can't stray to far from their real persona. Just look at all the type casting that takes place in film, on stage, and television.

I'm way too lazy to create and maintain a separate persona. I won't create an alias either, I'd probably out it in record time.

I am the same in RL, even outside the Hobby. I am nicer though and keep things more to myself. Though I do got to say I am very shy around women in RL. So basically I am the same as my persona but sometimes I am not? Just depends on my comfort level or annoyance factor. I go through moods where I am happy as can be, other times I am crabby. Sometimes I am the nicest person you know, other times I am an asshat/blunt. There are times where I am a complete loner and other times I am social. Depends on the person I am dealing with and how they react to me.  

I know a few posters are exactly the same in RL as their persona, gals and guys.

IMHO I do feel some sugar coat themselves because it is a smarter thing to do for business versus being a blunt person. At least some ladies speak their true minds, if even under an alias. That is not just limited to the ladies, even some guys do it too. I just decided that, for me, I'd rather be me and not try to pretend to be someone I am not.

Of course some guys use aliases to be stupid or mean. A few even do it to be funny. (No, I am not speaking about all alias users, just a few)

I get thrown off if I know the person from the boards and they are a 180 of what I have always known them to be. Sometimes it is a good thing, other times it is not. I say sometimes "not" because obviously I enjoyed their board presence.

So, how about you Leila? How much are you like your board persona?

But only a little.

I still think that when actress performs the role, she still plays herself. At least it seems that is what good actress does. Good director may see how this actress fits the scene. And finally, there are people who buy tickets. ( though they for some reason buy tickets anyway). The admission fee is here higher, so this movie is not for everyone. Xo

mrfisher is the real me.  

I am the fake.

I'm the same person IRL as I am on here.  Don't feel the need to be different or to impress anyone.

That way, I'm ready when there's a reality TV show based on TER.  

a kind of related question. Are all or most providers extroverts, or are some providers in RL introverts? Has providing changed the introverts? Are there providers who have a hard time going into a bar by themselves, are social wall flowers, etc?

I have met at least one provider who is a wonderful person but has extremely low self esteem. The hobby image that she created in her marketing website is of a confident free spirit who has many interests and has the world by the balls. However, in RL she copes by being masochistic/subservient in her relationships and she spends a lot of time in depressed paralysis. I know this because after our session she pretty much collapsed and confided her life story and emotional travails and we spent a long time talking about it. I tried to be supportive without becoming a crutch.

Except a little more shy and introverted in real life.

My persona on the board is 100% true to who I am offline.  I'm opinionated, passionate, and honest (well, pretty honest lol) both on TER and in real life.

This place is full of potential clients... The last thing I want to do is create some false persona that has nothing to do with my true personality.  False advertising is terrible, whether it's outdated photos or a completely phony personality

a little taller and better looking.

Everyone is already taken

I have to be honest. I go totally out of my way to be someone different.

I am a much bigger dick in person.

I always loved the song...the guitar rifts by David Gilmour have always been a personal favorite since I was 15.  Right up there with the best of the Beatles and the Stones.  Childhood has not been lost...it peaks out when the time is right!   I suspect you ladies like that...

I try to have my board persona to represent who I am IRL.  Hopefully if I ever meet any of you IRL you will agree

I really don't think it is an issue of personas per se, I know I reveal different sides of who I am depending on the audience.  Interestingly enough, one of the things I enjoy most about this little sport is that I feel entirely comfortable being myself with many of the ladies, no need to hide the ball.    

I am not as docile IRL as I am on TER, not that I am a complete dick in person, it has to do with the types of posts that I reply to.   It is a easy to ignore stupidity or callousness here in TERland, I can ignore partly because I am not sure if people here are acting or not - the other reason is that I prefer this to be a place I visit for fun, not drama.  IRL, I am more likely to engage and go off on someone because I can gauge whether the person means it or not.

I'm the same, but different...

This is an interesting question! I would have to say that the way I come across on online boards, is pretty much who I am.
However, I will admit that me as a civilian, and me as Ana Valentina are two very different people.
In civvy life, I'm shy, submissive, very clean cut and described by most as a "goody two shoes". Lol! LITTLE DO THEY KNOW. My secret life as a courtesan is my mistress. It allows me the chance to bring out the naughty and adventurous side. I'm much more confident and aggressive as Ana Valentina than I am in civvy life and having only been doing this for 3 mos, it has helped me grow as a person and become more comfortable with myself. I'm beginning to be told by people who know me in real life " wow, you're becoming less shy", etc. I do not mix my two lives together, however I'm able to enjoy a balance and separation of the two that is improving my overall quality of life. :

...hell maybe more but people still say they find me much sweeter/nicer in person. You'll either REALLY like me or you won't .... not much of a middle.
I've even told I seem quite sane which is apparently rare around these boards.
So.....yay or whatever.


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The person you meet as Ruby is the same person in my private life.  The way I describe myself on my website and in my ads is the real me.