For those guys who hobby on a regular basis, have you in the past (or even currently) found yourself with a decent looking, totally NSA fuck buddy relationship? If you did (or do), what do you like better about it than seeing a provider? Or do you find it not as satisfying and prefer to keep lobbying? How did the relationship start? Was it a friend, that just morphed over time to having FWB activities? How long did it last? Would you do it again? I often wonder how hard it would be to find some cute looking soccer mom who isn't getting enough action at home and just wants the occasional hot fuck now and then to offload some tension. Let's hear it...there have got to be some guys who have had this experience.
Enjoying it immensely and that’s all I am going to say on the subject.
Can’t disclose my trade secrets because it takes courage, confidence, impeccable gentleman ship, bit of money and be able to charm. Money is essential for great vacations in great places. Now, you can figure, how all this fits into it.
What if I have no courage, no confidence, no gentleman ship, no money, no ability to charm and a teeny weenie. Do I have any hope
... you're ok!
To be honest... you might have a shot if you also lack standards and find a woman with even lower standards. But why put yourself through that when money is easy enough to get. After all, people would quickly part with a fortune just to get all of the other things you say you're lacking, right?
You can have standards and have great many fuck buddies. Sex is not such taboo with open minded and liberal people. I happened to be one of them.
No puritanical hangups whatsoever. Sex is not a sin.
No puritanical hangups whatsoever. Sex is not a sin.
Sorry for any confusion!
WTF are doing spending your time on this board?
I smell something emanating from your post....
If you smell emanation, you STFU and leave.
You think I am going to tell you my secrets, no fucking way
She was a gal I knew way back from high school and with whom I kept open lines of communication.
She married divorced, started a LTR which last ten years then went south, moved away, came back, and we started to hang out together. Now mind you we never fooled around back during HS days (Her idea, I had the hots for her and she knew it.), but after about a year she came over to my place, got stinko, and wanted to hop into bed with me.
The sex wasn't great, but it was fun, and I thought I had finally found the holy grail, but it was as I said, a mirage. After about six months she got all weird on me, wanted me to stop hobbying, felt I was taking advantage of her, she began leaving hour long messages on my cell phone, the whole she-bang. Made me wish I had never started up with her again.
Maybe someone out there has a successful long term FWB relationship, but I haven't heard of one yet.
Now I do the right thing
The thing with women is that they NEVER settle and be content with what they got... sooner or later they're going to want MORE or QUIT! Sigh...
Um it depends on how much of a "stud" you are I'm pretty sure. If you look like Brat Pitt sporting an 8-inch anaconda it would be piece of cake, LOL.
In my case I would be willing to settle for just "average" soccer moms who are not fat or repulsive. I've had a couple of those over the years but of course as the saying goes, nothing especially when it comes to sex is ever really free
What's funny is it was the girls' friend that moved it forward both times. We would go out as a group and end up back at her house. Her friend would be ready to go home and say, "why don't you two hook up. You don't have to date just sleep together already. And boom, both times we did. I used a Seinfeld episode line. Remember when Jerry and Elaine decided "to do this and that". No strings attached. Well it worked twice. What I liked most about it was they would call me for some playtime every now and then. Both lasted about 9 months
I’ve only had two FWB experiences that stayed FWB and none of them stayed uncomplicated. So, except for the money, I’ve come to prefer this. (Though I’ve managed to fuck this up a few times, too.)
Complications aren’t always bad. In fact, the best relationship I’ve ever had started off as an FWB thing and we were off and on for five to seven years (depending on your definition of “off”). But the other times… the browbeating and the drama… ugh. No. A lot of variations on “why don’t you feel what I feel.” Even the memories of it are draining. So, other than The One, I've had two situations that lasted about a year each. The others were a few months.
For me, the sex is way better here. Despite what Hollywood and the sitcoms say, men aren’t the only ones who are clueless in bed. (But like Richard Pryor said, there’s no such thing as bad pussy, so I pressed on.)
As for how it starts, there are websites for this kind of thing. I’m a terrible pick-up artist, so most of them started online.
But having said all that, if I could find an FWB situation without the emotional blackmail, I’d be out of here like a shot
I'm conducting an experiment. It began when I acted on an impulse. I was at lunch one weekday afternoon and noticed an impeccably dressed thirty something woman eating alone. On a scale of 1-10, she was a 7. Some would say a 6, maybe. But her carefully assembled, very feminine outfit made her a 10+ in my estimation. She was a real stand out. Classy and subtly sexy. Without thinking it through I walked over to her and told her that I thought she looked like million bucks, and how rare that seems to be these days. Bravo, I told her. Didn't know what to expect. She was absolutely thrilled. She blushed a little and thanked me. Introduced herself and asked for my business card. Since then, we've traded a few casual emails. I've done this three times since with different women. Overtime I was completely sincere...because they really looked exceptional. One of them thanked me politely and that was it. The other two I'm in touch with, one via email the other because I see her in my office building a few days each week. I think it has promise. All who are communicating are married. I don't think their husbands even notice how hard they try. That's a guess. Can't wait to see what happens.