That is not okay by any means.

Get screened by a few gals and if date #1 bails on you, then contact the other ones to see who can see you on short notice.

IMHO I don't understand how she informs you that she is sick 3 hours before hand. She either is really sick and should have known sooner... or.... she found a better deal. Which isn't okay either. Now, perhaps she really did come down with something that close to date time, but that is a true rarity

My Plan B is, there's a few assistants I know and who know me well. They are very responsive to requests. So if Plan A falls apart, which has happened, I know I can line up a great alternative quickly. But I only BOOK one at a time. I wouldn't want a provider to do that (double booking) to me, so no way I'd do it to them.

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Dude,  I would much rather someone cancel because they are sick, or tired, or had a shitty day, than try to 'make the session work'.  Don't jump to conclusions because she cancelled.

I do what AlexandraMilw said. Find out who's available for the day and time I have available and get pre-screened then pick one. If she cancels I'll just try getting ahold of another and hope one is available. Worked last time. Right when my plane landed i get a text saying #1 couldn't make. I immediately sent a text to someone I had contacted before and asked if she was available in a few hours. She was so we met.

I have never had to resort to Plan B, though I could have.  

I once remember seeing a provider whereby she and I agreed to meet, but she had double booked.  She chose me over the the other dude, and I sort of felt sorry for him.  But that was years ago, and I am still friends with her, so I won/win here, as usual

However, I have had several gals cancel on me within a few hours of the date, or sometimes the day before (usually set up days or weeks in advance).  Part of that I think is that those gals double booked, had better (ie. Multi-hour offers) or were travelling and had other cancellations which made my measly one hour date not worth the trip.  I ain't rich but I'm dependable and pay whats contracted for.  (Only time I ever cancelled was due to illness and high fever and made it up to her the following week. - once in over 25 years).

If they both do not give a shit, it's a win/win. Odds are they are going to also follow suit.

then let that be your plan B.

That's what I've done on the few occasions I've been left high and dry.

Don't go and make two wrongs try to be a right.

Years ago I would call someone I had seen, if I was cancelled on right before a session. Now I just go on with the rest of the day. Plan B never seemed to work well, so I just stopped trying.

First of all, I don't make a "plan B".   I don't want to be thinking, or worrying, about anything except our upcoming meeting.   If it does fall through, and that has happened to me a couple of times, I consider it as a positive since I just saved a few bucks that I can now spend on someone more dependable.    

A huge part of a lady being "hot", for me, also means to be dependable.  KNOWING that she will remember our date--even though it may be a few weeks away, and she is able to prioritize that, as I do, is very important and reassuring to me.    That's why I enjoy getting to know the provider somewhat, and that takes quite a few meetings together.   Building up an amount of trust and understanding is not always necessary for a good encounter, but it sure goes a long way (including ALL of the time before the date knowing that a plan B is not going to be needed).

Issues can come up however, where she may have to cancel.  But in reality, those are vary rare.  At least, they should be rare, and it they are not, then that person (whether it's her or you) needs to get their act together.

And I won't intrude on anyone's livelihood like that. So if I get stood up, it sucks for me. I've had to cancel or postpone, everybody probably has for some reason, but I've not canceled within 48 hours, this gives the lady reasonable time to fill my time slot.

I often travel to hobby, I typically take advantage of business travel, but I have traveled just to hobby and so I've invested considerable funds just to get to the lady, if I'm cancelled last minute I get very frustrated. We really must keep each other in mind when we book or accept a booking, the ladies have a business to run and we guys have a time schedule to maintain. Respect, what a concept.

Personally, I don't need or even want one.   I am sure that all of us have heard some pretty unusual or often times unbelievable ones.  It's fine if one is given, but please be genuine about it.

First, and most importantly, a provider does not "owe" me an excuse if she has to cancel.  Just a simple sorry, I can't make it, is often best.   No need to explain.  This business is difficult enough on both sides; why add even more difficulty or drama.

What's much more important is how things progress from there.