she's a hooker and fucks for a living.
As others have posted take ALL the money out of the equation and create a civvy relationship. However you know that she'll need to continue fucking dudes to make her rent, car payment et al. I trust you're OK with that. If not...go and play elsewhere. As for marriage...sure. Then you can play here and cheat on her. All the while she'll be playing you as well. Sounds like a match made in heaven. Feel free to send the wedding invite to my handle here. I just want to see if she's going to wear white
I have been seeing a provider regularly at an agency for the past year. She is really hot with curves off the chart. A couple of times I took her home after her shift. I also gave her a ride to the supermarket, the drug store and the shopping mall. The last time I saw her, I treated her to dinner. In case you are wondering, she did not charge me for the time being with me at dinner. I am starting to have some emotional involvement with her. She told me that she would consider a serious relationship, even possible marriage. It is not for my money because she knows I am not wealthy. I want to ask the ladies here...can you ever get involved emotionally with a hobbyist while knowing his history and that he is not wealthy? And for the gentlemen here, I would like to ask ... can you imaging yourself getting seriously involved with a provider while knowing how many thousands of men she has been with? So should I or shouldn't I ?
you should proceed with extreme caution.
Even if you aren't Daddy Warbucks, you have enough money to make yourself "interesting" to someone who is out to screw you over.
Believe me, there are a lot more tales of woe than joy on this particular subject.
So, go slowly in the relationship, and make sure you check out the myriad of factors that signal whether or not this is right for you and her before making any major commitments.
Let me ask you this one: Are you OK with her continuing on in her chosen field and having a SO relationship with her? If not, abort the mission now. The world does not need another Capt. Save-a-hoe.
You did end up marrying a provider? How did it go or how is it going so far?
I really shouldn't say too much since it's been just under a year, but having a long distance relationship has a lot of merit. We are very different in a lot of ways. For example she is a night person and I'm a day person, at least in order to hold my job. I'm also a neat freak and she's a hoarder*, so the separate abodes work better.
We get together 5-6 times a year and that is really great when we do. Otherwise we talk daily. We've more or less been carrying on this way for the last 9 years anyways. We decided to tie the knot to show our respective families and friends that we were really serious about each other. Plus it was an excuse for a really great party.
I think more people ought to consider this lifestyle.
*No sniggering!
The cast of characters was about as strange as you could imagine.
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No to mention you knew that lady in question for years before you got hitched.
PS: Since your First Anniversary is coming up, let me wish all the best to you two crazy kids.
I have the propensity to be considerably more verbose.
Come on man, it's only four days into the new year. This shouldn't come up for at least a couple more months. BTW, how big is too big?
skepticism, I think a real relationship can arise under any set of circumstances, including this sport. However, all I hear from you is "some emotinal involvement" and she is already dropping some pretty big ideas around, something tells me that something is not quite right.
As for your penultimate question, that is one I can answer for myself, I would not give a rat's ass as to how many men a woman has slept with so long as I loved her and vice-versa.
After all, I've been with thousands of women, and that shit goes both ways. Even some hookers have gently "chastised" me for being such a slut, which I found highly amusing.
You've made some really dumb posts in your short time here, but I'll give you the BOD on this one. Yes, a real relationship is possible, but if you want to really find out if money is not part of it, it will be necessary to take money completely out of the equation. IOW If you REALLY want to know if she seriously has feelings for you, you need to stop paying her for sex.
Now, you need to ask yourself, Do you really want to know her true feelings and risk ruining the little fantasy that you (and her) have created?
For the record, I have dated a couple of "agency girls" and if I weren't the pig that I am, I know it could have led to marriage, IF I were the marrying kind that is. The last relationship I broke off, mainly because I KNEW she was in love with me and wanted more than I was capable of giving. and Yes, we took money completely out of the equation a couple of weeks after meeting each other. I think I paid for four or five sessions before she told me that she didn't want my money.
