She's not in the mood, on the rag, or too bored with sex to have fun or she wouldn't have suggested it, so especially if I know here reasonably well, I'd go with what she wants to do and see if I can figure out what's up with her. 2 hours of wall to wall uninspired sex sounds...like working out at the sex gym.
Unless I had some particular fantasy I wanted to explore that night; that would make it a spoiled evening. Besides, there's always Sunday. I assume.A hypothetical based upon a true story (and no, I did not make this offer, and I won't say - yet - if I accepted it or not) lol
Let’s say a provider and her prince have a Saturday night date set for 2 hours for $900. Let’s also assume this is the third or fourth encounter between them so they know each other reasonably well and they click nicely as a hobby couple. And let’s also assume neither have plans for the rest of the evening following the two hours set aside for this date.
Now, putting yourself in the gender appropriate role assume that the other party makes you this offer:
a. for the same $900 we’ll go out for the night and not look at the clock. The Prince takes the Lady to a really nice dinner, dancing, for a drink at the hotel bar, and then around 1 am or so you crawl into the room and probably spend no more than 20-30 minutes getting cleaned up and do only a bbbj until a happy ending, period, adios
or
b. you do two hours of wall to wall sex as planned, with only the necessary down time chit chat breaks?
Ladies? Princes? Which option would you go for
Last appointment down time was not that long. After we cleaned up I had the provider put her chest on my chest and I got an instant hard on. She called me a horny dog lol.
You're wining an dining her and you only get a BBBJ for it? That's one expensive BBBJ!
Forget the dollar amount, the OP won't have any dignity left by the end of the evening.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wXw6znXPfy4
a is too much pay for not enough play.
Every once in a while you make perfect sense, but it still worries me whenever I agree with you. My default setting is to disagree with anything and everything you say. lol
Because I know that I'll probably see her again, then we can BANG it out.
LMFAO
If we do A: I ate too much, drank too much, I was out too late. I am exhausted. I will worry that i was not fun or chirpy enough and that the client will not book me again. Next day...I need to take a run and catch up on work, but I am SO hungover and tired! And I woke up much later than usual.
If we do B: I can eat dinner at a nice place (alone, and I can read a book if I want to). Or, I can eat a meal I cook for myself, in the comfort of my own home. I can either get some work done before I go to bed, or I can go out if I choose to, at a place I choose to go to. I can leave as late (or early) as I choose. I can get up early and rested to do XXX and XXX the next day.
Time is not just money...it is TIME (the one resource we can never replenish) and, more importantly, it is ENERGY.
I have an all-evening package on my site. It is HEAVILY discounted from what would be my hourly rate for the same amount of to me. It is not just there for aesthetic effect...people actually book it!
I d rather do 3 gfe appts and then spend the day doin my own thing. go the gym, Go get mani and pedi,.M aybe work on painting that accent wal in my bedroom.
I dont have any "hobby "boyfriends i d want to be trapped with all night n day for what i can make in 3 hours .
I do have personal life friends I d like to spend my free time eating with handing with ect, But There is not a single john I can think of i d enjoy spending a night off with for a 3 hour gfe price.
I d prefer to just get a hotel and see 3 clients, Then do ME.
and if those 3 gfe clients are all balls to wall full hour hard core, oh well i will at least have plenty of extra money to cover a nice back rub after they leave at the hotel spa.
I think too many the johns let it go thier heads and the term "hobby couple"
I dont get that, i dont have a hpbby bf and dont want one,.. I like that guys that know what it is I am an escort, Yes I kiss your asshole at the appt you paid for, But please dont ask me to spend a day with you for my 3 hour rate, Let me do my job and leave.
I wouldnt do a or b.
as much as i enjoy my job out of my 100 reviews, there is not ONE guy i d want to give an entire day of my life over too , for a 3 HOUR RATE.
i D PASS, i AM NOT A DATING SITE
I feel the same. I REALLY like some my clients. But my life is MINE and my time belongs to ME. The clients I like are very supportive of my goals and WANT to make me happy, $$$ wise. Or at least they pretend to, lol.
I used to schmuck it up with those guys who wanted free dinner, drinks, etc. All in the name of keeping regulars happy. Night after night. I was always so exhausted and never had the time or energy to pursue anything but menial errands (getting nails done, hair cut, dresses bought and tailored, etc). Once in a while, I would read a book...but it is DRAINING to give so much time away to others who will just demand more in the future...
