I said I do not fk off the clock, and I don't, but MANY times I will have a meal and drinks with someone I like hanging with... you should know mofo!
You have to keep your stories straight if you want people to believe you. Or create another handle like hooker+lies=me At least that would be truthful. mOr how about Ihatemen?
I'm of the belief that whether a provider is 100% her authentic self or operating as a carefully crafted alter-ego when with a client, there is always the potential for an incredible experience. Whether that girl-next-door charm is natural or a bit of performance art doesn't really matter, as long as the client is satisfied and the provider is comfortable.
Personally, I just try to be my best self. I'm more patient and more agreeable than I am in my private life, but most of who I am shines through regardless of whether I'm with a close friend or a client. And frankly, I'm not a good enough actress to pretend to be anyone else for very long lol.
Providers-- How much of your authentic personality do you share with your clients? Do you purposely (or inadvertently) "slip into character" when you're meeting a client? What's the biggest difference between the "real" you and who you are with clients?
Hobbyists-- Does it bother you knowing that your provider may be putting on a performance for your benefit? Have you ever seen a provider's facade slip? Did you like what you saw
myself...takes too much work to be anything but and i hate work...what you see is what you get...there are over 6 billion people on this planet...odds are a few are bound to like me...hell, you either love me or you do not, no half-assing with me...lol...jk...we all have so many facets to ourselves, good and bad...we have all experience good and bad and both have affected us in many ways and that makes who we are...we are human, so let that all shine through...i certainly want others that i am with to relax and be themselves...once we both are, it is a great time 
By nature I am honest and rarely put up with things that are uncomfortable or unpleasant. and have no issue when asked a question, telling the truth.
As my alter ego I form a persona explicitly to give the john what he wants within my boundaries. Not all of what I do is what I would consider doing in real life, however when one is at work getting paid to do their job, I think it not unrealistic that most people have to do things they would rather not, but don't find too damaging as to hurt them personally or emotionally.
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You say you're inherently honest by nature? And that you rarely put up with uncomfortable things?
Then you babble that you need to create some alternate universe to stomach being with men.
Stick to the blow and go's and all will be well. Then no need to pretend with anyone. They come in, get a BBBJ and leave. Maybe they're even circumcised. That's a bonus for you LOL
As my alter ego I form a persona explicitly to give the john what he wants within my boundaries. Not all of what I do is what I would consider doing in real life, however when one is at work getting paid to do their job, I think it not unrealistic that most people have to do things they would rather not, but don't find too damaging as to hurt them personally or emotionally.
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Am I authentic with clients or in character...? Some of both. It's kindof a fantasy encounter for both people until you really get to know eachother. Then he gets the B.W.E. So yeah, when you're highly motivated to be at your best, it's not always completely authentic. But theres only so far you can deviate from your real self that feels genuine to yourself and the client.
There are some things that I've never been able to do convincingly, like being dominant. A lot of guys seem to like that but it just never comes across as hot and he either starts laughing and/or it's just clearly such a fail that we go back to what works....
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I prefer the ladies to be themselves. To me it seems more relaxing that way.
80 percent is the real me... the other 20 percent is the real me with a d*ck in my mouth making it impossible for me to be bitchy and opinionated. Guys who get OTC time with me should really be careful of what they are asking lol. I don't have to behave if I am not on the clock. Just sayin.
OTC is the real me because OTC involves no sex so I can comment truthfully on other things.
"I tried to be perfect
But nothing was worth it
I don’t believe it makes me real
I thought it’d be easy
But no one believes me
I meant all the things I said"
'Pieces' by Sum 41
You posted many times that you don't do OTC. Now you're commenting that you'd spend time with a trick OTC?
You have to keep your stories straight if you want people to believe you. Or create another handle like hooker+lies=me At least that would be truthful. Or how about Ihatemen?
I said I do not fk off the clock, and I don't, but MANY times I will have a meal and drinks with someone I like hanging with... you should know mofo!
You have to keep your stories straight if you want people to believe you. Or create another handle like hooker+lies=me At least that would be truthful. mOr how about Ihatemen?
I never charge clients for having fun with me. I know you don't either. That's why I have become the powerful, wealthy and incredibly successful capitalist I am. And you are the incredibly successful and sought after hooker you are.
I was replying to the poster who claims "she" tells the truth. When in fact she rarely if ever tells the truth.
I always hold people accountable for their words. She is no exception. It's tough when someone can't keep their story straight. Invariably they fuck up and their lies and such catch them. In her case, it's been going on for years.
Did you visit with her when you were in LA?
I said I do not fk off the clock, and I don't, but MANY times I will have a meal and drinks with someone I like hanging with... you should know mofo!
You have to keep your stories straight if you want people to believe you. Or create another handle like hooker+lies=me At least that would be truthful. mOr how about Ihatemen?
Do you think I do OTC to "talk" to the hookers and get to know them?
Sometimes HT, I wonder if you and I are talking about the same hobby. LO
As they say......talk is cheap and in my case OTC it is free. You want to touch, open your wallet.
You just see a different type of hooker and I see a different type of trick.
Hook and hobby on!
You now do OTC. You see only fat blobs that are circumcised. But somehow you know what uncut looks/smells like. You have 3 old farts slobbering "I wuv u". You lie to them so they'll pay you something so your power isn't turned off that day.
