For it to have integrity, the best of a bdsm relationship is based on a consensual and what I even call a "consultative" understanding between top and bottom. That's what gives it some degree of responsible behavior on both parties part. When someone says "forced" that undermines the whole honest bdsm ethic. People coming into it need to understand that mutual agreement on both parties part is what makes it mutually respectful. The bottom ultimately determines how far and where it goes. The top has to respect the bottoms wishes. That is why it ultimately empowers the bottom. That is the safe way. And new people coming in to it need to know that and practice it that way.
We are all adults, so let's just agree to disagree on subjects. BDSM is not about judging others on their personal preferences for certain fantasies &/or fetishes. Let's be nice here because you may scare off some people from sharing & this is a public board. Play safe, but always have fun!
I only judge people who are judgmental.
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For it to have integrity, the best of a bdsm relationship is based on a consensual and what I even call a "consultative" understanding between top and bottom. That's what gives it some degree of responsible behavior on both parties part. When someone says "forced" that undermines the whole honest bdsm ethic. People coming into it need to understand that mutual agreement on both parties part is what makes it mutually respectful. The bottom ultimately determines how far and where it goes. The top has to respect the bottoms wishes. That is why it ultimately empowers the bottom. That is the safe way. And new people coming in to it need to know that and practice it that way.