If I am giving 4+ hours to a guy now....at least I can say that it is worth it. It pays me sufficiently that I do not l resent the time and energy expended. I can afford another class; I can refuse a 2 hour appt from a guy who wants to see me at 9AM the next day after the 'marathon' date
... and I only play the dating game for free. However I can understand your desire to keep your time, for yourself. One day you might that your perspective, may leave you lonely and jaded.
Are you really that impressed with yourself every time you receive a manicure?
I hate manicures. I get them because clients like them. Hence, referring to them as a menial (tedious) errand.
I do not mind pedicures, became I can read a book or catch up on emails while getting one. However, manicures are pure torture. I feel like a prisoner. I am supposed to sit w/ my hands under a dryer for 10 min ( yiu are right, I should not complain... the TV is blasting Rosie) and not touch anything for like 45 min. Try that someday....
Btw, I am a tomboy and would NEVER pay $$ for that shit unless I was getting paid. :-
That you only had time to invest back into your business/profession. That's what having a job is all about. Just because you find errands to be menial that doesn't mean you can't appreciate what you receive from your efforts in pursuing those menial errands.
if I am putting THAT much time and energy into something, I should be getting paid commensurately (or at least, I should have a vague promise of an eventual promotion...for escorts, that is not applicable). So, I expect to be paid my (discounted) rate for 6-8 hours for an entire evening, not something that's the average going rate for 2-3 hours.
It's when you're giving OTC (I consider $900 for a whole evening a 2-3 hour fee plus TONS of OTC) all over the place that you're exhausted AND broke. And, you have no time/energy to take classes or develop skills that will basically function as your 401K.
OTC doesn't help you keep regulars (at least, not good regulars) - I no longer see ANY of the guys who used to take advantage of my time. Learned that lesson the hard way, when I was newer
I understand that, and agree with you based on my observation of looking at things from your perspective. You may have taken my comment out of context, when I said only having time for remedial errands are part of earning a living. Especially when you run your own business, most successful businesses do not run themselves.
Aren't you the only one who dictates your schedule?
That's the problem with women today, personally I think going out on the town is overrated. Usually it's yuppies, baby boomers, and teenagers trying to impress each other.
She's not in the mood, on the rag, or too bored with sex to have fun or she wouldn't have suggested it, so especially if I know here reasonably well, I'd go with what she wants to do and see if I can figure out what's up with her. 2 hours of wall to wall uninspired sex sounds...like working out at the sex gym.
Unless I had some particular fantasy I wanted to explore that night; that would make it a spoiled evening.
Besides, there's always Sunday. I assume.
But to only end up with a quickie for that much money sticks in my craw, so reluctantly, given only the two choices, I'd go with B.
But if I could start A with a decent one hour GFE and end up with the quickie before we depart, I'd come around to A.
In fact, that describes a great number of session that I have, except that more often than not I'm invited to stay for breakfast as well, and if I'm up for it, a wake up call too.
I am paying to do nasty things to a sweetie with a hot body. While I may like her and enjoy talking to her, there are much more enjoyable ways to spend my evening in conversation with others, and I know there are much more enjoyable ways she can spend her evening. I have friends and family who enjoy my company. Most of them may not be as cute as my favorite provider, but spending an evening visiting is not about how cute my companion is for me.
She will do it, of course, if the money is right, but keep in mind that it is a long shift at work for her. To put it differently - if you could go into work, get your job done in 2 hours and then head out to spend the rest of your day however you want, would you prefer it to having to eat lunch with your boss, sweet talk him/her for 4 hours, then do a half-assed job in 15 minutes at the end?
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I have paid for all of my time and NO provider has ever given it back or offered to see me for free. When I first started I wanted to be friends, but have gotten over that. That's not to say there are not "friends" out there....just none for me.
If there is one thing that is a certainty or truth in this hobby, it is YMMV.
Girls will do things they say they wont. Recently I had a combination of A and B. Paid and planned for B....and it was good. It was late on a Sunday night, I had no where to go. I guess she didn't either. Room serviced food and drink. Enjoyed it and a bit more fun....we just clicked and she had the time. I finally said we better call it as I had to work early am.
Have also had times where I paid for B, lady was late, we had nothing in common to talk about and she left 15 minutes early with my blessings.
Be yourself, Be CLEAN, don't ever expect more than you pay for, let it play out.
All of my meetings have been fun........except one and that's and whole story by itself.