Well she seemed to indicate it would be on the table in future visits since she said she didn't know me well rather than saying she didn't offer it. She's new to the biz, about 1 month now, so I'm hesitant to minus points considering that it was a good visit otherwise.  

I guess I'm just curious if anyone has had similar issues, if there's any logic behind it (doesn't seem to be) and how others would have handled it. I just accepted it at face value since I liked her overall attitude but it did occur to me when she let me go down that I could have said something.

Thus, what you have to say is totally irrelevant in this regard.  See ya!

That thought crossed my mind, though the return visit would make much more sense if she had enthusiastically slobbed my nobb when I asked. No mention of an upsell but rather a simple maybe once we get to know each other a little better. Could be a tease just for repeat visit, and does increase the possibility of a repeat visit over mention of additional charge which has always been an automatic non-repeat for me... but again a quick bbbj would have made the return visit a sure thing.

Neither she nor I mentioned CBJ. I don't care for them.

Girls are so confusing sometimes. If I do return I think I'll bring fresh test results

Yea you're right, there's times when I didn't ask for or receive a BJ. Actually I rarely request BJs. They happen often enough anyway. We had talked for a few minutes and she asked me what I'd like to do. Not totally natural but she's still new like I said and there was some tension like there can be on first visits. BJ came to mind so that's what I said.  

It was a good session, it's just that my inability to understand what was going on there has bothered me every time I think about seeing her again, and I do think about it. I'm thinking some tactful communication before another visit might clear things up one way or the other.

Thanks Stevie and everyone else for the replies. It's nice to have a place to come for these type questions

I was hoping for a few responses from the ladies

That's interesting but the chart doesn't details the reasons, and it doesn't seem totally intuitive. I did find some answers in a Salon article

"One takeaway is that — sorry, fellatio fans — blow jobs tends to be riskier than cunnilingus. “Across all STIs and all sex acts, generally the receptive partner is the one at greater risk for STI and HIV acquisition, the idea being that wherever ejaculate winds up, that’s also where the greatest burden of infectious material will also wind up,” says Hurt. But that hardly means that cunnilinguists are in the clear: He also says that the risk of contracting syphilis, herpes or HPV by performing oral sex on a woman is “arguably just as high” as with fellatio “since these infections can occur both inside the vagina and on the skin surface.”

Makes sense, but it still doesn't explain why receiving a blow job is risky.

I didn't ask about CBJ. If she offered it I think she would have suggested it. The way she worded things, she would offer BBBJ after she got to know me better, though she also mentioned not knowing I was clean... though a visual and olfactory inspection is about as well as you can know someone in that regard without asking for a recent test result. I didn't offer to use a condom because I've never had a good CBJ (maybe just never had the right girl do one) and just wanted to move on from her cryptic comment.

I've got my ATF lined up next week and a new girl that's cute as a button for the week after. There's been a ton of new reviews in my area I like so I may never see her again. It was fun but I've decided her comments were too odd. My somewhat extensive experience with BP has taught me that small signs of trouble can indicate more to come and one of the previous posters was right... there's way too many girls worth trying to fret over that one.

However, it's been worthwhile in that I made this post and learned a bit more about STD risk and have an interest in clearing things up a bit more. It's a bit disconcerting because I'm now looking for more specific information on oral transmission risks rather than just assuming "low risk". If it turns out that cunnilingus is fairly safe but I can get all kinds of stuff from getting BJs... well that's just not fair