I understand this is a business... for guys and girls.
How willing are you to call out a gamer player on your local board? I know of some that get afraid of losing business. I personal will blast the ones who cost me a lot of money and lie. I hate liars. Only happened once and recently. What I have noticed is that some gals won't put it out there, much like certain guys won't review a gal who is 10/10 and don't want to see what happens when given a lower score. All about business lost or on the not see list. Me? I will be a loud mouth and I don't care. There hits a point where you need to speak up period. Sick of being overly nice and being screwed with. I speak for several girls that won't because afraid. So the huge question is... how do you guys feel when a well reviewed gal posts negatively on a game player on local board? You have her respect or will flush her under the table? It takes great courage to post and call someone out. Am interested in the thoughts when see such a post. Do you say good for her? What a crappy guy? She's a shit head? I respect her?
I was so upset at the title of the post I was turning red, I thought you were going after us that like Games, um I love my Play station and x box, and my online RP Games.
Flying my Geek Game Flag High...
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How willing are you to call out a gamer player on your local board? I know of some that get afraid of losing business. I personal will blast the ones who cost me a lot of money and lie. I hate liars. Only happened once and recently.
What I have noticed is that some gals won't put it out there, much like certain guys won't review a gal who is 10/10 and don't want to see what happens when given a lower score.
All about business lost or on the not see list.
Me? I will be a loud mouth and I don't care. There hits a point where you need to speak up period. Sick of being overly nice and being screwed with. I speak for several girls that won't because afraid.
So the huge question is... how do you guys feel when a well reviewed gal posts negatively on a game player on local board? You have her respect or will flush her under the table? It takes great courage to post and call someone out.
Am interested in the thoughts when see such a post. Do you say good for her? What a crappy guy? She's a shit head? I respect her?
...as I try to be fair in my judgements.
But there is a risk for the lady. I like to avoid ladies with any hint of drama (not unlike how ladies screen out guys based on percieved risk and fit). So if I see a post by a lady blasting a guy, I might think, "If I saw her and she objected to something I did, would she blast me publiclly too?" I know that might not be fair - because she might be truly justified in making her post - but how do I really know this? So, all things being equal, if I had the choice to visit a lady who has blasted a guy(s) vs someone else, I'd have to honestly say I'd choose the latter - and there will be no shortage of ladies who fit this category to choose from.
So, if making this kind of post, I'd only suggest doing so if it will be overwhelmingly obvious that you are in the right, and that you are making your post without malice or a sense of revenge, but rather are just relaying important facts in order to help the community.
Just my opinion anyway...
I think it matters HOW the information is relayed. Is it full of emotion or is it stated factually?
I feel a calm, well written and factual, almost bullet point approach may be taken more seriously than an emotional outburst type delivery.
IOW although it's hardly fair, even if a hooker is 100% in the right, but she comes across "cunty" (where's Tobi when you need her. lol) she may chase off guys who try to avoid drama by getting too personal, too cunty, too combative, etc.
I have seen too many women post a rant on their local board where they appeared to be 100% justified in their ire, but after several posts on the same subject end up showing an ugly side to them that left me thinking to myself "What a bitch, I NEVER want to see her in person"
One other thing to remember, every regional board has at least one asshole like me who is going to test you into revealing that "cunty side" of your personality. Do NOT be baited into playing that game if you value your business and your reputation. Someone like me has NOTHING to lose by engaging you and getting into a flame war, before you get into a flame war ask yourself if you can honestly say the same. Obviously I am not talking to H+T as she too has nothing to lose as no one (well actually a few of us do) know who she really is, and thus she has no real life reputation to ruin.
Hence my point on making it as emotionless as possible just focusing on the facts and once told, leave it alone. No need to defend.
No shows and cancelations are as much a part of this business as Viagra and stiletto heels. If I get stuck with the cost of a hotel, I’ll contact a regular and offer a deep discount to try and recoup my out-of-pocket loss. The goal of this business is to make money. Brandishing a flaming sword in a public display of indignation doesn’t pay the bills.
