The customer was unverified. I've worked with unverified customers for so long that, though it has it's risks, it is still a group I'll work with CAUTIOUSLY. I only work with average or larger equipment, which limits potential meeting candidates. To cast out the unverified would leave me with BOB more often than I would prefer.
When you're hosting an unverified friend for the first time at a hotel, what information do you provide for the meeting location?
- Do you give the name and physical address of the location?
- Do you give longitude and latitude?
- Do you give enough for them to look it up and find their way to you? (my preferred choice)
I was hosting yesterday in Columbia SC when I accepted a meeting with someone who does not subscribe to review or verification sites. He had my general location already and shortly before our meeting time, I gave him the hotel name and street. He wanted to know what exit. HUH? I need to stop my preparations for our meeting to find my glasses, boot my PC, and look up the exit number for you? (and still be ready on time)
I would love to hear from both sides... what information do you give, ladies? What information do you need, guys?
I emphasized the newb because I'm a little more forthcoming with details to someone verified than not. (I still won't look up an exit number for them.) You can weigh in on that too.
If you provide the hotel name and street address, no additional information is needed. I've even had a few how will give me an intersection to work with and will provide the rest of the info once I arrive.
In today's world, I find it difficult to believe that folks don't have some sort of portable navigation device.
I would not expect someone to look up the exit number for me, but it would be a nice touch if they did. Since they have made reservations, presumably, ahead of time it isn't very difficult to jot down basic info regarding location. I often travel and hence are seeing women in cities I'm not familiar with. Too, hotels can often be tucked away behind other buildings where they are not always easily seen. I have often been told "I'm at the such and such hotel" and that's it. No street address and guess what? The hotel chain often has multiple locations in a large city so how the hell is one to know which location she's at?
As for navigation devices....Some of my vehicles don't have them and while I have a smart phone I don't use it for P4P, ever.
So, I do agree with you that hotel name and address is sufficient but I need that info before I head her way so that I can look it up before leaving my own hotel. When I explain this to the woman, I've never had one refuse to give me that info in time for me to look it up.
Regards......RR
...on Google maps or Mapquest. I don't have GPS on phone or what have you. It's never been a problem. I want all the info I can get but I prefer to look it up myself and do my own recon. I get there plenty early so I get the lay of the land.
Today I had a 1:30 session. Got the hotel and address about 11:00 am got there about 12:30.Made sure I knew where things were then headed to Starbuck's.
That seems like a reasonable question-if you don't know-say you don't know.
Sounds like you had an unsuccessful hosting and that perhaps you are pissed at the world in general ??!!!Anything to that ??!!
I'm just taking a pulse here, Mr Anon. I like working with partners who can think for themselves.
Do you really mean he was completely unverified? Or simply that since you could not verify him with P411 or TER that you had him provide other personal info?
That said, I do think it's weird he asked for an exit. Even if his car and phone do not have nav (and very few do not these days), with the info you provided he could easily have googled the location and driving directions from his home computer. He sounds like a dimwit.
Just tell me the address of your location and let me know from where you want me to make the phone call when I arrive there to get your room or apartment #
You didn't misunderstand.
Do you know the process of being a verified provider? You need reviews. I didn't have reviews for more than a year and a half after starting this (last May). Then you need X number of positive reviews for the Verification sites to consider you - that came around the 2 year mark. THEN you get access to verification. In the mean time, you figure out ways to screen for meetings that does not involve contact with other providers or asking for a blood sample.
The customer was unverified. I've worked with unverified customers for so long that, though it has it's risks, it is still a group I'll work with CAUTIOUSLY. I only work with average or larger equipment, which limits potential meeting candidates. To cast out the unverified would leave me with BOB more often than I would prefer.
But you didn't specify girth, lol, which for most ladies I believe is more more important than length.
Getting what you want AND getting paid for it - can't beat that.
This guy was clearly not the sharpest tool in the box. Was he smart enough to know how to reproduce? (Hopefully not... but I doubt it!)
