for various reasons.
Maybe she is testing your resolve.
Don't sweat it. You like dating her, correct?
So keep dating as long as both of you are interested in it. Who knows, in time you may lose interest and/or she might finally sucumb to your charms.
Good things come to those who wait.
i am a shy guy and I do not date much There is a women that I work with on weekends that I have liked for a long tme. But was allways nervous to ask her out. We are allways goofing on each other. She has been in and out of bad relationships. I bought her a Christmas gift and she said it was the best gift she had recieved. Then a mutal friend said I should ask her out. It was her bithday and I sent her a flowers and balloons to her other job. When she called to thank me i asked her out and she said yes. Couple days later it was valentines day and I got her candy and she bought me a nice shirt, It was a couple of weeks before we could go out but we exchanged phone calls all most every day. We went out last night to diner and a movie. On the way home she said she had a great time and we could go out again. But then she said I am not interested in any long term committed relationship right know because she just got out of 2 bad relationships. What should I do I really like her and she likes me. she knows I am a good person and I will not treat her badly. I was under the impresson fromm the mutal friend she was interested in me, and wanted to go out with me
for various reasons.
Maybe she is testing your resolve.
Don't sweat it. You like dating her, correct?
So keep dating as long as both of you are interested in it. Who knows, in time you may lose interest and/or she might finally sucumb to your charms.
Good things come to those who wait.
Well, bowl47,
at least she's honest! That's more than you can say for a lot of people in their initial interactions with a potential date.
The real question is, is she interested in having sex? Or just anemic dating? Of course, I've never understood women who go on wasting time with guys for free meals, but then again, Janis Joplin's one of my heroines, so whaddo I know?
The next question is, can YOU have sex with no strings attached? This is one of those dilemmas to which it is almost impossible to give an answer without inferring a whole bunch of stuff. But chances are that if she's out of two bad relationships, she may just be very SCARRED and self-protective. And with that territory comes negation of anything that may seem positive but also harbor disappointment.
Not to be bizarre, but this is almost like adopting an abused dog/cat. You have to show them lots of love and then eventually they MAY come around. But there are no guarantees, and I think you know that. As to what your friend [or anyone, including me, for that matter] says, that's not important. People say a lot of things. The crucial issue here is to spend time with her, not pressure her, and see where it may lead. And who knows, after being with her for a while, YOU may decide that she's not right for you!
One final note: just because you're shy doesn't mean that you have to take anyone that comes along. Part of dealing with that shyness is to realize that somewhere in there is a GREAT GUY - sorta like Clark Kent - and you can get that Superman out of his shell if you don't let yourself feel like the world's neediest case, but like a guy who actually does have choices.
Try things out and see where they go,
the Love Goddess