How many providers out there had a client fall in love with you? not talking about in the first session, talking about after seeing you for a year or so and he gets you a ring. What did you do with the ring? what did you say?
Another note, if a client buys you a lavish gift like a car ... do you take it? I am sure this kind of arrangement would be like a sugar daddy situation but what if he is falling in love with you? hmmmmm What if he is married and wants to leave his wife? What if he tries to get you pregnant with the attempt to make you marry him? Don't laugh, I have heard of this before....Dear Hobbyist, I would love to hear your experiences if this sounds familiar...we are all human. XOXO,
Ms. Leila Lovely
And this is a blessing and the curse. And no matter what most of posters write on this board ( calling us hookers, they are just ATM's, blah-blah and they don't it seems to me have a card) it is riduculous, I know, but this is just a fact
she truly makes me feel like she's in love with me when we're together. Of course she isn't, nor do I want her to be. The way it is, is perfect: we meet, we have mind-blowing sex that shakes the walls, and then we go our separate ways. If it ever moved beyond where it is I'd have to start finding out and caring about the real her; maybe she picks her teeth with currency, or hates dogs, or her favorite thing to do is go to monster truck rallies. Whatever, the point is I don't have to know any of that shit now, so there's nothing to get in the way of just having amazing sex. Why on earth would I ever want to dick around with that?
Also I've seen her enough she can buy her own f*#%^+^# car just with what I've spent 
Having that "I love you" hang out there is a pretty big matsa ball if you don't get that reciprocated, HT
Just a thought.
They probably feel bad for you too. I can still arrange for one of my staff to send you some uplifting emails every day to feel good about yourself. It worked with Aileen Wuornos for a while.
Johns that are in love with their hooker and say so, are never lying. If anything, at that point, they are already shopping for rings.
Sure, every other swinging dick is driving hard to that hookers cooch on a daily basis (unless she is one of those "low volume" girls. lol) , but the amazing thing is that these softer johns don't give a fk
You really wait for those monthly government handouts.
Pity the Feds don't know that you spend some of it on Internet to post your nonsense here.
Most of the gals who get this actually don't want handouts.
I love their money... so saying I love you too, within the bounds of this arrangement covers that and they know it does not extend past the time we are together.
I suppose that those fat slobs like older women. Nice pics BTW. But the hands and neck shots tend to give away age.
Let me know if you'd like to use one of my professional photographers. They know how to shop that stuff out. Then maybe you'll get some guys under 80 interested in you.
...because I ain't lookin' for love, just some good lovin'. I guess I've reached the age where I am perfectly happy doing my own thing on my own terms. Call it middle age crazy if you want, but after years of providing for my family, I've finally reached the stage where the kids are off the payroll and I have the time and resources to explore what I want when I want. No need for any added complications.
Solo mis dos centavos...
Based on your TER profile, you are new to this line of work.
If so, and you are a nice sweet person as well as being a good girlfriend in the bedroom, this will happen. I don't think that either escorts or clients are ideal partners for marriage. He is already cheating on his wife and you are, well you know what you are, so think about your future. It might work, and I wish you well, but ...
I have fallen in love with one (now former) escort, and I am still in love with her. We see each other often, but I am not planning to get divorced and she doesn't want to marry me or anyone else, in part because she is young enough to be my daughter. This works for us, but I could see it turning out very badly if we had different goals.
On him getting you pregnant; get an IUD. If he is trying to get you pregnant without your agreement, that should be a deal-breaker anyway. If he succeeds, get an abortion and never see him again.
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when the connection between a provider and hobbyist is genuinely mutual.........a certain chemistry.......mutual appreciation/understanding is what is truly happening? After all, the provider.........especially in her initial appointment with a hobbyist........is taking a variety of risks.........and the hobbyist is showing a rather vulnerable side of himself. Isn't it possible they meet in the middle and establish a very special kind of "rapport."
When this very special "dynamic" is in play........even though unique and in no way common, by any means......no matter how it is manifested in words.......to me this is a very special matter..........and in many cases establishes a certain bond between the two.
In the end.......it can be very healthy..........if this does happen..........and both are able to put things in the proper perspective based upon the context of both of their lives. IMHO.
but it's no big deal, because I'm polyamorous anyway, and therefore won't go stalking one particular woman. That being said, I've never actually blurted "I love you"...yet.
we are not trying to imply that we want to become married to you and be responsible for you for all time.
