I agree with cvillerlp,
Incall freaks me out also. Other people live there or come and go, no pun intended. Basically I don't do incalls. Again losing the cash is a cheap lesson, put it in the bathroom and NEVER speak of it. Just have fun with your new friend. If she leaves and forgets the cash in the bathroom then congrats to you. Most likely she wont. Put your valuables away, if there is a safe all the better. Really have a great time relax and enjoy. Well reviewed is the best advice you can get.I have seen a few providers (still relatively new), and provider only offers outcall. I have in the past only seen providers with incalls. However tonight I am out of town on a business trip and the providers I am interested in only offer outcall services..
Any tips for the newbie
Outcall to your hotel room is OK. Just don't ever do an outcall to your own home.
Beside doing your homework well beforehand by checking reviews make sure don't fall for any trick once she arrives. That is, don't ever let her leave the room for any reason WITH the donation. That's why you want to have your own condoms so she can't use that as excuse to go out to her car.
Whatever leverage you hold is BEFORE you hand over the cash so use it wisely. It's a good idea to ask her to turn off her cell phone, remove her top prove she's not a LE decoy with wires, asking for more specific sex acts so as to avoid upsell problems etc... etc..
...any wires. You're busted. While I don't put anything past LE the wires are just unnecessary. Checking her for those is like believing they have to tell you they are LE if you ask or they can't grab your junk if they are LE. The guy is already nervous don't tell him that stuff.
Yes, he should do his due diligence in researching. But wires?! Just shaking my head. :-~
it's a great way to get a slap in the face and ruin any mood you might have going for you.
The only good advice by Shyfyre is to make sure that you have condoms as it is true that once a hooker leaves your room on the pretense of getting condoms, that is most likely the last you will ever see of her. 99% of reputable providers will bring condoms, but for that 1%, and your peace of mind, be sure to have some too.
but NEVER do any of the so called "LE checks" it ruins the mood and does NOTHING to protect you.
The truth of the matter is, if LE is your major worry, Outcall is much safer than incall as LE hates to send in a female officer alone into a situation that they cannot control completely. Risking a female officers life to get one single solicitation arrest is hardly a good return on investment for LE. I am not saying that it never happens, just that the odds are in your favor.
Not just LE but also a check for ROB-ish behavior. A ROB will not likely to undress before money changes hands. A ROB will claim that donation is for time spent only so no need to get naked. So would an UP-SELLER...
Slap in the face? hardly. Mood? yeah right. What mood can there be between a prostitute and a client? or rather what mood is needed for fucking and sucking? maybe you're mistaken in your delusion that she's there to be your lover, your SO, your wifey...?
Bottom line is mood is irrelevant. She either performs well to earn a good review which is good for her future business which might even including repeat, or she takes offense taking out on her client so as to earn a ruinous review?
My bet is she's smarter than that!
do you hobby and who do you see????
I agree that keeping the donation if she tries to leave the room without providing service is a fair thing to avoid a "cash-n-dash"... but just damn!
Asking her to turn her cell off? Yep, I'm sure that makes her feel safe and want to stay!
Asking for sex acts for money? Oh, that must inspire confidence that YOU are not LE! Ooopps; forgot you were just making sure she wasn't going to upsell you... most ladies really do love it when you assume that is what they plan to do!
And then, my favorite: Ask her to strip so you can check her for wires. LOL!!! You are watching too many (old) movies. You'd never see the wire, dude. Technology is soooo much better these days!
I'd suggest you check her reviews, invite her over, make her feel welcome and safe, provide the donation up front, make sure you have a condom or two of your own (anyone can forget or have the wrong size), and simply have fun without the bullshit games
Um....no, no, and no. A lady is not going to completely turn off her cell phone (it should be on silent, but not off). Removing her top proves NOTHING...LE can and will do most anything for an arrest, and decoy's don't wear wires, as the room itself it usually wired (not the girl or guy) and most often happens during incalls so LE can control the situation. Asking for "most specific sex acts"...if she is LE, you just got yourself arrested and if not, mot reputable ladies will walk out at this point.
It is unlikely you'll be in for an LE sting anyways, as LE pretty much sticks to incall busts, though there have been exceptions.
Well she is verified on another site. So I think I will be ok... Just newbie gitters ha!
