that you are in love with her ... I suspect your time with her will be more exciting and stimulating and erotic than anything you've had before. She knows what she's doing. Enjoy yourself. (and you're not really in love with her, just ecstatic at such an intense sexual encounter)
100% new to the industry, and just made my first appointment with a well reviewed provider from this site. I have had my eyes on her for a couple years now and finally decided to take the plunge. I'm meeting up with her tomorrow night and the nerves are starting to get the best of me. Very excited, but I'm not sure if I built her up too much in my mind by reading many of her reviews. I have gone through the newbie guidelines a couple times, and think I have a good handle on things. Just wondering what others first experiences were like. Did they live up to expectations? Were you able to perform as well as you thought? I know I need to just focus on enjoying myself, but its impossible to shake that feeling in my stomach as the anticipation builds.
Forget about performing well - it will be what it will be. Seems that you did your homework, so no worries!
My first time turned out every bit as exciting as I hoped. She has long since retired...
My first time turned out every bit as exciting as I hoped. She has long since retired...
My first entry in this hobby was 4 years after my wife died and I was old man with ED problems, I chose a 50 year old provider with good reviews. She knew what to do, made me feel at home and even though I don't see her professionally any more we remain good friends. Relax and have fun.
...expectations. And she'll be two years older than those photos (plus 5 years older IRL).
Just enjoy it for what it is. Take a deep breath just before she opens the door to help you relax. Tell her it's your first time doing P4P and that you may be nervous.
Back in the day, I used to schedule ladies based on my interpretation of what I considered my own personal league. I didn't even want to find out what you're about to find out. Oh, I looked at their ads from time to time and dreamed, but I stayed away. Then one day I was in dire need of some hobby information, and the only way I felt I could get it was to see a very popular, highly rated, extremely gorgeous, physically fit, young, tanned provider. She was so far out of my league it wasn't even funny. Again, this was my perception of what my league was. I absolutely needed the information, so even though I was scared to death, I went threw with it. The moment I walked in I knew I was in trouble. She was further beyond what I thought she'd be. Much more beautiful and sexy. Performance? I could barely utter a coherent word, let alone think about anything else. I was greatly embarrassed, but finally extracted the information I needed. Obviously, we still had a fair amount of time left, but I gladly, was heading for the door, not wanting to feel any more embarrassment. That would definitely be our last date. Then something happened. She asked me if we might sit on the couch and talk. That had never happened before, and even though embarrassed, I didn't want to be rude. So we sat chatting until my time was up. I was still glad to leave, but on my way home, I started thinking about her, and how comfortable it had been to just talk without any sexual pretense. I really liked that feeling, and wondered if there might be any way things could be less embarrassing. I decided to give it a second try. This time, because of our previous talk, I almost felt like she was my friend. I was really relaxed, and banged a home run. When we were done, she still sat me down on the couch to talk. It became our ritual, and that's how she became an atf. Now, I have more home runs than A-Rod. I learned something very important that first day. That no one is out of my league.
What she did is just as important as the act itself. If neither of us can get our nerves down, it makes it harder to enjoy.
It's also nice to sit down after and enjoy our time and build a connection. Obviously that is what you needed and at least you didn't leave early.
then you have an excuse to shower together
oh try not to fart when you sneeze
It sounds like your analyzing it, possibly planning, don't! Dont worry about performance, or your looks, her looks, what might happen...
Try to just clear your mind and go with nothing other then the goal of having a good time.
Its usually the guys that spent a long time building up and researching that have the hardest time relaxing.
Mojojo, your story reminds me of a date I once had, he got in the door, could barley speak, told me he didn't know what he was doing or if he should stay. I asked him to sit on the couch w me, he left muttering "wow, wow, I can't believe it, that was awesome, wow" lol
on something else once you have nailed down all the things you need to do to be prepared.
So, read a book, take a walk, watch a video (not a porn one either), and maybe take a shot or two of your favorite potent potable.
Believe us, you'll be fine.
The recent Jeopardy clip on the net of how a guy blew five figures on Final Jeopardy for not knowing the Question: "What is Rock of Ages"**, I got in an instant and I don't even attend schul.
I'm a trivia nut, extraordinaire.
And the Question is: What is a creator or solver of crossword puzzles? (Another mania of mine.)
*NOT
**The clue was: It is sung by Jews and gentiles during Christmas and Hanukah. The category was "hymns".
but try to loosen up a bit, eh?
Don't over think this. She is just a woman, and it is just a date. You'll meet an interesting person, have a great time and then leave. Unlike the civvie world, she isn't going to judge you at all. She probably has some nerves about meeting you as well!!
If you are really nervous before your date, I second the recommendation to down a shot of your favorite liquid fortitude. Better yet, if you booked a couple hours take some wine and share it with her while you get to know one another... ease into intimacy.
Seriously though, you could just ask for a HJ or BJ for your first time
Street hooker on bicycle
I still remember that day her pimp stole my bike but she came with me we got a hotel room I did her then we went to a store and cop pick me up she runs and they call my mommy I my clothes were blood cover I tell my parrent I was just attack the next day when my dad comes home he new everything how still only guess at.
She knows this is your first time.
I was in a similar boast 2 months ago and I made sure she new I was a novice.
Things could not have gone better, we talked a bit, she helped me calm down and we had a wonderful time.
