hello all, I am new to TER, but have been hobbying for a while.
I had an awkward situation happen with an SP I have seen over 2 years now.
We had an overnight date planned and decided we try some bars after dinner..we both drank a bit.
At one point she takes off for a long bathroom visit and when I try and find her, she's making out
With a random guy!! He leaves she apologizes. We end up back at our hotel..
We had fun afterwards but I felt very odd..Should I feel bad, or just understand that
I am a Client and stuff happens?
Next morning she was cold and distant.
Thank you for your thoughts and comments..
Don't see her again.
And probably worth a mention in a review. And I'm with inicky on this- move on. Too many great ladies here to dwell on one who has such bad manners.
A funny story: I once read on a review board where ladies review male escorts about a lady who'd hired a guy to be with her on a weekend trip. One evening she had some work to do, so sent him off to a club to enjoy himself for a couple of hours. She woke up to find he'd brought another woman back to their room, and they were in their private hot tub! You gotta wonder what goes through some people's minds!
There is no excuse for such unprofessional behavior in any escort regardless of behavior.
...so kudos to you for making lemonade out of a lemon.
I hope that her chilliness the next morning was due to embarrassment and the knowledge that she probably wrecked a good thing.
I would have left her to go fuck the random guy if that what she wanted. He was paying for the "illusion" of a real date and she stole that from him.
OF course it is possible that she was making out with the random guy and was "chilly" in the morning because deep down she can't stand the OP and he makes her skin crawl, but she needs the money so she puts up with it while self medicating with alcohol and kissing random, non disgusting dudes for free. Of course that would only be an explanation for her bad behavior and still not really an excuse.
I agree, I wouldn't have proceeded either, tho he probably gave her the envelope in advance. Here's a thought though: maybe when he saw the provider with the other guy he should have asked her for a refund right then and there?
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think she would have given him the envelope back?
I would hope he outs her on his regional board and makes the comment in the review as Sarah suggested. I would certainly want to know about this if I was considering seeing her.
her in front of the guy she was kissing, it would not result in getting a refund but would result in thoroughly embarrassing her. Which might be a desired result...
I would hope he outs her on his regional board and makes the comment in the review as Sarah suggested. I would certainly want to know about this if I was considering seeing her.
That's exactly the desired result Sarah. At that moment that would be worth the contents of the envelope to me... well, sort of. You rock!!
I would hope he outs her on his regional board and makes the comment in the review as Sarah suggested. I would certainly want to know about this if I was considering seeing her.
And I wouldn't care how embarrassed she got. She deserved to be embarrassed and a bit poorer for lack of holding up her end by kissing that clown on his dime. Then made lemonade out of a lemon by calling someone else who would do her chosen profession with some degree of professionalism. And who care what her chilliness was from. It just adds insult to injury. I hope her reviews this chick with all her issues on as many sites as he is a member of. No kudos form me for letting such behavior stand. Now if he has the balls to honestly review her then he gets some kudos from me but not for encouraging such unprofessionalism.
Pick her up stone drunk off the bathroom floor ROTFL
You all quit picking on me dammit!
You were out with a woman who has chosen, from all the businesses, arts, sciences available to explore and exploit, to make her living sucking cocks. How did you expect her to behave? You got an apology, apparently embarrassed the interloper to the point of sending him on his way, then fucked the apple of his eye for the evening, and woke up with her at the disadvantage of having behaved badly the night before. If you enjoy the power play you can afford to give yourself, you have a lasting memory and an interesting war story to tell.
I've got to say, this was a fun read, WB. Now I know who to talk to when I'm feeling down lol.
It’s off-beat and clever and I get a kick out of reading the dudes quirky-stuff from time to time. It makes me think of freedom’s lofty potential through self-amelioration (from philosopher John Stewart Mill).
I mean what would you do if some hot chick came up to you in a bar and started sucking your face? Ask her if she was a hooker on someone else's dime?
Let's leave the blame where it belongs, it's HER fault, no one else's
mental judo of flipping the incident into a victory.
The last thing I would want is a hooker who would rather be kissing some random guy for free than paying attention to me, the guy who is paying her.
Sorry, there is no way that busting some poor guy in the chops is going to turn this into a victory for me, too bad that busting her in the chops is not an option, but immediately ending the date is an option, and definitely that option I would choose.
Or she wins even more...gets to kiss someone she prefers and does not have to deal with the paying client AND walks away with his money.
Certainly really bad form on her part. If she was not into the guy so much so that she could not hold her end of the transaction for the time paid for, she should have refused the date and kept it to more manageable time frames. I know full well who I can spend more time with and who I can't so would not put the john or myself through the wringer.
Let me chunk it out here, because I actually agreed with you and disagreed with WickedBrutus. OP busts interloper (1) in fist (2) with interloper's nose. This is a joke. Means OP gets beat up physically. The point of the joke is to place the best perspective on what happened, as did Mr. Brutus. I very much agree with you, that the bottom line is that OP arranged an expensive service and then was treated shabbily. Not to mention, I can get similar treatment for free! 
…since that did not happen; it’s a cheap shot on the provider’s part.
I will blame in on sobriety as I was stone cold sober this morning, which I am sure you will also agree, is when I have most of my reading comprehension issues. lol Sorry.