It just means that you have made us very happy at that moment.
Let's not over-think this stuff
this setting. There is also the little issue that one may love many different people in many different settings for many different reasons.
Nonetheless, I think that the OP was asking about the real deal, because she asked about guys wanting to leave their wives or getting the lady pregnant to trap her, etc. The reality is that I could care less about the setting in which I met a woman, if I felt that way, I would have zero hesitation in going for it with the clear understanding that it would probably be the last time she would ever speak to me again, let's be realistic 
Of course for me it is a very much a hypothetical because while I can tolerate the fact I play around, I would not be able to live with myself if I left, or attempted to leave, my W for another woman. Her ex-husband left her for someone else and I would just as soon die rather than inflict that upon her again.
but I don't think you can speak for the majority since the majority wouldn't even say that...I'm pretty sure most ladies have a story or FIVE of people taking their feelings too far. It's not overthought when you are actually dealing with it.
My clients like me a lot and I have a SD for 3+ years. Yup all the gifts, traveling and stuff but we have an agreement and I am always very careful too about "falling" because falling in love is a choice, so I have chosen not to and he is mature enough for the same. That is why we are a great match and can commit to a long term agreement.
But before that, I had someone who fell in love with me and my mistake, I did too..short story, we just learn from our mistakes and move on... You'll get those "I love you" and "Marry me", but let's be realistic and just think the way you met your client, just enjoy ;-
Why should the fact that two people meet in this realm matter? If I were single and I met a provider who did it for me on all levels and if I had an honest opinion that she may feel the same way, I would not just simply say "well, too bad, she is a provider and I am a john."
I am not advocating that guys throw themselves at every single person they shared a good fuck with, that would be a pain in the ass for all providers - I hope we do have some collective common sense but this may go on far more than I know which would explain all the posts about "why isn't she returning my e-mails and texts?"
Bella ... May I assume you would differentiate between a role play "I Love You" and a real one? I prefer my dates to be an escape from reality and sometimes ask my provider to say "I love you".. "I miss you" ... etc. Do you say it if the man asks? I, for one, know it ain't true, but like to pretend it is true for an hour.
But before that, I had someone who fell in love with me and my mistake, I did too..short story, we just learn from our mistakes and move on... You'll get those "I love you" and "Marry me", but let's be realistic and just think the way you met your client, just enjoy
That is the only answer you need.
Another note, if a client buys you a lavish gift like a car ... do you take it? I am sure this kind of arrangement would be like a sugar daddy situation but what if he is falling in love with you? hmmmmm
What if he is married and wants to leave his wife?
What if he tries to get you pregnant with the attempt to make you marry him?
Don't laugh, I have heard of this before....
Dear Hobbyist, I would love to hear your experiences if this sounds familiar...we are all human.
XOXO,
Ms. Leila Lovely
I tell my ATF that I love her for the 3 hours we spend together every 3 weeks or so. After that time is done I think of her often and fondly until the next visit. An very occasional email between visits is all the other contact we have.
I have seen her for years now, she knows that I am very happily married and that I will never fall in love again.
It is just a joke between old friends and is clearly understood as such by both parties.
Lighten up, this is all about fun.
We were fucking heavily when she started to yell, "Marry me! Marry me!"
I have that kind of effect on women. It's really quite a burden.
Do not get involved with each other. We do not need to go into the myriad of pitfalls that such a relationship would entail. One only need look at the decision a jury reached yesterday in the trial of such an attempted relationship. Sure, it does occasionally work, but the vast majority of time the two of us have too much going against each other, trust being number one on the list.
As for me, I've had four situations that went beyond the boundaries of a good healthy client provider relationship. Twice, atfs got so mad at me for seeing other women, I had to stop all contact with them. I won't go into the details of what they did, but it wasn't pretty.
One time an atf told me she had our whole life planned out. I tried to tell her that we really didn't know each other. How could we after only five sessions? Needless to say, I had to stop seeing her.
