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lessdoitagain 29 Reviews 2021 reads
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Hey ladies.
I have a question for you. Does jealousy occur when you are working or sharing a spot with another provider and one is getting more business or attention than the other.  i ask this question because I chose to visit a particular women but when I got to the location I noticed a woman I had seen previously sitting in the location.  I could tell that she was surprised to see me and not happy. Awkward!  She ignored me the next time I attempted to contact her

...it doesn't have to and in my own experience it has not. Many times I have seen ladies who use a common location and was able to say hi to one while there to see the other without any awkwardness

I share space with other ladies, and I want them to be as busy as they want to be, and they wish that for me.  In fact, I refer clients to some of the ladies that share my space and vice-versa.  I'd be far more worried if the ladies i share space with weren't busy; rent has to be paid, after all is said and done, and no one likes to struggle. I know that some of my clients have seen my friends as well due to references and the like. I have zero issue with it.

Now, as you've experienced, jealousy does happen.  And of course its a bummer when you're having a slow week and one of your spacemates is having a wickedly busy one.  That bit of envy creeps up all the time, but its up to individuals to control that envy and remember that everything ebbs and flows. There's no reason to be crappy about it towards anyone.  

Also, in all the incalls I've shared, we always made it policy to not have anyone else around when a client was due in. I'm surprised that there was someone else there that wasn't a part of your session when you got to the incall space, honestly.  

Anyway! I can only speak for myself, and I'm sure other ladies have different feelings and experiences

In business, men compete to be the best at their line of work.
Sales reps compete to make a sale,  
As normal is it would (feel/hurt) to loose a sale so is as getting a reference request.

We are not jealous, we wish we wowed you enough to not want someone else.

Its life, WE, ALL, individually always want to win.

zp

Zoey- with your numbers you should have no reason to be insecure. As for referrals/ references I tend to use the ladies I like the best and have the most return visits with. They know me the best and should be comfortable with a request. Most of the time my next vist is back to the reference as after the new encounter I find I know why I started where I did. If my regular provider either does not or will not give a referal I will not return. I understand it is competition and more importantly if is ones livelihood.

Hey,
I was interested in the lady because she looked a lot like the woman I had previously visited, I call  the # and I realize that it is the address as the lady I had seen before.  I sit there and I have to decide to go in or leave.  I realize i can't leave because that would be rude. So I go in and I think that maybe she had changed her number because she is sitting there and now I don't know what to think.  I would agree that she should have left because I was totally confused as to who I would be seeing. I am sure that she probably saw my # on her girlfriend's phone when I called before I came in.  Why would you stay there and make someone uncomfortable.

Sunset and Vine or what? I mean you walk into an incall apartment and one of the ladies that you've seen before is sitting on the sofa painting her nails and she sees you and if looks could kill...that kind of awkwardness??

wrps07493 reads

I remember years ago a provider ranted on a board that a hobbyists was going to pay another provider more than he was paying for after he used her for a reference. The new provider got on the board and told folks she should not be acting like his wife.

Other providers have lesbian relationships that break apart. In the beginning while the relationship is good they tell new clients you can use them as a reference. The client does not always know the relationship falls apart. Then when reference times expect major drama.  

The other funny one is to see a provider one day then her provider sister the next day. The first one that you saw will roll her eyes at you lol.

Dear Do it Again-
Im sorry you had that experience and felt akward seeing a previous lover at another lady's incall.
There is a certain maturity afforded a true professional that goes beyond petty jealousy.
In my opinion there is NO need for jealousy, and if a woman is truely confient in her skills
and abilities, she already knows not to take it personal. Variety IS the spice of life! That's why
I LOVE MY 'JOB'!!!
Happy hunting!
Lady V

Stickythong511 reads

can all be pretty vicious. Close proximity and competition for attention, dollars or mates can lead to toxic environments. Yes, I have been involved with women from all three. There is a fun little massage/he place in Belvidere Illinois. The lineup comes out and you make your selection. For the less than attractive ladies I'm sure it is worse than being picked last for the team in grade school. The good looking ones get booked all day, while the others fight for the scraps. I'm sure it sucks when the guy looks at the lineup and just leaves if they aren't attractive enough.

icebear468 reads

If you place 50 girls or more in a club (Germany) you'll off course get many of these kind of jealousy things. I've seen very popular girls been thrown out, because others worked together to provoke conflicts... walking into cigarettes and claiming it was done on purpose, those kinds of things. In one of the more popular clubs, I know at least three (very successful) girls that were asked to leave after these kinds of actions by lesser performers.

But in more cases the jealousy is aimed at the client. The amount of squabbles between regulars and their girls is unfathomable. I've seen girls leave the club (and any chance to make money) in the middle of the afternoon because a regular went with another girl, I've seen girls hurt in their pride and refusing a (former) regular, because he went with another girl... there are guys that call ahead to a club, just to check if their regular is NOT working; otherwise they know they won't be able to go with anyone else.

