I'd raise the penalty for folks I know/like.

Why waste the guys time in trying to rebook you if your not available? Is it a petty revenge thing?  

do the guy a favor and never see him again. Let him save his money for somebody more worthwhile.

Afterall you sound like a vengeful and petty sour-puss in a service-oriented business. He might have cancelled for perfectly valid reasons which he just couldn't avoid.  

Good luck in your business because you're going to need a lot of it so easily turning down potential business

I have to ask myself....have I given him the perception that I have a revolving door and will still make some money? More than likely, the answer is that he doesn't know I only secured the location to meet him there and that I will go home with less money than I left with.  

I'm working on this so new friends know that unless I am touring, chances are very strong that I'm only meeting them at my incall. And I will not do so with bold, underlined and italicized font. I will do so with establishing some form of rapport with them prior to meeting. How else are they supposed to care and know that I'm genuine when I say I don't have a revolving door? How else am I supposed to know that they give a hoot about me paying for an empty room?

Question - Do you have a cancellation fee AnonyMiss? I have one and tell gents that the fee can be applied toward future bookings. Also, because things do happen, I don't book the room until the same day after they have confirmed the date is still on, so it rarely happens that I'm in the negative due to a cancellation. So if we are meeting at 8pm, I don't book until a couple of hours before and by that time I have talked with him.  

Most guys are sympathetic and will reimburse you for the room or pay your cancellation fee. The ones who don't fall into that category...your intuition will put you on to them when establishing rapport.

Just leave that out.  IF he calls to reschedule, you decline saying it won't work for you.  (Fool me once...    
I've only had to reschedule twice in my hobby career..

I have not had to cancel without fair warning in a very long time, but when I have had to, I arranged to pay the full boat. It is only fair.

Let's forget about the I know you/like you scenario. Obviously, we've all had to cancel with favorites for a variety of different reasons. Those you do understand, and simply reschedule. That just happened to me. A lady friend recently told me she had started her period, so we had our session a couple of weeks later. No big deal. I once had to cancel on a friend on her doorstep. I walked in, placed her full donation on the mantle, gave her a kiss goodbye, and scurried home.  

But what about a first time session? When I last minute cancel on a first time session, for whatever reason, I completely understand that we are never to meet. Maybe there have been exceptions, but I've never experienced one personally. The same thing applies in reverse. I recently had a new lady cancel on me because she said she started her period. A seemingly legitimate reason, but I've never contacted her again, and am hoping she's having a nice life.  

This is a delicate hobby. It's also a very very expensive hobby. We, both ladies and gentlemen alike, for both those reasons, use all of our powers to try to determine whether or not the person on the other end is a good fit.  Unfortunately, and I apologize if you got a hotel room only for me, sometimes I catch a bad vibe late in the process. Just like you, I've learned to listen to my intuition. When I catch that bad vibe I am running the other way as fast as I can go. I will be a gentleman, although you won't think so, pause, and let you know. I do wish I could get a cancellation fee to you, but it would be impossible when I'm sprinting the other way. It happens on both sides of the equation, and it's unfortunate. Cancellations cost me money too. Wish it weren't so, but it's part of our wonderful hobby. When it happens to me, the best thing I can do is think of the positive aspects of the hobby, and call a favorite friend. A favorite friend solves many of life's problems, even here.

But it's so hard to not vent!  

Nonetheless, posting this might've turned off potential clients. Now, they are going to wonder what us providers think of them when they tick us off. Some people already think that providers are cold hearted, money grabbing bitches that depise men. Hah!  

As for the client who cancelled - Shit happens, life happens and people happen. When things happen like that, I make sure to take the time out to thank the gentlemen who always arrive on time. I also deeply appreciate and thank the gentlemen who have compensated for last minute cancellations as well. They are definitely the men who make the hobby worthwhile!  

Don't focus on the cancellation.

The one thing we all have to remember is that if we don't cover our own ass, no one else will. You made a lot of mistakes from the start that I bet you will not make again, and that does not excuse the bs cancelation; however, it's going to keep happening if you do not cover youra own ass. What do I mean by that? Do not rent a hotel room or travel for anyone period, without an upfront deposit. Will you lose buiness requiring this? Damn right, but you will not ever be stuck in the place you are in again by doing that.  

Another thing you can do is like someone else suggested regarding cancelation fees, but I think that is a wastre of time and there is really no way to guarantee you're going to get shit after the fact. They can simply say fk her and move on to the next provider. Blacklists? LMAO... yah, and they can change their handle then start over. Guys who generally only screen via TER handle or other board handles are not too worried about flaking. You have a guy's real name and where he works, you can bet your ass he is showing up or sending you some sort of concession.  

Never put all your eggs in one basket.. if this was a new guy, there is no way in hell I would have spent anything on him upfront assuming he would follow through. I would have planned a trip to where he was at and booked others. Hotels are a PITA which is why an incall might work better for you. If you can find a studio apartment maybe to start out until you have enough to get a nice place for calls only, that will decrease your costs and then you can allow other providers to use it for a fee if you so choose. I have a friend who always finds herself in the position where guys always want an appt. between 9 and 1 forcing her to basically pay for a room for TWO days because any moron should realize check in is not until after 2 in most places and sometimes it's 4. What did she do? She would not rent a room period, unless she could see a guy the night before allowing her to be there in the morning and then when the second guy confirmed, she would extend

My policy is generally that if you cancel last minute like 30 minutes or less AND I'm traveling, I'm probably not going to reschedule. Unless you are coming to my city... Otherwise there might be an actual opportunity to reschedule 1 more time.

...who cancels on us after we cleared a day of appointments and drove through traffic to see her only to have her not answer her texts and then get in touch with us an hour or so later to say she was so sorry to have missed the appointment and she can see me at 9 am tomorrow knowing full well that will not be convenient?

I guess '9 won't work tomorrow but we can reschedule' might just work there too?

As it turned out, I wrote him telling him how I felt. He replied and a few hours later we were lying spent on completely soaked sheets, kissing and holding each other. It was absolutely one of the best experiences I've had by far, civ and hobby. And I almost missed it!