Friends With Paid Benefits is not a bad thing. I've had that situation for years now. Of course, it starts out as sex, but after a short while, we trusted one another to really open up.
We talk about anything and everything - no topic is out of bounds. It's nice to show up and not worry about saying too much, or watching what you say. She's been there in good times and in bad. And I've been there for her, too. Oh yeah!!! And we get to play. We know the deal between us - it'll never be more than it is now - and we're both fine with that. So, she is a friend with paid benefits. But I wouldn't have it any other way with her. So....why not? If it works for you, then go for it.-- Modified on 4/30/2015 9:03:38 PM
What ya talking about Willis?
So I got told one time that I couldn't play with a friend because it would ruin the friendship. Damn. Normally I am the one that says that.
So basically I put my foot in my mouth and stuttered around saying I don't think it would ruin anything.... of course it got taken jokingly as "So you don't know me? That we should fuck and then become friends?"
I can't think of a better way to be friendly, what's the issue? Yada yada I know one always gets it screwed up and can't get the friends with benefits.... I know I can't "sometimes" but I also know my limits. Pffffffffffff.
If I know I can handle being friends and I know they can handle being friends, then what is the hold up?
So for all of you that have had this happen or wanted more, what is your input or your situation? How did it work out for you?
A few times I didn't think anything of it and gave it a go, regretted it very much because they got attached.
Where has all the Cowboys gone?
I do believe there are relationships possible but one has to be careful about boundaries. What I've found in this game is it works backwards from civvy dating. Here you pay to fuck and then, if you click, a friendship can happen and lots of things become possible.
After that, a trip to Costa Rica can include a visit to my suite on the Pacific. Just remember, I'm easy but not cheap.
I tend to be very smart on what I do. WTF I am coming to CR, so maybe I will be corrupted? I told you the deal. We all get some females. I will buy my own suite. Just looking to be one of the manwhores lol.
Just to make your ego feel better, I don't extend that often. Although having Gambler along brings you up there 
After that, a trip to Costa Rica can include a visit to my suite on the Pacific. Just remember, I'm easy but not cheap.
Also, while I do group scenes, he does not. But we can have some major fun. You and me at the Del Rey and the Cocal, scoping out the chicas and picking out one to play with....Big fun.
We can be partners in crime, but I keep my naughty to me. We can do most of that but pick our own. Just don't wake me in the morning til I had my coffee. Though I had a friend who would wake me after drinking to go do a wake me up. Much fun.
PS I like brunettes mainly, medium sized. Never skinny. Bit feisty.
And what the hell is Nicky talking about "picking out one to play with"???
More like picking out "which one to play with next" I hope I never get so old as to have to settle for just one to play with. Yes, you do need to come down there. I am sure with your attitude, you will make a much better wingman, ok "wingperson" than Nick.
Let the record show that GaG was "missing from Costa Rica" from Feb. 3 through April 5 when I left. Some wingman! He actually considers working for a living more important than drunken whoring, so his priorities are ass backwards. I repeat: some wingman.
you can't mix business with friendship and I call bullshit. I've developed and maintained friendships with business associates for a very long time. Some gradually fade away (just like all friendships) when you're no longer doing business with that person.
so.. since hookers are business people (emphasis on people) and it is a business arrangement, I put that experience to the test in this sandbox and guess what... it pretty much worked just like it did in my work world. I developed friendships with hookers. We did a lot of different things together, sex was still a business relationship and it worked just fine until it didn't work anymore and we quietly went our separate ways, no harm, no foul.
would I do it again, yep.. and yep,,
btw... I do have boots, saddle, and spurs, but I sold my horse :
Years ago I had a long-time business relationship and friendship with my 2 ATFs -- each lasted a few years, in both cases very OTR long after they each had officially "retired". (One was from DC while the other was from London.) Early-on I considered a bit more with one, but that was just a passing fancy that we both decided would be silly, so we just had fun instead (and, in fact, she eventually got married a few years ago and they had a child last year). The other and I had a wonderful friendship that included a great deal of OTC time, though I would typically pay for her flight and a very reduced rate for the time we were together -- typically her 4 hour "dinner" rate per day, and we met in an overseas city where neither of us lived. (She normally arrived on day 2 of my week or more visit and I worked most weekdays while she shopped, read a book, hung-out pool side, went to the spa, etc. We would have dinner together every night and spend the weekends together, often pool-side.) The hotel we stayed most often would refer to her a "Mrs. HeyMikey", and she seemed to enjoy playing this up big time.) Perhaps it worked well because she knew that I had no intention of changing my life for her? (And she also has no intention either!) All I know is that we had a lot of fun meeting a few times a year while I was overseas for business. While we no longer meet, we do still communicate periodically, and if I were visiting her current locale tomorrow I would gladly meet her for dinner.
In general my most enjoyable P4P experiences have been with women who I met multiple times and became friends with.