OK...ready for that one way trip to Saturn yet?
You just see a different type of hooker and I see a different type of trick.
Hook and hobby on!
Damn right it means no sex, dipwad. I don't fk married men for FREE. I will however go to dinner or have drinks off the clock if they ask, and if it is someone I might not want to choke out in the next 20 min. I don't fk ANYONE for free... get serious. My vagina is reserved for you paying fktards. If I had a BF, I could not give it to any of you.
No Ms. Rayne it didn't sound bitchy. It just sounded like someone who has $$$ on her vagina and her mind when it comes to copulatory activities. You just kept it real it is not sex appeal it is monetary appeal.
Don't try and hold my hand, or kiss me, you will get told to back the fuck off...off the clock means leave the merch alone.
Sounds dangerous!
I'll also stipulate that there are quite a few single johns running around these parts. Are you suggesting that you're fucking those single johns for free?
If so, we need to talk. Nothing in life should be "free". Damn, that's just me working overtime again. And not getting paid for my advice either. Meh...just what I do.
As a hobbyist, I suppose that in the back of our minds we expect a certain amount of facade especially during sex. I am smart enough to know that I am not a super stud porn star that can make a women O multiple times. Having said that, if a provider can make me feel that way during sex, chances of me repeating is very high.
In terms of the GFE part, I don't think a provider need to act like someone else ( and I also think that this part is a lot harder to pretend ). This only becomes an issues in a multi-hour date ( after the sex part, now what? Will I have a stimulating conversation with this pretty lady? )
is a fact of life.......too many hobbyists have the good fortune of ending up with providers who they would, most likely never have the chance of seeing in their........"regular" lives.
This HAS to require a bit of "acting" on the provider's part. Having said that, I believe there are a variety of ways to make a connection with another human being. Courtesy, mutual respect, genuine consideration...........beyond perfect hygiene, punctuality.........just to mention a few........are all ways I try to bridge this gap..............and have felt a genuine connection with almost every provider I have seen.
When the "acting" on the provider's part border's on melodramatic and disingenuous.........it can be a bit of a turn off for me. Maybe the gap is so big........there is nothing I can do to connect and accept part of the responsibility........but overacting is a big turn off for me.
Knowing she's putting on a performance for my benefit -- all good, that's what I signed up for. Even when she gets wet and gets off, it's still a performance for my benefit that I enjoy and appreciate.
And there's often an aspect of putting on a performance in a civvy date or married f_ck, too.
The more natural she can make it seem, the better I like it, however she achieves that
In a few cases, I know that I have met the real person given the nature of the conversations and I have always enjoyed that because I am pretty true to self (well, with a dash of additional patience and a bit more humility than IRL.) Anyway, I do enjoy it when the lady feels free to be herself but not everybody can do that and that is fine too.
but one time, on my birthday, no less, my AFT suddenly went all critical and nitpicky on me. She must have been having a bad day. Next time she's in a bad mood I hope she'll just tell me, and I'll make the appointment for the following week when she's (hopefully) feeling better. BTW, my birthday still had a happy ending.
I love a good performance. That's what I pay for, after all.
As for seeing the façade slip, yes; I have seen that a few times. Not always good nor bad, it depends on a lot of things.
“Rasha” is far more charming and outgoing than I am in real life.
That is exactly what I'm paying for. I prefer providers who can go from "game on" to "game off" during the down time and just hang out and be cool with me, but if all she can muster is "game and on" I'm happy with that.
As far as my ATF is concerned -I don't care if she is playing a role or being herself or some combination as long as I can't tell the difference.
That is what I tell myself. But, I really don't know. Actually, until we went on a multi-day trip together I thought she was nearly flawless. But no one can keep that up 24/7 for days on end so I saw some things I had not seen before. But, it made her even more human to me and did not lower my opinion of her at all. It just made her more real to me and I am still unsure if that was for the best with regard to us both.
After 16 months, 150+ booked hours, uncounted unbooked hours, and many unusual adventures together (tandem skydiving, gambling, berry picking, one very expensive restaurant and the opposite), she drives me crazy (the best kind) when we are together, even when she is not trying to. And when she tries, .....holy *****!
Bottom line: I am just very grateful to have found her, for how ever long it lasts, and no matter how "real" it is.
I've seen it all in this hobby. It is what it is with each lady, and you're all different. Sometimes getting lucky doesn't just mean the usual. Sometimes she just found out that serious medical test was negative, and you walk in the door. That's pretty lucky. What's really fun is when you start to see a change. Where things start out as a facade, a performance, or a character role, then you see a little sparkle in her eye. That's the kind of facade slip I love.
Reality I can do for free. Yes - I know that, in fact, you do not find me to be as desirable as say, George Clooney. I know that I really don't fuck you as well as your boyfriend (or girlfriend). If I were to think about it a bit - I doubt that my dick really tastes like ice cream. From a reality standpoint, I can hope that our few hours together is marginally less annoying in reality than, for example, spending a week cleaning other people's houses. And, yes, I am fully aware that you would MUCH rather be watching whatever dreck Bravo is putting out this week than giving me a BJ while humming the star spangled banner....(don't knock it till you've tried it.... )
So - no - a performance not only doesn't bother me - it is expected.
It does bother me when you let it slip - because, damn it, I paid first class prices for this performance and you forgot your lines! Not professional - and professional in this business is a good thing...