meeting anyone. Weight is not something I discriminate on.
I think yes you should disclose what you look like including weight.  Some ladies have a thing about their dates being HWP and some couldn't care less (like me). Guys want us to be honest and most of you have ours pics to stare at (but most of us don't have yours) so give the potential lady you want to meet the same courtesy of at least a description of yourself.

-- Modified on 8/11/2015 11:59:42 AM

The answers soany of you gave to my question have helped IMMENSELY. Not strictly for my occasional visit with a provider, but for life in general as it pertains to finding a new life partner.

It's interesting to read so many motivational comments. Whether you are a lady who is a sales clerk, a doctor, or a provider, you are ALL women, and the perspective from those of you who wrote is appreciated.

Tony  

It doesn't sound like you're morbidly obese or anything, so unless she specifically asks for height/weight/whatever, I wouldn't worry about it.  

Honestly the fact that you care if we care means you're a cool guy. Being considerate is sexy.

You will get treated with respect while with me, however I am not remotely attracted to obese anyone. I am human but the money does have a way to mask what I really feel.

If you cannot hold your ample bulk off my body so I can breath comfortably then missionary is out of the question. There are downfalls for being that big, and I respectfully mention that a weight loss program is the best "cure" for your issue. It will help you immensely and your partners, paid or otherwise.

The "i am very, very masculine". What does this have to do with your obesity? Or is it in relation to your man boobs? And really what does that mean...you pound your chest, you grunt like a caveman, .....? You do know that even women possibly has a  different version of what masculine is and your version might be the antithesis of the next hooker you meet?

If for no other reason than staying healthy.  Height is a function of genetics, but weight is something you can manage with diet and exercise if you are diligent enough. It's up to you...