Miscumception

My favorite misconception is that we can just fucking cum right when they say "OK cum baby, cum now! Cumcumccum!" ...Ok, let me just do that right quick

His second statement should not have been spoken unless he already knew you.

I used to get those all the time. "No - you do what's best for you." I give a date/time/location. "Oh, well that's too far for you and probably a busy time of the day. I really want to do what's best for you." New date/time/location. "Hmmm... let me get back to you on that. Are you sure that's ok for you?" Finally: "Just let me know when you're ready to make a decision."

I'm so glad I have one really rich guy taking care of me and paying my way through college. I don't have to deal with time waster guys anymore.

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Continue, it has stupid humor value.  

Question back to you, do you only see puppy dog hobbyists?

that she thought a guy's penis has to stay erect until he ejaculated, as if it were some kind of gun that was cocked and couldn't be unloaded without firing.

I think I was on the third or fourth round of a very long session and I couldn't get the last one off and she kept at it furiously until I explained that was not the case.

As for times, I always state the day and times that are best for me, and then express some leeway should I have it.  I figure it must be a bit maddening for gals to have to play 20 questions with a guy to nail down a day and time

I don't think he was referring to a party. I think he was referring to escort sessions. In fact, I often use the word party, or playtime when setting up an escort session. Maybe he thought you were the girl AvaStClair was talking about, running eleven guys through every day. That would be my interpretation of 'busy partying and what not'. And there's one of the misconceptions. That all you ladies are running eleven guys through every day.

Men think that we are rich.
Us ladies think the men who hobby are rich.

That we sit around all day waiting for someone to call.

That I have no clue how to save money or do anything "grown up."

The truth about myself and many sex workers is that we love sex!!! I don't like being told what to do in ways that a conventional relationship seems to do, so I choose to be a part time lover. I meet amazing men. I travel. I get to take my doggies to awesome spots and watch the joy on their faces (and tails lol).

When it comes down to my life outside of work, one would never guess this is what I do. I dated a guy last summer who told me, "I would have thought you would have been a hit woman before this!" I do live a very fun and adventurous life and I love most moments of it!

Speaking of.. I decided last night at 11pm to go to New York City today.
I love it!

Have a great day everyone. And if you can't afford to pay to get laid today, don't worry ..I can't buy a new pair of shoes every day either. But you can jerk off and I can always browse online!!
xo

1.  Providers get fully dressed and made up, then sit around just waiting for clients to call.  At least, that's what I'm assuming people think when they ring me up and ask if I can meet in 30 minutes lol.  

2.  Providers must have tragic backstories.  Abuse, poverty, absentee fathers,  or *something* in our pasts that caused us to get into this line of work.  While I'm sure that's the case for some, it's hardly everyone's story.  We come from all walks of life and many of us, myself included, had perfectly normal, happy, comfortable lives growing up.  

3. Providers are ashamed of their work.  Discretion is important to most of us (and our clients!), but choosing to maintain anonymity does not mean that we aren't comfortable with, or even proud of, what we do.  Keeping our work lives separate from our private lives is often a matter of necessity, not shame.  

Great thread, by the way!

Here's a particularly annoying misconception....

.....that all of us hobbyists are "gentleman".
OP please take note.

Though I've occasionally indulged, I've also passed on multiple opportunities to have affairs. It would probably cost just as much and carry a high probability of messy entanglements. So I'll fantasize about my flirty as hell married neighbor and stick with providers for sex...and some of the most incredible sex I've ever had btw!

But since we are on the subject of time of day of an appointment, many times I'll put a time of day on a lady's booking form only as a place card, as I'm well aware that we all have a life outside of this sport. Typically I'll explain that the time of day of my request is just that a place card and for her to suggest a time of day that allows for her to be the least pinched for time to accommodate my 2 or 3 hour date request.  

Recently I had a date request that we had originally made for a morning appointment, it eventually ended up a late evening appointment as she ended up having day plans which pushed our time back a few times. If she would have told me from the onset that it would be a late evening appointment then I wouldn't have had to drive in late the night before and put the added stress on myself to get there the night before, also I wouldn't have had the need for the hotel room the night before. The date was worth the hoops I had to jump through and expenditure but better planning from the initial contact would have made things better for the both of us.

The moral to all of this is, regardless of the reason it's best to let us know from the onset "10am doesn't work for me that day, how about 6pm?". And then be on time

1. We can't love our SO as we allow them to do this. This is pure BS. First I and the other SO of sex workers I know loves and respect our better halves. Sex does not equal love. Only love equals love. Allowing our better halves to make their own choices is a sign of trust and respect. Both are signs of real love.  

2. We are heartless pimps, abuse our SO, and steal their hard earned money. Most live in SO arrangements involve shared financial responsibility. The same is true of most provider and their SO relationships and I know of several. All the partners of providers I know have their own income. In fact in mine I pay all the bills and her earnings are her fun money. As for abusive, I have never hit or threatened my wife. I do not use her profession as a weapon. I am actually proud she can do what she does. I know I couldn't do it. I can't speak for any other relationship but I doubt abuse is that common. Most providers I know are strong willed women and would never allow themselves to be abused.

3. We are weak willed cockolds. Well as our partners have sex with others we are technically cockolds but you must be anything but weak willed. In an open relationship you must face every insecurity in a relationship and deal with them or it won't last. You  must be secure in you own skin.  

I am tired of these stupid and false stereo types. Please don't judge that which you don't know about. I am sure the the stereotypes are true of some but not of any I know.

It was disheartening to read some of the responses because they are experiences providers and clients have experienced. This topic has come up a few times as a client as well as at strip-clubs. As a client I feel that some of the stereotypes are:

1. We deserve to be mistreated because we mistreat providers --- for example, not returning phone calls, blowing off appointments, being rude.

2. We are cheaters, mistreat, or devalue women in general.

3. We are not to be trusted.  

4. We have more money than God

5. We are horny and only call a provider when we need "it"!

6. We are dirty - physically. We don't shower, apparently.  

7. We can come whenever we want, especially quickly (i.e., I had a couple of providers say "I have someone coming soon so you need to hurry and finish" --- even when our agreed-upon time was nowhere near over).

8. We should know each provider's rules, do's and do-not's, without being told (implicitly or explicitly).

9. We are ok with a provider calling someone when we "finish", not when we actually leave. Perhaps that we have no other objective than to "come".

10. We don't like foreplay.

I heard this from a young provider (late 20's) not too long ago....but maybe not.

Many parents will support their children no matter what they decide to do..   Even things they don't agree with at first, will soften with a little time and reflection and understanding.   I can think of many examples of this happening, and not just between parents and their children.

I once saw a provider whose mother would babysit for her two year old downstairs while we were carrying on upstairs.   Her sister and husband also knew what was going on, and would often times help her out as well.  They never judged or resented her or me.  In fact we were, and still are, all good friends.  Her mom was a devoted catholic and the sister/husband were devout baptist.   Perhaps somewhere in there, they learned about the unrighteousness of being judgemental or "casting the first stone".

Ms. Lovely,
Perhaps he feels because that you are attractive that there is always demands on your time for social affairs and functions.  He also assumes because you are the aforementioned that you are never idle or alone.