I should write a new post, but I recently had a lady cancel on me a day in advance in a city I was visiting not too far from her home. Oh well, stuff happens. A few days later I planned to be closer to her home, so I decided since the nearest town to her was as good a place as any to spend the night, I would give our meeting another try. A day or two in advance we arranged the date -- again, her closest town, and she told me that she knew EXACTLY where the hotel was that I was staying in. She was running about an hour late, which she pleasantly informed me of throughout the evening, and that was fine. I told her my room # as well as sent her a text with the room #, just in case since she was driving. She called upon arrival and told me that she was in the parking lot and would be up in 2-3 minutes. About 10 minutes later I got a call that she could not find my room number -- she was supposedly walking up and down the hallway. I opened the door and she was not there. She decided to go down to the front desk to determine if she might be in the wrong Hilton. About 10 minutes later she showed up... she had been next door at the Sheraton. We both had a good laugh... stuff like this can happen to anyone. (And, yes, we had a nice evening anyway.
simply put are just not going to able to accomadate that request for step by step detailed directions............and you as an assitant also eatin from the same table as the lady working, No ffense but you should be on to booking her next appts and stuff not spending 20 min or more with one john. The point is to make a decent profit for you both and pay bills and provide for your children and then leave work and go home correct?
so if the lady that hired you knew your spending like 30 mins with one client who doesnt have map quest on his andriod? or he cant pull over at a gas station to double check he is on the right path?
i sang in so many bands and we'd play all over mass n.h. rhode island...................I know for me since i have some what of a large brain or so i feel i do,
oh as well as doing the strip club circuits I did the whole travel and do all the different clubs. Just in rhode island I tried cheaters, desires, cadillac lounge. Back then i was driving from lynn to find these locations.
any hoo , as for me, because I have a brain and also do not expect others to drop everything they are doing and hold my hand like a child and walk me through nonsense...................Just expecting some one to do all that for you shows they are self centered, one those people that thinks world revolves around them basically.
for them to overlook your working, you girls have a room your paying for to host from, ectect, but yet you gotta stop what your doing to spend and additional half hour with this clown. I can tell what guys mommies made them think they are too special as kids right away.
as for me when traveling to venues for performances , and dancing or whatevr i did alot of exploring new englands cklubs, for my dancing and singing careers back in my day.
Here is what a smart person does, that is self sufficient, not needy, and can find thier own ways to an address, sans being a drain on others, It actually is possible!
you get the godam address,
you map quest it,
now you stop in along the way at gas station or convenience store and just run the address by the clerk at register. Make sure to get your bearing and that your not driving like in the wrong direction by 6 miles north .
if your with out access to a computer for map quest hell I even have used public libraries internet if need be.
I really dont get how some people have gotten through life that HELPLESS and reliant on others. Any considerate person would GET IT. your working , your tryin to get your hustle on that godam room is what 200 or more? most gals on ter use the nice rooms too!
dude he was a hjelpless baby selfish idiot!
I have said to guys before flat out. If your that stupid that you cant find it, then i honestly dont even want to do the appt with you cuz thats just annoying.
omg! do they know how to go up and ask some one? i mean i never hesitate to ask directions at stores or gas stations too.
just last week i HAD A CLIENT GO INTO THE WRONG STREET NUMBER ADDRESS, BUT HE WAS KNOCKING AT THE CORRECT NUMBER UNIT.
SO LETS JUST SAY i AM APT 402, AT 560 CLARENCE STREET.
the guy calls me and say I am knockin at apt 402! I must be in wrong building!
I almost flipped! i was like slick! wicked slick dude!
grrrrr. i hate when they do that your tryin to be all stealth and they are essentially being foolish and messy and just not being discreet and makin big spectacle them selves, I was like you didnt read the address on front door?
he had aparently just puled into any old address but failed to make sure it was the correct address, he was at the correct number unit just in wrong building.
I mean its your call if your tryin to make money and busy you gotta communicate that to them, Tell the you do not do directions, they gotta do that on thier own, but again if it was slow and yall are like not tryin to get out of work with a huge stack of money and you can afford to soend like 2 hours on one client who cannot manage to look up directions.
it would be your call. I know I dont provide the exit number, and I dont provide what high way to take, sorry, flat out, not doin it, if they are that reliant on me too bad they wont get to meet me, I cant deal with that.
All of this due to an absolute refusal to even consider giving a guy-who's tongue will soon be up her ass-the exit number ? !!
Too Funny-especially when those who use GPS a lot know that there are a fairly high percentage of times in which the GPS will provide no info due to large buildings, tunnels, incorrect data being stored, a new address not in the system, weather variances etc....
This Gal has got it buzzin' today !!!
however, I have asked occasionally for the best exit, but only if I am in an unfamiliar city or area. If she doesn't know or come up with it right away, I don't worry about it and tell her that.
I never rely on a GPS totally. I still like maps, and if I have any trouble finding the place I will just call the hotel and ask for directions. Their staff does that all the time, and it's part of their job. Giving directions is not the job of the lady I'm about to meet.
it is a lost art form apparently. For me i never drove to any my bands venues or a any amateur night with out stoppin in a convenient store or sometimes even several.
and just say hey how do i get to so n so, those gas station attendees are direction whiz kids. Too bad nobody does that any more that for me was how i always found my way places, In addition to map quest that is.
now i have a nice phone that can actually read direction to you, you can type in walking direction driving OR biking, and put on audio and get rgreat directions on the google maps on the phone. aaah people whom do not learn to roll with the modern technological advances will suffer! you gotta adapt and learn the current technology of the times you old geezers.
omg ! just kidding. I am old too. bad joke.,
but it was worth it.
