There are definitely signals, but most of the time those signals aren't one-sided. When people have great chemistry, it comes from both sides. I find that most of my repeat clients are those that I have the most chemistry with. I've had some regular clients develop that have indeed surprised me; obviously they enjoyed themselves, and that's really a compliment. Perhaps they picked up on some sort of chemistry that I didn't, or perhaps they just liked the way the session went and felt comfortable enough to see me over and over again. I mean, hey! What's not to love?
I'm just always surprised by that repeat booking when the chemistry (at least to me) wasn't there
My ATF and I were talking, and I asked if she knew that first time that I would come back. To my surprise, she said, "No, not at all." I thought it was fairly obvious.
Ladies - do you know when a guy will see you again, or become a regular?
If I have an O, they'll usually see me again. If not, no.
There are definitely signals, but most of the time those signals aren't one-sided. When people have great chemistry, it comes from both sides. I find that most of my repeat clients are those that I have the most chemistry with. I've had some regular clients develop that have indeed surprised me; obviously they enjoyed themselves, and that's really a compliment. Perhaps they picked up on some sort of chemistry that I didn't, or perhaps they just liked the way the session went and felt comfortable enough to see me over and over again. I mean, hey! What's not to love?
I'm just always surprised by that repeat booking when the chemistry (at least to me) wasn't there
I really don't know who is coming back after the first visit. Sometimes I have an amazing off the charts visit. I think "wow, we are kindred spirits. He is going to be a regular" and then I never hear from him again. Other times he seems so unimpressed and I think I've blown it but then he calls every chance he gets. I've stopped worrying about it. I am just grateful when they do return
Sometimes, guys tell me they'll see me again, and just disappear. Sometimes it's the opposite...'Well, I rarely ever get out here...', or 'I rarely see someone more than once' and then a surprise email pops up.
Sometimes, I don't know why a guy wants to see me again...to me, the chemistry felt off, or he asked for something (like hard-core BDSM play) I really don't do. Other times, I've felt that I really hit it off w/a guy, and am a little confused that he didn't choose to see me again. (Most times, though, I do have some idea why he's not contacting me).
No way to predict it at all, so I just accept it as it happens.
When it clicks with a lady, there are so many diverging factors involved in a return visit. Distance, timing, price point, auntie flow, cash flow, juggling, sexual appetite, skill specific desires, depth of connection, location, mutual enjoyment (pink panties is right), vacations from the hobby, real life drama, and on and on.
Some specific examples of being unable to return to an outstanding connection. I called for a return visit only to find out the lady had moved her incall next to my place of work. I called for a return visit only to find out the lady had moved her incall down the block on my street. I called for a return visit only to find out the lady now only works mid week, instead of my necessary weekends. I called three different times for a return visit only to find auntie flow prevented my visit in each case. I called for a return visit only to find out her price had gone way up, and I wasn't grandfathered.
It works the other way too. Recently, after clicking with a gorgeous Asian woman, I did my return visit two hours later. She was shocked, like that had never happened before. To insure my return, sometimes a lady will offer me a deal. One such lady, who needed some money up front, offered five sessions for the price of two. I took a chance, and she was true to her word. It was like I had three free sessions to hold in reserve for when the cash flow wasn't there.
Based on all of my ever changing variables, I think it would be very hard for a lady to predict my return. After a stellar first session, I might come back in two hours, or never. I hope the ladies don't feel badly if circumstance prevents my return.
Have you ever met someone for whom you flipped so hard that you were scared to see them again for fear that things would get out of control and you would end up in a relationship that you hadn't bargained for?
I did, once, and didn't walk away either. Now I'm married to her. I'm not complaining, but it definitely wasn't in my plans at the time.
Absolutely. I saw a lady this past summer and we just absolutely hit it off from the moment we met. Thankfully she was only visiting. Had she been someone I could see on a regular basis, I would have been in trouble.
There is one woman whom I've seen twice and remain completely infatuated with. After the second visit, I wanted to see her again as soon as possible. Instead, I made myself wait a few weeks. Unfortunately, since then, I just haven't been able to make it happen. First she was sick. Then she was out of town. Then I wasn't available when she was. Now she has a boyfriend and has quit working. She says she knows she'll go back to working at some point and doesn't want to lose the ones she likes, so I still give her a call now and then. It's pathetic, I know. That's what aliases are for.
She sounds like someone I know and spent time with. She quit a few months ago because she said she was involved. I haven't communicated with her since.
Odd that she mentioned she'll be back. Guessing she's not overly optimistic that her relationship will last.
... to not take my hobby playtimes outside professional bounds.
That being said, I've met some amazing women through the hobby and there's a few who are especially dear to me.... but as friends, not potential SOs.
Yes, I flipped, but I wasn't scared at all. She was so hot, and had an incredible, fun loving personality. I knew it was real when the first session (fbsm only) progressed to gfe. It didn't end there. Later that evening, she pulled out dinner, and invited me to stay the night. So yes, I had been initially invited to her home, not her incall. I was married at the time, and told her that was why I couldn't stay. But seven days later I was knocking on her door. This session was free, dinner was served, and there was a standing all night invitation. I again, reiterated, that this couldn't proceed past what we were doing. I also felt guilty about the free session, so I told her that if I returned for a third visit, it had to be paid. I was back at her house seven days later. This time she had a gift for me. A rather expensive one at that. Of course I couldn't accept it. There were quite a few very extended sessions after that, with an array of extras. Since I was unable to reciprocate, I knew it wouldn't last forever. Eventually, she went silent. I found out through my inside sources that she had met, and married, a different hobbyist. A year later I noticed that her fbsm price was dropping. It could only mean one thing. No calls. So I wrote her a gentle email explaining how I would love to be her fbsm client again, understanding there would be no extras like before. She agreed, and I still see her all the time for fbsm only. I absolutely love her, but more, respect her. And if not for my previous relationship, like you, would likely have married her. Life is all about timing.