Sounds like fun though 
If it is just a board posting - then blast away. Assuming you express yourself in a non BSC manner, no one will think less of you. It won't change my purchasing decision. One of my regular providers often likes to give idiots both barrels. But to my knowledge, she's never commented on a review or a customer.
If it is a review - then, honestly, you probably need to not worry about it. If it is a lot less or very different than your other reviews - no one will pay any attention to it. All you would be doing on the local board is calling attention to it. People who give low reviews usually give other low reviews - and yes, we are aware that some of our fellow customers are scum....
If it is an NCNS, time waster or somebody running off without paying, that's really not a local board thing.... seems like more of a back channel/sisterhood matter to me
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To answer a few posts.... I didn't post BSC, never been that type of a person. It had nothing to do with a review, nor would I ever comment on one no matter how I felt, as people have a right to their opinions. Plus I'd rather my reviews be completely honest.
My post was clearing up a situation where the guy had ripped me off quite badly but yet keeps posting like Mr Nice Guy on my local board and the Newbie Board here. Did I need to respond to his ISO posts? No. However I felt other ladies needed to be warned. Honestly I have never dealt with a guy who lies so much, avoids screening as much as he can (with other gals), nor have I ever been ripped off.
Anyways I do agree it can come across as cunty no matter how right she is. At least he admitted to everything I had said, so it wasn't he said/she said, which was pretty stupid on his part. It is easier for me to post what I want as I don't advertise here (beyond my reviews) and I see regulars, so it is not as if I will be hurting myself in the process.
I believe that people should be held accountable. TER is meant to help all of us hobby safely and find enjoyable experiences. I have no issue with anyone being called out on bad crap they did.
I rarely, if ever, post on my local board. It's a dead zone most of the time and noone ever has anything fun to comment on. I get my entertainment on here and some other "local" boards. Shoot, I post more in a week on the Atlanta board then I have in 7 years on my local board lol.... but they are fun to tease and converse with.
If you have a clearly advertised rate and he didn't pay it after agreeing to, then of course you can make it known. There's not really any subjectivity there. It's one thing if a person is just annoying or disagreeable, but quite another if they cheat on a business agreement. I don't think that the latter would be perceived as drama unless it kept happening to the same person repeatedly.
"Calling out" anyone is never a good idea unless this someone is a major danger to providers, hobbyists or the general public! You could open a very ugly can of worms if you go there. Bad behavior comes from both provider and hobbyist, not just famous ones. Making note of his less than tasteful behavior here on the provider only board and cutting off all communication would be the the better way to go. Being a pro ball player shouldn't subject him to harsher consequences than any other client you've seen that might have displayed less than desirable behavior. Part of being a professional, in ANY business is being able to keep a cool head and to not take the bad behavior of others so personally. Cut him off and make other providers aware as you would/should ANY bad client. My humble opinion!
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your right on the money but when you do call someone out do so with a degree of thought. If you have a reason to call someone out think over the reason and think over the response. As always put on paper today and send it out tomorrow. tooo many thing are changing in the hobby and society in general. No one seems to want to confront the problem guy on the team or the in better terms liars and cheats . These people hurt both sides of the equation in our hobby.
For one thing, you could post the world's most truthful, factual information - and somebody WILL call you a liar.
There is (was) a guy on the NY board...he FINALLY got shouted off (embarrassed off), but only after YEARS of unabashed (and largely unchallenged) shill posts and outright bribery/harassment in exchange for good reviews. While his exploits were so well known as to be notorious...some people would step in to defend him! They either didn't read the posts exposing him, or didn't believe them. Or didn't care.
Also, as others have said, any negativity, justified or not, will turn off potential clients.
Besides, I don't think a post exposing the dude would make any difference. People have very short memories on the boards. You can 'expose' the dude, and then 2 days later, people will forget. Or, as said above, they just won't believe you