Another time an atf let me know how much she liked me by offering extras services, free sessions, overnighters, meals, expensive gifts, etc. At each juncture, I let her know that such a relationship was impossible. I also insisted on paying for sessions, and not accepting any gift offers. She eventually moved on, and, believe it or not, married another hobbyist. It's still working for them, as I'm still in contact with her. But I'm waiting for the day.
So yes, I truly love many of the ladies I've come to know over the years. Each one for how she enhanced my life. But 'in love' no. That's not why we're here.
Why do some guys want to fuck up a perfect arrangement?
I mean come on, damnit. If a guy is falling in love with a provider, he's falling in love with the actress, the fantasy and he is just too damn immature to handle this life and this arrangement.
God damn it's amazing how many of these guys want to fuck up perfection. Go have fun with a beautiful sexy woman who will fuck you better than any civie would, enjoy yourself, ensure your envelope is correct and everyone is happy. Leave love out of the equation, it's bullshit anyway. I'll say this, to a very small extent, I love every provider that I've ever been with, enough to say that I want the best for them, health, wealth and peace of mind, but I'm not in love with any of them nor am I delusional to think that any of them would want anything to do with me IRL.
This sport is what it is, an arrangement. It's absolutely perfect, why fuck with perfection?
You inadvertently hit the nail on the head. There is a huge difference between loving your ATF and being in love with your ATF. I love everything about my favorite hooker. Hence the term favorite. Do I believe she wants more from me. No.
I mean come on, damnit. If a guy is falling in love with a provider, he's falling in love with the actress, the fantasy and he is just too damn immature to handle this life and this arrangement.
God damn it's amazing how many of these guys want to fuck up perfection. Go have fun with a beautiful sexy woman who will fuck you better than any civie would, enjoy yourself, ensure your envelope is correct and everyone is happy. Leave love out of the equation, it's bullshit anyway. I'll say this, to a very small extent, I love every provider that I've ever been with, enough to say that I want the best for them, health, wealth and peace of mind, but I'm not in love with any of them nor am I delusional to think that any of them would want anything to do with me IRL.
This sport is what it is, an arrangement. It's absolutely perfect, why fuck with perfection?
... she said it to me first. And I knew what she meant by it, i.e. not romantic love, so I had no problem responding in kind, as I do love her as a person and friend. But there are no cars or rings in the picture... with any provider I've met or will meet.
as in "Damn you're good at this" - not as in "I want to have a relationship with you...." It really just slipped out "in the moment" and I immediately attempted to clarify - possibly too profusely....
She was gracious and accepted it as the compliment it was intended to be.... No more was said on the matter....
Talk about an embarrassing moment...
I fall in love for the 1-4 hours I'm with a provider and then when it's time to leave, I'm no longer in love 
What would be your answer?
I don't allow lavish gifts unless I feel very connected to the man. Gifts come with strings. I don't want to be the woman that separates a man from his wfie. That isn't appealing to me. Love? I can accept love from almost anywhere. Life is too hard to turn down love, but I would never foster it in this situation. There are always exceptions. On some level, I love all my regulars. Of course, those are two men. I just don't see that many, but if I met a man proclaiming love after one or two sessions which does happen, I would assume they love a persona. Still I would give it a chance, but my personal life allows for only so much. This is a big responsibility. Sometimes, I just want to be loved.
Another note, if a client buys you a lavish gift like a car ... do you take it? I am sure this kind of arrangement would be like a sugar daddy situation but what if he is falling in love with you? hmmmmm
What if he is married and wants to leave his wife?
What if he tries to get you pregnant with the attempt to make you marry him?
Don't laugh, I have heard of this before....
Dear Hobbyist, I would love to hear your experiences if this sounds familiar...we are all human.
XOXO,
Ms. Leila Lovely
Do not get involved with each other. Just saw the ad of a lady who retired from this hobby a few years ago to develop a relationship with, you guessed it, one of us lonely gentlemen. This one ties into the rich man thread above. Of course he lavished her with cars, jewelry, trips, a new home, blah blah blah. But now she's back in the biz. Wonder what happened? Not sure if they even got married. I would never be so presumptuous as to ask, but I'm thinking about requesting a session in hopes she'll let something slip like before. She was definitely one of the ladies who could bring it, so maybe, even though he has tons of money, he couldn't, and she needs more. There could be a million reasons. It should prove interesting. The timing with the two threads, and her new ad is hilarious.