Can't speak for other hobbyists, but this one just wants to get his brains fucked out by some bodacious hottie with skills.

"FatVern is getting dumber by the day"

I think this is an issue society as a whole deals with, but it is just more transparent in this world as fortunately, this is the only place we are subjected to this moron.

"Control issues" could mean so many things, but if you mean invading someone's life where you are unwanted, then I think that would quickly get you outed in a community like this which is dedicated to sharing information.  

I get the feeling, from your post in the NPR interview thread, that by control you mean to take an interest in politics and regulation. I think it's foolish not to do so, when to be or to visit a provider means breaking the law. You gave the example of a dentist... if my dentist had to evade law enforcement for cleaning my teeth, then yes I would take an interest in legal trends and the manipulation of public opinion.

In both worlds I try to avoid these kinds of people. It's easier to avoid in this world because of resources like TER.

Oddly enough though, some of my absolute best sexual experiences have been with me as a submissive. It's like because I am always trying to control so many other things around me, that I need to give that up for the bedroom so I can actually get off. No different than men who are in power positions at work always seeking out doms. You tend to manifest the opposite traits of your daily routine in the bedroom in many cases.

I have spoken to and heard many stories about providers who need this business because it gives them a sense of power that was taken from them through some type of trauma, but not sure how high those numbers are overall as I can't speak for the majority... just those who have told me in confidence.  

I used to be very controlling in relationships, and now I don't really care lol. I have found that when you try to control or change someone under the delusion you'll be happier if they change, it's just the opposite. We were initially attracted to the very things we try to change in people and when we do that, we don't want them anymore lol. Don't ya hate that? Some chick spends 3 years telling you all the things wrong with you and when you change, she leaves for a dude that is like you were in the beginning... the cycle continues ha ha.

…do you understand where it is coming from and why? (Or are you going to be hopelessly transparent, or shallow, with little effort? And, I say this because your question is vague and weak.)

Perhaps for some insight, Plato said:

The first and greatest victory is to conquer yourself; to be conquered by yourself is of all things most shameful and vile.

So in all fairness, it’s not necessarily society’s issue, now

Did making assessments happen before fairness existed?  Can you assess biscuits?  What about French Fried Potaters?