Ok... so I do not travel all that much but every once in a while I have the itch to go to a new city for a week or so and have a little change of scenery. Which bring me to the ask the following question:
Do you guys prefer to setup appts via text or email? without any type of voice communication at all? I only ask this because my home base is NJ and well, guys here pretty much know my MO in NJ. I will not meet anyone unless we have some sort of voice contact prior meeting (aside from my usual screening process). Hearing someone's voice can help a lot when you are about to meet somebody new. But in my most recent trip to DC there were a few people who just wanted to deal via text... which in my opinion is a red flag to stay away from that person. Regardless of my personal opinion on this topic... don't you guys wanna hear the provider's voice prior meeting them? I mean that tells a lot no? does she sound bitchy? tired? personable? friendly etc..for multiple reasons, including safety for both parties. Email/text is OK for initial contact, but I need to talk to you if I'm going to see you. I also think it is imperative for the safety of the provider to make sure the customer is coherent. Actually, this goes both ways.
Some providers insist on a voice call like you, while many others prefer strictly written communication, and others are ok either way. Same with the clients. Some prefer one or the other and some don't care. I'm in the don't care category. I actually prefer email or text for all preliminary setup, but don't mind a phone call or two to finalize things. I will say that in the past 5 years or so, the majority of my dates were set up with no voice communication at all until the door opened.
You also have to look at agencies, bookers, and assistants. Most of those dates are set up with no communication at all between the provider and client, until they are in the room together.
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Text, email, all fine with me. Hobbyist gotta have a burner phone with text ability and a hobby email account. As far as a voice call, that is nice but not required from my side. If a lady wants voice, of course I am happy to comply to make her comfortable.
Now in one case, I actually was so turned off in a phone call that the lady had required that I opted not to see her. She kept me on the phone a long time, yakking about herself in a grandiose way that made me think she was a nut job. I had such a hard time getting a word in edge wise, let alone ending the call, that I envisioned sitting on her couch listening to more yakking while sand rushed through a large hour glass.
....which is kind of unusual considering that it would be a great way for a provider to confirm that I am who I claim to be. I guess my main method of correspondence (email) is good enough for them.
I do not sound good across a phone, and I avoid it unless necessary.
In your case, it is a part of your screening process. I most likely would fail a screening process such as yours.
There are plenty of providers here who do not require a phone conversation, so I do just fine.
Go with your gut instincts and continue doing what you feel is safe
If u have reviews or are verified and explain your situation, I'm sure most girls would understand. I know I would.
In your case, it is a part of your screening process. I most likely would fail a screening process such as yours.
There are plenty of providers here who do not require a phone conversation, so I do just fine.
Go with your gut instincts and continue doing what you feel is safe.
If I have done my research properly as I always do, I know what to expect. Anybody, hooker or john, can have an off day. Hearing their voice won't change that. There is ton of info that can be gleaned from text messages if you are astute.
and more accurate. If I'm in a hotel lobby and there is a lot of ambient noise or the provider has an accent I don't want to have to ask her to repeat the room number, and maybe more than once. Happened to me once, very uncomfortable. One text, room xxx, we're done and no worries about knocking on the wrong door.
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continued playing an online game, kept zoning out and dropping our conversation. I lost all confidence in her screening and ability to keep us both safe. (How bout that interception?)
If a lady wants to talk, I'm game for that.
Funny thing is though, while I'm very relaxed on dates, I do get more nervous on those short phone calls when the lady wants to talk to me to basically screen me. But I haven't been rejected yet, so I guess I haven't sounded like too much of a babbling goober, lol! (or maybe I'm just a sorta awkward-charming goober that peeks her curiosity??!)
several providers who want to chat on the phone as a part of "getting to know you to see if it would be a good fit". No pun intended.
Telephone usually requires scheduling by email to make the telephone call. Heck - my clients have to schedule calls with me during the day usually via email. At night, my wife objects to me having long conversations with providers.
Don't mind talking to the ladies - in fact, it can be quite enjoyable. Oddly, though, the conversation that you have may not have much relationship to your date. I had a very business like first chat with a very well reviewed provider who honestly seemed a bit distracted- almost felt like I was booking a hotel room - but in session, she was a lot of fun to talk to.
It's just usually inconvenient. Once I have established a client relationship, it's all email..