I don't construe any of that as a confidence projection, but simply that most women have moods that most men can't understand.

That's why there's alcohol.

Posted By: Kisses_Jones

Ladies & Gents,  
   
  What's your take on this?  
   
 For me, I can have several different moods. My sexuality can be slut soaring high, usually once I'm fully comfortable with my date. Or, you caught my during a good shift of the moon .  My sexuality can be neutral, there just for your pleasures not completely turned on. Or, just skeptical of your moves. For example, you keep asking me if we can go bareback. WTF! Just because I've done a few porn scenes does not mean that I want to have unprotected sex with you! I can be really playful & youthful at times. That's usually when I meet someone whom I hit it off with at 'Hello'.  
   
 Not meaning to confuse you guys with my different takes on a encounter. Admit it, we all know there's either electric chemistry or a bad decision from curiosity.    
   
 But, does the confidence the lady walks with scares the thought of your chances with her?  
 Do you believe that you have a chance either way because she's a sex worker?  
   
 Let's talk about it....

...can easily adapt and go with the flow on new dates - then this is exactly what I like.
If you mean aggressiveness and dictatating the how and when of all the date activities rather than letting that be more of an organic unfolding in tune with both of our desires - then no, that's not something I particularily like.  I have had a few dates where I did feel like the lady's personal boy toy, which on one level I enjoyed - knowing she was really getting off - but on another level, it was almost TOO much about her, lol!

Edit: Forgot to add, never "frightened" - if we aren't a ggod match, we aren't a good match.  That's about it.

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scares and threatens many men.....some of us women too! I sometimes find myself a bit intimidated by a very sexually aggressive woman, though at the same time it is the biggest turn on in the world to me.

If by having a chance with her, you mean having a chance of pleasing her, having a mutually enjoyable session, yeah, I used to find a woman’s confidence intimidating. Because I would associate her confidence with her having had good lovers, her having seen every trick in the book, her having high standards, her being hard to impress, etc.  

I always found the confidence sexy, I would just worry if I could measure up.  

Then as my confidence grew, it didn’t bother me anymore. One of the reasons my confidence grew is I accepted every session is a puzzle, every "body" is a mystery. I just had to be willing to figure out what it took to make things work. She’s experienced every technique in the book? Doesn’t matter. If that’s what works for her, it can feel good the 1,000th time like it did the first 999.  

Once I have a clue, my job is to then not piss her off or turn her off because no technique will work once that’s happened

I can dig a demure girl, but I love a woman who embraces and enjoys her sexuality rather than guarding it like it's some kind of prize she needs to lock away and only dole out in small doses to those that pass multiple tests. This is probably why providers turn me on.

I find confidence attractive. I go into every new encounter titillated by the possibilities. Some are meek and submissive. That has its place. Some are more into controlling the session. When done right that can also be a turn on. It is at its best when two individuals who are confident with their sexuality meet. Sometimes it is instant other times it takes a session or two. When it happens it is something you remember. Would I ever be frightened by it? No.