8o)
Then I got to her place but the door-buzzer wasn't working (I think you, too, experienced this, fish) so Angel yelled to me from her balcony and threw her keys down. That never happened to me before (or since). She really is unique.
That's old school. Guess I would fit right in then--no technology needed for any of that.
Sure, most everyone has a smart phone/GPS device, but you ladies are often seeing old guys who aren't well-versed in modern technology. For the sake of discretion, I can imagine that there are some guys who don't want to use their navigation device because they don't know how to delete their histories and don't want their wives asking why there are a bunch of hotel listings on there.
If you're not comfortable giving your exact location (hotel name and street address) before he's on his way, then you should be considerate enough to give him a location that's real close (next door/one block away?) and then be willing guide him the rest of the way. Granted, if he's just a dunce who needs driving directions from his door to your door, then he's not worth the time or effort.
I feel you don't have a GPS, get one.
Unless we've agreed on role play and I am paid extra.
I am not a millionaire and even i just bought 2 new phones one for work one for personal ,
they got internet on em, and its like hundred bucks for the thing, I mean in this day n age how in gods name do you not have a phone thaat has map quest and internet, those whom are ignorant to the times and technological advances will certainly perish. you gotta stay on top of current advances in technology or youl like live in some caveman bubble fog and just miss out. AND annoy every one while your at it, Cuz they will be like ummm, HELLO! how do you not have map quest on the dam phone like what are you in the ice ages or just like some lazy screwball that cant buy a 100 dollar phone with internet from metro pcs. Either they are broke cuz they are lazy and have some shitty phone with no gps so now they gotta like inconvenience every one around them cuz they are in ice ages. god. old people!
My car has navigation system. Would love to own bells & whistles smart phone, but hard to use for us who are hearing challenged. Still use a Jitterbug flip phone which is made for seniors with bad hearing. Granted, texting is a bitch, but doable.
and walk this old geezer through the directions, if you mentioned you use a jitterbug and hard of hearing my frikkin heart would melt,
the old guys get to a certain point where they are just adorable, you cant be short wit em.
aww. poor baby!
I haven't been asked that in years. Almost everyone has a GPS or Smart Phone, so they don't ask beyond the typical information... ie where I am staying at.
I have no problem giving Hotel name, address, or even the exit number (if they ask). It isn't all that big of a deal unless you are pressed for time, as you indicated, and didn't have that information readily available.
It doesn't take any more of my time to tell him any of that information, then it does explaining to him to look it up himself. I have that information within easy reach, if I can't just pop it off the top of my head. Even when I was out of state and guys asked for exit number etc, I would be willing to give it to them.
Also, if a guy requests help.... and you won't help him, it can come across as not being nice. Those feelings can run right into the time together. Just saying. If he asks last minute while you need to hurry and finish getting ready, I understand that. We don't have time to figure everything out for them.
Just because someone is local doesn't mean they know where they are going. Also, GPS isn't always updated and can lose signal.
This lady gets it ! Thank You !!! The other two ? Not So Much !!!
where a guy's house was in a bizarre area or you couldn't see the address readily. They have always guided me in, as they knew it would be very hard to find and possibly cause confusion. GPS would never be able to help in those situations, just get you close by. So that is why I don't have a problem helping him find where ever I may be, because I wouldn't want him to tell me to figure it out.
But, again, if the lady is pressed for time... at least wait til she is completely set to have her guide you in. We don't like getting ready once you are there. Me, I get ready so that I have some time to spare. Sometimes guys come a little early and I don't make a big deal about it unless it is too early. What do I do with this extra time in between? I putz on the net or watch shows on the net that I can pause and come back to later. I even return correspondence if time is allowed. One of the reasons I tend to respond quickly, I find the time on and off to get back to people.
in the last 2 years maybe 3....and this has occurred to me at 2 different incalls and it does bother me and worry me little so
I started a new way of them eventually finding me
so I tell them to go to the corner gas station and call me from there and then I can direct you in...
so the place i just left, I was there about 6 months and i had given my address out to 3-4 guys once I screened em and they never callec, texted, nothing...
that is to me really weird and creepy
so I stopped till i KNEW they had arrived
Regarding the hotel location, anyways....
Not every gal uses a hotel... But a street address is best... complete street address with city. It need not be your exact address... it is the call point.