She chose to suck cocks for a living so "How did you expect her to behave?" Really? So by extension we should expect all hookers to behave like this? Bullshit. Most of us have never had a girl act like this and never will. Most of the women I do business with behave quite well, actually. If you've had experiences that have led you to "expect her to behave" like the OP's date, that's a shame. But we pay them to pretend they aren't repulsed by us and to NOT kiss random guys when out in public with us. So, no, we don't "expect" them to behave like this.
I see a variety of ladies from the higher end all the way to BP ladies and not once had I seen a lady kiss anyone other than those in the sexual encounter I paid for. I would be a git upset myself. She can kiss fuck or whatever when not on my time but for hundreds an hour her focus should be 100% on those I am paying her to focus on. Most sex workers are more professional than that and given the flaky nature of some on the lower end that is saying something on that ladies conduct. There is no reason to paint all sex workers with that brush. Inicky is 100% right.
she was there with you. "Making out" is more than just giving her number to another potential client. It was rude & indiscreet.
It would have spoiled the night for me. Probably not getting the donation back. Lucky sheeven came back from the ladies room... that she didn't run (SCAM) on you.
But I'd not see her again.
Or would you like it if hookers were to have a bad experience and come on here and NOT be specific to the one trick that caused her grief?
And while I am at it...your view of hookers puts you in the shit for brains category of a loser type trick who is socially retarded, ugly as a bucket of fuck and stupid beyond belief because you pay for sex.
My last sentence only applies to this tool, not all mongers since he has the narrow minded view that any woman who gets paid to have sex is expected to behave in that fashion.
That was a splash of cold water in my face. Good to know what you really think of us. 
And here I'd been crushing on you from time to time. I won't make that mistake again.
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The "random"guy is her hubby/bf/so?
Just a thought.
Thank you
2015 = 2
NYY winning the World Series this year.
Of my ten worst hobby experiences, I'd say alcohol was involved in about 7 of them.
but out of my top 100 experiences, I bet you alcohol was involved in 80.
I would have assumed it was involved in at least 95 of them.
It really surprised me just how many great "sober" experiences I have had, go figure??? lol
"Alcohol, the cause of and cure for all problems."
I've done some stupid things while drinking outside the hobby. That's why I don't drink while with a client; it's just too easy to become unprofessional.
where do these clowns dream up this fucking bullshit??
I had an awkward situation happen with an SP I have seen over 2 years now.
We had an overnight date planned and decided we try some bars after dinner..we both drank a bit.
At one point she takes off for a long bathroom visit and when I try and find her, she's making out
With a random guy!! He leaves she apologizes. We end up back at our hotel..
We had fun afterwards but I felt very odd..Should I feel bad, or just understand that
I am a Client and stuff happens?
Next morning she was cold and distant.
Thank you for your thoughts and comments..
It's exactly what it is a fantasy.
There's definitely no need to feel bad because she just has no conscience. Making out with a stranger in the bathroom and acting odd and distant the next morning summed up everything. She's not a girl you should waste your emotions on.
no conscience today, but maybe a conscience tomorrow. A sobering thought, indeed.
which would reveal it was a paid date. In the cold clear (and sober) light of day, I don't believe her story that the guy was random... an ex, a BF, a FWB... but not random. If I could have thought fast enough, I'd have done pretty much as the gent did & ask "What's going on here?" Because she was his date for the evening & beyond. Hooker 101 is no refunds... so likely not gettng one...
Perhaps another tactic would be to ask her if she wants "to call the date off" with the implication that he pays for dinner but there is no donation. (Perhaps just a more gentlemanly way of bring up the donation issue.)
The next morning, she should have tried to put on a show of being at least attentive to him. Cold & distant does not cut it. This is supposed to be fun... if it isn't, rethink what you are doing & who you are doing it with.
I have to say, a drink or 2 is no big deal but I have the feeling that more alcohol was involved. More alcohol makes for bad decisions. I think excess alcohol on a date is a bad idea.
Regarding you brief story, besides lack of professionalism from your hired escort by her making out with another guy on your dime breaks an unwritten rule that she should direct all her attention, affection and sexual desire only towards you for agreed upon time; especially, if no other person is mentioned to partake in the fantasy tryst. Also, it isn’t such a moral thing (why justify morals in this activity) it’s a business practice that has to have some standard to work to lead to a better chance of success between the two of you.
Now with alcohol in the mix, that can change things and affects people differently lowering inhibitions and stuff happens, but still, not cool what happened to you—even if she apologized. Like a job, she was working for you. Before and after that, she can do what she wants, like go back to that bar and find that guy and make out with him some more, but will she be able to get him to pay for it!?
However, you don’t say you gave her the donation ahead of time; hence it makes me wonder if you were afraid of losing it and/or losing out?
If I was in your shoes, I certainly can relate to the odd feeling you’ve stated after you had fun back at the hotel because of the bar incident. (I take it.) Then when the session ended, with her treating you cold and distant, it could be that the alcohol (which causes hangovers) affected her unfriendly mood Although, a warm kind ending would have sealed the deal and makes for a good review or follow-up?
Should you feel bad? It depends on how comfortable you are with the overall session from dinner, drinks at the bar, her making out with the unknown guy, fun back at the hotel, and the cold-hearted ending. Take all of that into consideration and weigh it out—pros and cons. Then, only you can answer it. Although, I think it’s clear that any of the other’s who hire escorts would not only disapprove of her making out with another guy on your dime, but it would be strong enough indication to break off the session and recoup some of the monies (if) paid ahead of time. Anyway, best of luck on the next choice; hope it’s successful for you