You might want to lock up all your valuables. You don't want anything walking out. If your not sure about her reach out to some of the people that have seen her and ask about her.
As been said, Don't let her take the donation out of the room. I heard of a scam where a provider will "Leave her
handbag" as proof that she's coming back because she forgot, condoms, lube, or her phone in the car, but the bag is actually a second hand store "prop" filled with miscellaneous crap. I just hope your hotel's elevator does not require a room card to work.
I only do outcalls and I always have my own condoms and lube. My .02.
Any tips for the newbie?
I am definitely not an authority on the subject and I don't have a long list of reviews or providers but after careful review of a select list of highly regarded providers I only have outcalls to my home. As a widower, I don't have to sneak around. The people in my personal life who mean anything to me, know what I am doing. So far, I'm still alive, never been walked out on with the contribution, mugged by a wicked pimp or any other nasty happening. I suggest, just be careful.
much less risk for the guy if the provider is reviewed... I always try for outcall, if your in a hotel and its not the woman in the ad simply don't open the door.
Any tips for the newbie?
The costs involved for providers is much lower if they don't have to provide a room.
Also congratulations Miss TER!
I was just making a joke in reference to your handle.
But yeah, if I'm in my home city, I prefer outcalls by a very significant margin. But that's primarily because I'm not fronting any money for an outcall. It's probably different for ladies who are higher volume or who have a static incall. Since I book my incalls per client, a last-minute cancellation on an incall royally fucks me over. I'm a lot more lenient with my cancellation fee if it's an outcall.
Only ask well review ladies to come see you that have reputations to protect.
Lock your valuables up. No reason to think she'll steal them, but no need to take the chance.
I leave the donation on the bathroom counter. If she's going to steal it, I want her to have easy access to it and a quick path to get out. It better to lose the cash then to have a bigger problem. Have some mouthwash, condoms and water to offer her. Shower and scrub yourself really clean, brush your teeth a few times but don't become bleeding gums Murphy or there will be no kissing.
This is how its gone for me.
She knocked on the door.
I check that its looks like a female through the peep hole.
Open the door.
Say something dumb sounding like, hey sexy, you are beautiful, I'm so happy we could get together.. Follow her lead but present yourself for the usual kiss and hug. If you intend to do the date, don't block her way. Depending on how she rolls, it may led to a lot more kissing, to sitting a bit and talking, Hell she may even drop down and start blowing you. (never happened to me yet) She may head to the bathroom to get ready the donation should already be there. Or you could, excuse yourself first, to wash your hands and leave it then if you where unsure if you where going to go through with the date. Personally, and its never happened, A girl isn't getting much past the door if she isn't the person I called or I detect some other issue. She will be checking out the room for issues like another dudes hiding in the closet. Leave it partially open, just like the bathroom door should be open. Anywhere someone could hide should be open. You need her to feel safe.
She's likely excuse herself to the bathroom to get ready. Which means changing clothes and to check the donation. This varies, most check, some don't. I've had ladies never count it, just take the envelope at the end of our date and leave, to ladies counting the cash out in front of me.
Depending on your experience level this is where the date moves forward to sex. You'll lead or she'll lead but you'll get laid.
Use a condom, blow a load, clean up, maybe blow another load, help her get dressed and maybe a kiss or hug goodbye.
Take a shower.
Write a review.
Start looking for your next date.
Everything you need to know is in the very first line, everything else will work out if you do that
I am still pretty new and have had the some pretty extensive 'phobias' too. However, my perspective is a bit different. I will ONLY do outcall. Incalls are what freak me out. I feel like I have much more control of the situation at my hotel room (I only hobby on the road...NEVER at home).
I will only see well reviewed providers. That coupled with Outcall is about as safe as it can be from my perspective.
Any tips for the newbie?
I agree with cvillerlp,
Incall freaks me out also. Other people live there or come and go, no pun intended. Basically I don't do incalls. Again losing the cash is a cheap lesson, put it in the bathroom and NEVER speak of it.
Just have fun with your new friend. If she leaves and forgets the cash in the bathroom then congrats to you. Most likely she wont. Put your valuables away, if there is a safe all the better. Really have a great time relax and enjoy. Well reviewed is the best advice you can get.