I came down with the cold or flu the night before a visit. Informed the provider, a first visit, that I was sick and didn't want to make her sick too. I very rarely cancel, never at the last minute. She accused me of being full of crap and told me to come up with a more creative excuse.
I understood her position since she didn't know me. There was little point in trying to convince her otherwise.
Damn shame.
and/or cancelled?
I remember once a provider had posted on this board that she was no showing because of (the apocalypse or a meteor, something like that). She really, really got into the whole reasoning and was pretty serious! I have seen some posts on here over the years of real "off the wall" reasons as to why late or cancelled.
Doesn't happen often to me and mainly it is because either the wife came home (and now he has to pretend to go grocery shopping in order to see me... because that takes 2 hours and barely any groceries brought home lol), traffic, or work. All understandable reasons. Never been told any BSC stuff. Be nice to have someone tell me something goofy so I can laugh at them 
The only reason I am ever late is because of traffic, which rarely ever happens. One time I was 2 1/2 hours late because of a oil tanker that turned over and the whole freeway was locked down. Hazmat personnel and the whole she-bang. It was on the news, so all was forgiven (and I called right away to tell him and he was the one who told me what had happened).
Wait, I take that back... I cancelled two days worth of appts because I got an emergency call that my niece was getting ready to be born (4 weeks early) and there was no way I was going to miss that. I had to high tail it out of town and I just got outside the hospital room when she "popped out". Then I had to go pee since I had held it in for 7 hours after drinking a ton of coffee. HA HA. I had already planned on going down 2 days later to prepare for the eventual birth... surprise on everyone!
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things come up at work that have not allowed me to escape on time. Probably not a good career move to tell the boss I have to leave now or I will be late for my escort appointment. However there have been times that I announce, early in the day, that I have a dental appointment to make sure I can get out on time. However, that dog can't hunt to often since that would become suspicious and someone would eventually call BS I would imagine.
I can find you in my own town with my eyes closed, but when I am called out to an unknown area, I get frazzled..LOl! Yes, I have a gps, but sometimes it gets frazzled and confused too...It's a machine telling me what to do and has an unsettling voice when it has to "recalculate" me..ugh!! well, I have a few nasty words for her too)"Bi**h" when she does not get it right or runs into construction zones. I grew up using paper road maps (anybody remember them...LOL) and never got lost..End!
Other than that, I am there!
I always print out a paper map and my car still has a road atlas in the pocket behind the seat.
I am always pissing off the GPS lady to the point where they end up saying "fine" and then won't talk to me anymore.
Once the GPS told me to stop at a gas station and ask.
Long story.
I've never been late to a session. If it's a session in town, I usually arrive in her area 15-20 minutes early. If it's a session out of town, I like to arrive an hour early. And no, I don't go knock on her door. I find a quiet little place to sit back and relax until game time.
Of course I've had a couple of close calls. I got a flat tire on an out of town session once. I got the tire changed, got some quotes at the tire shop, and still made the session on time. Another time I was stuck in serious traffic. Even one hour early didn't help. I called my atf to tell her I'd be late. With her it's no big deal because she always goes way over anyway. But the traffic cleared, and I made it to her apartment right on the hour. My perfect streak was still intact.
I usually arrive early and cool my heels. I need the time to unwind. Also my Jewish mother instilled that on arriving on time is late. GPS has taken care of the "I got lost" problem/excuse, IMO.
the makeup part thereafter is priceless!
When driving myself I've never been late, usually arrive 10 minutes early to allow for traffic or getting lost. Will pull into a nearby business and surf the web until time to go park at the right place.
Have been late when a scheduled taxi never showed up. Hotel front desk was going nuts to find a replacement (I'm a regular) since there was an event in town that night, and they had other guests in the same predicament. Finally one girl took me aside and asked if I'd be okay if her brother drove me - hell yeah, just get me there! Pirate taxi saved the day; along the way I kept my girl updated and was barely 15 minutes late - she made all the stress disappear with a single kiss. And then extended our time. Lovely girl.
Have only cancelled when I've been sick, but thankfully that's only been once and I was able to tell her three days before the date. She's on the list for next trip there.
I had to cancel when a local but severe weather even made driving impossible. By the time she picked up, I should have been there. She couldn't extend ourtime for what ever reason & my time would nearly have been up if I managed to drive there. She was understanding & we rebooked a day or 2 later.
I now plan to arrive a few minutes early... then withdraw to corner coffee shop until my time. (This doesn't work if you are at the wrong hotel!)