I'd had gals who could observe the call point.
One gave me directions... as I drove around the block & ended up in the same place headed the other way... in front of her house.
Another checked from the hotel window before letting me in the side door.
Yet another gave me a street address... an odd number... there was no such number on the odd side of the street. She was on the even side behind me... LOL!
I actually save nearby coffee shops into my GPS... so anytme I go there... I'm typically within sight of the location. I try to arrive a few minutes early anyway & wait at the coffee shop.
Years ago a fav gal I saw had me get off a highway exit & call her & talked me in from there... the first time...
When I'm traveling I will give the hotel name and address or name and general location so they know which one it is if there is more than one of that hotel. I have yet to have someone ask specifics when I'm traveling.
The incall I use at home is super easy to get to, I often give out of towners directions. If its a local I'll just give the name and cross streets.
Though I often discuss the exit number to give people an idea of how long it will take them to get there.
I understand not everyone is tech savvy or that some people keep cheap hobby phones that don't have nav and they don't want to risk having the address in their personal phone. Everyone has asked me in advance though. I don't mind having to give directions as long as they are considerate about it. When I'm getting ready for an appointment I usually time it so I'm just finishing a min or 2 before the start time. If someone calls rite before and I have to spend 5 min walking them in I hope they are understanding when they have to wait in the parking lot for 5min while I finish getting ready.
I never give a room number till they are at the location. Not only for saftey but to prevent people from surprising me early.
- Do you give the name and physical address of the location?
- Do you give longitude and latitude?
- Do you give enough for them to look it up and find their way to you? (my preferred choice)
I was hosting yesterday in Columbia SC when I accepted a meeting with someone who does not subscribe to review or verification sites. He had my general location already and shortly before our meeting time, I gave him the hotel name and street. He wanted to know what exit. HUH? I need to stop my preparations for our meeting to find my glasses, boot my PC, and look up the exit number for you? (and still be ready on time)
I would love to hear from both sides... what information do you give, ladies? What information do you need, guys?
I emphasized the newb because I'm a little more forthcoming with details to someone verified than not. (I still won't look up an exit number for them.) You can weigh in on that too.
and then a call or text for room number when I arrive seems to work best.
As a Newbie, I did have a lady send me to one hotel - only to redirect me to the "real" hotel when I called for the room number. I'm generally pretty chill, but with Newbie nerves on overdrive that "redirect" didn't sit well with me. Especially since I wasn't expecting it.
If we are meeting, it is probably in one of the cities near me and I am driving 1hr+ each way to meet you. As a non-newbie with good references and advance booking, I do appreciate getting the address WHEN I need it - usually when we confirm the morning or afternoon of our date. I can then PLAN to be there on TIME, plan where to park, plan to avoid traffic and construction, etc.. (guess I could even google the proper exit number?) 
Just my .02
to play the dumb ho, and say, 'Why, honey, I have no idea.'
I mean, the exit to what? His house? His driveway? I-95, or some random local highway? His ass?
Who in this day and age doesn't have GPS or some other app?
I had one provider I had seen at one hotel. On the next appointment, I knew it was going to take 40 minutes to get to that side of town and she had said she would let know 30 minutes in advance of our appointment where. Guess what, she was on the other side of town, I was late, but was time limited so was short visit.. Morale, if you want the client to find it themselves, give them plenty of time. If you give them short notice on location, please be ready to give directions.
I always ask providers when confirming the day before if they will give me location. Some do, some don't. Even repeat providers.
As other's have said, their mongering phone may not be smart and they choose not to leave any data bits on their non-mongering phone or car GPS looking up a meeting location.
Yes, just about everyone these days hane GPS in their cars and/or phones, and even without that you can still do it the old way. A fricken paper map, or Rand McNally. I think it was dumb of him to ask. What exit anyway? How do you know where he's coming from or which direction?
On the other hand, you can simply answer, "I don't know," instead of getting upset about it and venting on the GD.
And this coming from a guy who was one of the last guys in America to get a cell phone, and only very recently caved-in and got a smart phone! Printed maps before this to get from A to Z, and with no problem.
years.
I am unsure I d be able to be much a help to em. Half the time i dont have a clue where i am exit wise, If anything i grab a cab and of course you need not know any thing about the local roads when your payin a cab to take ya there.
I never know what the hell exit number i am near. I wouldnt be a help on that one,
Luckily for me no ine ever has asked me what exit i am near.Havent had that happened yet !!!!
I enjoyed the post personally, lol.
I didnt think she seemed upset she was just like uh are you serious?
there are alotta those moments in the biz from the ladies side. maybe not so much you guys, I think this was a chic thread. like something for the girls to rap about.