An excellent question.  I find that most  all are special each in their own unique way.   Each with their own personality, humor,  varied  physical appearance  etc.  What makes one more  noteable than another??  I find that hard to describe.   It maybe that  feeling of  having a wonderful lady, who would otherwise  be unreachable  give  such attention.   For a short  period   I can be with the most  desireable  female and she  is there to  take care of me.  I did not have  to do an elaborate courtship dance, lock horns with a rival, or wop  the guy in the next cave up side the head!   I can be an alpha male.  So as  Rick said  that  feeling of being special,  and allowing  myself  to relax  and be treated special.   It is  a business and I realize that maybe when the door closes after I leave  the lady  may  roll her eyes and  think  I am glad that is over.  But if I have no  perception of this  then  there is no harm.