I'm not one to stick to a single girl for days at a time (on a normal clubday I go with at least 3 different girls), but still I've had semi regular girls ask "permission" - well, more like asking if I didn't mind - to go with another guy.  

My funniest jealousy related thing happened on a very quiet weekday. A girl I knew spotted me immediately after she came in; she was tired and only showed up because the boss had asked her, so she was happy to have found a familiar face to just hang out for a while. For an hour or two we just had a laugh and played some games on her smart phone - conversation was limited to basic topics, since I was speaking my fourth language and for her at it was her third language at best - after which we had reasonable sex... previous session where a bit better, it was clear she was tired.

Girl nr2 was the actual reason I had come to the club and one of my favorites at that time (I even called to check if she was working). She had arrived while I was goofing around with Girlnr1. As soon as I was "single" again (after the session Girlnr1 and I had a bite to eat), she immediately demanded my company... even if I wasn't up for anything for a while. She was grumpy, passive aggressive... but insisted on staying by my side (or on my lap). Turned out she didn't like that I had spent so much time with the other girl (different nationality as well), especially the time we spent in the room (the places where you go for sex). This was actually not at all the case, me and girlnr1 were active for about an hour (which is also what I paid for), after which she wanted to sleep a bit... so I let her sleep for about an hour; it was actually nice to have this young thing curled up and sleeping in my arms. I didn't tell girlnr2 this though... things weren't improved when a different girl came by angrily to ask me about something she thought I'd written about her on a local forum (selective translation by some douche). So After sitting with this passive aggressive and cross girl for a while - and trying to cheer things up - we went to a room and had an incredible "session". It was exactly like make up sex, including a few small things that made it feel "almost real"... at some point with her on top she broke of the kiss and just leaned back and said "you didn't call before you came"... I had told her about my checking her presence about an hour earlier;). And there more of these things where I just had to confirm that she was pretty, and that I liked being with her... to make her blush and beam. I think this turned out to be one of the longest session I've ever had.

All this might have had something to do with the fact that these were very young girls (19 and 21 respectively) and not at all long in the business. Besides the good sex, girlnr2 had this thing of seeming shy and apprehensive... only to open up immensily if you were nice to her. She didn't have the strong work/personal division... at one point she had a boyfriend she met in the club, after that ended she would get upset when that guy visited the club again... I heard she is now married, to another guy she met in the club.

-- Modified on 4/6/2015 6:31:00 PM

JoelGoodsen558 reads

from a provider I had seen fairly often when eventually I asked her for for a p411 ok.  She was definitely not pleased and waited quite a while before giving it to me.  And we were on great terms, but that pretty much caused the bottom to drop out.  

I've had another refer me to other providers when she was not in town.  

So i guess it just depends.  And I have no illusions that it's me that the first one finds me so attractive that she doesn't want to share me. I just don't think she liked the idea of my money going anywhere else.  So Im thinking it's not jealousy in the interpersonal sense, but depending on the finances of the provider it can be from a business sense given what is still a pretty tough economy.  Every dollar I don't spend with her was a dollar she'd have to get somewhere else and I got the feeling she liked seeing her established friends rather than always looking for a new one and done'er

ATLDAWG462 reads

This is one of the reasons those that insist upon referrals often send guy's on a hell of a chase-gal's  want guy's to provide references-but sometimes act very indignant when asked to provide one -Even when the gal that is seeking the referral is a coast away !!  Oh Well-This Is The Life We Have Chosen !!

JoelGoodsen395 reads

Very true.  I guess it helps to have lots of potential referrals for this reason.  And yes, this is the life we've chosen;  well put!  

Posted By: ATLDAWG
This is one of the reasons those that insist upon referrals often send guy's on a hell of a chase-gal's  want guy's to provide references-but sometimes act very indignant when asked to provide one -Even when the gal that is seeking the referral is a coast away !!  Oh Well-This Is The Life We Have Chosen !!

It does happen because we all want to make money and feel a type of way when we dont. Everyone  
deals with things different. I however if she was my friend i would have  been like "hey you know you could  have us both at the same time." not many men will turn that down when it is right there in your face, Unless it is really not in your budget. Right temptation is hard.........You already think they both cute because you already seen the other and are about to see this one

Especially if the one on one is mediocre at best, two mediocre chicks at the same time... is a waste of time.

Posted By: 84moneywellspent
It does happen because we all want to make money and feel a type of way when we dont. Everyone  
 deals with things different. I however if she was my friend i would have  been like "hey you know you could  have us both at the same time." not many men will turn that down when it is right there in your face, Unless it is really not in your budget. Right temptation is hard.........You already think they both cute because you already seen the other and are about to see this one.  
 

I understand that hobbyists are allowed to (and free to) see anyone they wish. I give references and never get upset if someone wants to see someone else instead of me. I am thankful for the great gentlemen who chose to spend an evening with me in the first place!

Kisses,
Holly

Her loss for letting her emotions get the best of her. Lol.

 
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