I went to wrong hotel once... different hotels with same brand. Figured out pretty quick & as they were within sight of each other... I got a slightly shortened appointment
Is a big one, especially going into NYC. I'll usually plan for about 3 hours, which in most circumstances, is a very generous allotment of time that will leave me with enough time to order a light snack and read a few chapters of a book. But about 1% of the time, it's still not enough. I remember once I had that perfect storm of a traffic jam on the highway, bridge/tunnel traffic, construction on the FDR, and then a garbage truck on narrow a side street I tried to cut through...took me about 5 hours door to door.
Once, I was a half hour late because I had to go to the emergency room earlier that day (I was fine, but needed to be checked out). That wouldn't have made me late in an of itself, but the ER visit took so darn long that I actually did end up having to contact the client and move our start time back...a half hour. I explained what happened, but believe it or not, he was actually kind of a jerk about it... Never saw him again.
I was also late once because I got the hotel wrong...I hadn't known there were two of the same hotel in an area, and went to the wrong one.
Getting hopelessly lost is another thing that sometimes you can't plan for. I mean, like so lost you find yourself staring at a Moose Lodge and your GPS doesn't work.
Being late is very stressful, as is traveling, so I generally try to leave enough time to relax and unwind before dates. Stuff happens, though.
... Behind VOO-doo lol
Once was a call from work and there was an emergency I had to tend to, so I called the MP I was headed to and explained and they were fine with that. Once while headed to NYC I hit horrendous traffic and was about 15 minutes late. I always give myself an extra hour but that didn't do the trick that time. I still had the date, but forfeited the 15 minutes ( plus some.)
Given the thousands of dates I've had over the last 40 years, that ain't too shabby.
usually a bad accident or unexpected construction. I usually plan for some traffic problems, but some things really are unforeseeable. Once had my GPS send me to the wrong location.
If I'm running late, I simply let her know and keep her updated. A little communication works wonders.
I don't recall ever cancelling once a date was confirmed.
an appt at 7 pm or so.
I was departing my trip to dentist then my mani and pedi then shopping for a new dress to answer door in.
I walked in the dispatchers office to book my cab home maybe 3 miles from home. Was an alarming long wait, Wasnt an awful lot I could do bout it.
Got home. Didnt get time to get the apt presented in the way Id have liked too. and a bad review followed stating apt was a tad messy.
I had planned on tidyin up before they arrived but now due to cab situation lost that hour i wouldve spent feeding dog upon getting in ect ect.
I had arrived and he was outside waiting, i had him come right up.
I had to ask if he will be ok if i feed my dog first before we begin {since i had been out for like 7 hours since 11 am!
it was terrible!!!!!!
I hate hate hate feeling unprepared or running late ! hate it!
I ended up getting a very bad review too after.
oh well. Luckily that isnt an every day occurance. that was like, a year ago
Only time, I've ever been close to being late was when she finally got around to telling me we where on, I had quite a distance to go get there.
I've canceled appointments, But never closer then 2 days ahead. Most recent was more then a month away, found out I'll be out of town after scheduling. I've had one NC/NS, and a few other cancellations one was almost to little time to get another date.
Cancelled a couple of times, I travel a lot in the winter and usually come down with the flu. However I cancelled a few days in advance. All the providers were gracious about the cancellation and I saw them at a later date.
I was two hours into the three hour drive to her place. Things were going smoothly when I heard a loud pop and then a grinding sound from under my vehicle. Pulled over and saw a stream of reddish fluid running out from around the transmission area. Called for a tow, rode with the driver thirty miles to a repair shop. Then rented a car from there and drove on the rest of the way to the gal's house.
I was a bit stressed out over it all, but she took it all in stride and even allowed me to spend the night at her house. The next day I decided to drive back to the repair shop, meet another tow truck driver there from my home town, and ride back home with him--vehicle in tow.
I had plenty of time to think up an excuse for my absence and so things worked out OK. Also, that just seems to be how my life goes. But I think the tow truck driver I rode home with was wondering why I looked so happy with all this shit happening to me.
I came down with the cold or flu the night before a visit. Informed the provider, a first visit, that I was sick and didn't want to make her sick too. I very rarely cancel, never at the last minute. She accused me of being full of crap and told me to come up with a more creative excuse.
I understood her position since she didn't know me. There was little point in trying to convince her otherwise.
Damn shame.
The one time I canceled was an hour before and it was because my son got sick and so my father who was watching him that day had me pick him up. My wife was at work in Nevada so I had no sitter, had to cancel.
I made things right. I rebooked and when I seen her then I not only paid for that session but half the value of the session I canceled. My time is very important to me, the time of the providers I see is no less valuable than mine in my opinion. She never asked for the extra, but wasting her time getting ready and any expenses she was out deserved something in return.
I was able to research TER and find the correct phone number.
Ha, President Obama came to our town. I sat in traffic over an hour as he was departing. My client was also stuck in the same traffic on the other end of the same highway.