I've been back twice and it keepos getting better.
Sounds like you did your homework, just put 20 Altoids in your mouth on the way back, put yourself in her capable hands and enjoy the ride!
Haha you guys are great. Thanks for the laughs and kind words, made me feel a lot better. I'll make sure to let you know how it went. Cheers
Personally, even after 11 yrs. of hobbying, I still get that feeling of nervous anticipation whenever I see someone for the first time. First time jitters are normal, but they should go away during your first few minutes with her. Just be yourself, go with the flow, and things should work out well. You'll know if she met or exceeded expectations if you want to see her again.
After my first time, I was so psyched that I was practically high five-ing the parking meters on the way back to my car. Hope your first time experience plays that way as well!
"It wasn't all that.....oh well I guess I had to nut."
that you are in love with her ... I suspect your time with her will be more exciting and stimulating and erotic than anything you've had before. She knows what she's doing. Enjoy yourself. (and you're not really in love with her, just ecstatic at such an intense sexual encounter)
Well, always having the fantasy of a HE massage, but not being courageous enough to seek it out. I stumbled upon an LMT who I thought was legit, current and up to date licenses and credentials. Nice office, massage skills were outstanding, but then the clues started to happen.... undraped one glute and the leg, then when it came time to work the other glute, the drape was down to my knees.... I started to sweat..... on the flip, she worked me over, but kept a very loose drape over the the little guy. When completed, she asked if that as all.... I embarrassingly stumbled with my request... and it happened... WOW. Returned the next day... I was out of town on travel. I googled her phone number and found the BP BR pages.... WOW again. Returned home and started looking, found one girl who worked off of a table out of her apartment and again a good HE. Then found another BR person who didn't work at an office but a hotel.... totally confused, it took a while for me to finally set an appointment, very nervous, still couldn't figure out a BR massage that was done from a hotel bed, the the provider assured me she was very good and I would leave satisfied. So went for it as my comfort level was OK with BR HJHE, and she was cute. But then as she worked on me and went nude as the other two did not, the first was always fully clothed, the second was just down to panties, I became even more nervous, then the impossible happened... She started a BJ..... and the journey continues...
I enjoy therapeutic massage, but of course have my eye out for extras if there is any chance of it.
I can recall two great times it ended up that way.
The first was in West Palm Beach Florida. The gal worked out of her home, and she was my kind of gal: built like a brick shit house, a mid-40s MILF with a balcony you could do Shakespeare from. So she does a great massage on my back, and then I do the flip. She is making a bit of eye contact with me and returning my smiles, so I pop the question but she quickly denies that she does "that" anymore. So, I demure and decide to just enjoy the massage, but then about ten minutes later she says, "Oh, what the hell, you look like a good guy, what have you got in mind?"
We end up in her bed doing the full monty for a very reasonable price, and she is as happy as can be. What a shame I had to fly home the next day.
The second came when I was in DC for a few days for a conference. I call a massage ad in the yellow pages and a beautiful spinner with short dark curly hair shows up. She was as quiet as a mouse as she set to work giving me one of the very best massages I've ever had. She was not my type, body-wise, but for some reason beyond the great massage I was very attracted to her, almost mesmerized, in fact. Nothing sexual happened that first night, but I decided to ask her to come the second night and the same kind of session ensued. Somehow I figured if she came back for a third night something might develop, and indeed, as she was finishing up the massage, she said something along the lines of: I feel very comfortable with you now, so let's do something more interesting. She proceeded to undress and we made such passionate love that I can still picture the whole seen even though this was about 20 years ago. Now the kicker: I offered her a very generous tip in line with what a service like that was worth. She would not take it. I think the 90 minute massages she gave me went for about $200 or so. In-fucking-credible, no?
I got her phone number and a few years later I was due to be back in DC, but the number was dead.
Of course, these are a small percentage of the legit therapeutic massages that I have had, but still, I'm happy with the odds.
One thing is for sure, you'll never have this kind of luck having someone who works for or comes to an upscale hotel or spa via the hotel's management.
my first one with the licensed therapist had no-upsell, and wasn't too steep in pricing, although if offered I love longer massages. I believe both days, I took the 2 hour massage
As it took her all of 30 seconds before she had my cock out and was sucking on it.
I couldn't believe that here I was with this beautiful woman having sex with me.
But I WAS nervous as hell as I knocked on that door and she led me back to the bed room, so that is 100% normal.
Was probably stumbling over my words, and maybe even shaking lol.
The strange part was immediately after the first orgasm, as I'm lying there thinking, "what the hell am I doing here with this stranger!" Because let's face it, the fantasy is all about the sex, not about communicating with a real person! Did I have a little regret? Yep. Did I stay and shortly saddle up for round 2? You better believe it!
Just go in realizing you are meeting a REAL person. The journey of meeting so many different, unique, and interesting women has been a big part of the enjoyment of this for me. Don't go in with a set agenda, but rather be prepared to go with the flow. Sometimes you'll discover that a lady won't do all you like (e.g., very little tongue, no FIV, etc.) but just roll with these things, moving on quickly to accept the pleasures of the activities that she does partake it.
So yeah, beforehand, you will be nervous. But once in the room, she will do her best to ensure you have a good time. So at that time, take a deep breath, relax, chit chat a bit, then let the clothes fly off and HAVE FUN!