That said, the theme from the movie "When Harry Met Sally" still applies... guys normally want to do every female friend anyway, whether P4P or not, so what's the big deal? 
My suggestion is to pick married guys who do not want to get too attached!
PERHAPS the main reason this works for me is because the relationship has always began/begins as business and only evolved into more because both of us wanted this. Perhaps if the relationship was a friendship first then sex would have ruined it, whether P4P or civie?
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I don't fk my friends either ha ha ha. But...
For those would don't understand (E).... thanks for reading lol.
So how is Prince William, London?
When did you get back? Must have missed that.
I don't fk my friends either ha ha ha. But...
...which is where it usually takes a shit. It really can strain even the best friendship if one party feels rejected or slighted.
I figure that I can always find someone to fuck, but a real true friend isn't as easy to find.
Right. It probably works better if there is physical distance. I am involved in one right now that may work because there's more than a thousand miles between us. So there's hope.
and I don't want to make it a habit of agreeing with you... but seems for the past 7 years I almost always have. You even admitted if I was a hobbyist, we'd be twins. So I am warning ya, I got to drink that out of my head next year.
The only thing worse, is I agree with Gambler more. So Captain save a ho can't save me. Too far gone lol.
but I have to admit my most long lasting FWB have all lived in different states or countries.
I have had a couple such "friendships" last as long as many years, one of them is still going after over 8 years now, but I may have to trade her in now that she is over 26 years old. lol We actually look and act like a couple when ever we are together, despite the 30 year age difference. Many people even ask if she is my wife, to which I usually respond, "We are far too happy together to be husband and wife" lol
I've done the FWB twice and used the same line from Seinfeld. "If we can do this, why can't we do that?" First femaie was a bit older, lasted a few month, NSA. She got a boyfriend and I was fine with that. With the second girl we were already good friends so one night I asked if she wanted to have some nocturnal activities together. Lasted about 5 months. Then all of a sudden her friends said I needed to stop even though we agreed not to tell anyone. I held up my part of the bargain. So I tole her, "no more." One night we went out with a group of friends, hugged her and said goodnight. She said, "why don't you come over." I told her no she was getting too attached and knew she wanted more. She said, "I get it, let's do it." So for another month, we did. Then she got a boyfriend. I don't regret either of those. Had a whole lot of fun.
A real friend is more than an acquaintance. For some, a friend is someone who you can trust to hide you in their home if the authorities come, and someone you would hide likewise. Think about the people you know who you call your friend (as they are certainly not your enemy), and then consider which of them you could depend on in bad times.
I'm sure you're as good a fuck as anyone, but throwing sexual intimacy into the mix with someone you connect that strongly with can affect the relationship. There are lots of people to play with, but friendship is very rare.
and I will agree that the people I am referring to are peeps I would put my self out there for.
They have no problem being a jerk, but won't for me. Much like I won't for them (ie be a jerk to them, I am a pussy when it comes to that)
I can be an animal, give me a break. I can have fantasies too. Might not live up to it. As long as we both get it, it is fine.Nice balancing act with a lot of understanding.
To ruin something, not always good. To have something you want, oh yeah.
I struggle often with the balancing act. I understand what most people don't get. If I know where I stand, fuck toy, friends with benefits, or more..... than I am fine.
I get more than most, as far as situations. I can be selfish too, Perhaps, eh ????
This actually is a true story for most gals. We all got a "should we go there" going on.
I'm sure you're as good a fuck as anyone, but throwing sexual intimacy into the mix with someone you connect that strongly with can affect the relationship. There are lots of people to play with, but friendship is very rare.
And are you sure that your friend gets it as strongly as you do? That's not a rigged question. Maybe yes, maybe no. You know him and I don't.
Personally, I find situations like this hard to deal with, because it means going to bed with a woman knowing that I could be ruining a friendship I very much treasure. I'd rather bed someone I don't have that sort of stress hanging over me at the moment.
and as long as the two of you can relate on that level then everything should work marvelously. My own experience in moving toward being friends with a provider ended very badly after repeated lies revealed themselves and completely destroying the trust that exists between good friends. So often, mongers and providers alike, must maintain a web of lies with their friends and families to pursue the hobbying lifestyle and it is completely antithetical to the conditions that must exist to support an enduring friendship, making the odds of successfully pulling it off very long indeed.
Friends With Paid Benefits is not a bad thing. I've had that situation for years now. Of course, it starts out as sex, but after a short while, we trusted one another to really open up.
We talk about anything and everything - no topic is out of bounds. It's nice to show up and not worry about saying too much, or watching what you say. She's been there in good times and in bad. And I've been there for her, too.
Oh yeah!!! And we get to play. We know the deal between us - it'll never be more than it is now - and we're both fine with that. So, she is a friend with paid benefits. But I wouldn't have it any other way with her.
So....why not? If it works for you, then go for it.
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