In short, it's possible, but not likely for you to make this work.
Chances are you haven't tasted her pussy before she's gotten a chance to make sure it's fresh.
How could marriage possibly be a thought that comes to mind?
But, first of all, a serious involvement doesn't necessarily mean marriage.
The thing is, it would be a quirk because she probably didn't come into this looking for a husband. The question a guy usually asks is, does she want to continue working in the life?
A much more important question is do you plan on continuing in the hobby?
I was in a one-on-one relationship with someone who I met through Tantra massage. She continued to make a living as such and that was not easy for me. What was harder though was that my "cheating" on her was a big threat. That sounds like I was in a very one-sided affair, since she saw what she did as a career and what I did as betrayal. My saying it was more than a sugar daddy thing doesn't make sense to anyone.
But I really loved the woman, and it was what it was on a day-to-day basis. I knew it wasn't going to end in marriage, saw no reason for it to "end" in anything. For me, marriage to her would not have been a good idea. I'm sure some men would be more comfortable with it.
If you are drawn to each other so intensely that nothing else matters, then nothing else matters. There are many kinds of love. The only advice I can see getting from here is...can the relation reach fruition in any other way than marriage? Think about it, this is 2015 not 1915. Marriage doesn't have to be the only beautiful result of love.
she's a hooker and fucks for a living.
As others have posted take ALL the money out of the equation and create a civvy relationship. However you know that she'll need to continue fucking dudes to make her rent, car payment et al. I trust you're OK with that. If not...go and play elsewhere.
As for marriage...sure. Then you can play here and cheat on her. All the while she'll be playing you as well.
Sounds like a match made in heaven.
Feel free to send the wedding invite to my handle here. I just want to see if she's going to wear white
From my perspective. Not speaking for anyone but me....
I fall in love so many times and continue to be in love with a few fine gents that return to visit. But that doesn't mean think I get to keep them. Maybe in a Fairy tale everything would work out but all said and done, I doubt it. When you hire me part of what my silent promise to you is that I keep your secret and don't intrude in your private/civvie life. Sometimes a gent will want to push beyond the boundaries that make that difficult.(ie a big chunk off the clock time). So I tuck my emotions and feelings away and stay the course.
I think that the grass isn't always greener on the other side and a relationship fades or grows and changes with time and life events. In a different environment and circumstances, things may look different.
So I guess, all said and done, it is best to keep an open mind! Lord knows, I have made some crazy life decisions! lol
ps. I have even written blogs on my web site around this topic because it sits in my heart almost constantly.
And a courageous one.
The unquiet heart should never be lonely. Nor caged.
an established elite provider.
It depends on the two people involved so while there is an answer to your general question of can it happen, there is no answer to your specific question about you and this lady.
The biggest red flag for me in all this is that you have now had sex with her, given her rides home, to the drug store, to the supermarket, and the mall, and you have gone out to dinner with her once otc and she is now willing to consider a serious relationship and possibly marriage (did she bring up marriage or did you?). This is not what most would consider a firm foundation leading to a marriage discussion, and sounds like one or both of you are looking to patch a hole in your hearts with a ghost.
Not that it can't happen, not that it won't happen, but maybe get to know each other a bit better - like spend several consecutive days and nights together - before either of you even allows the words 'serious' or lord help you 'marriage' to enter the conversation.
PS to answer your other question, not for one minute would the fact that a woman is a provider be a deterrent for me if I were to enter into a relationship with her. I would not give it a second thought because I do not care how many men any woman has been with. To be honest, I would be more concerned of what she'd think of me given that I cheated on my wife when I met her.
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Been there, done that and it didn't work out well. Both financially and emotionally. Beware and remember she makes nice to men for money. Not to say it can't happen and that they are all gold diggers but it's easy to fall into the trap of having feelings for a beautiful woman.
Because I would never, ever marry anyone again. But the fact she's a hooker would have nothing to do with it. I just suck at being married.
I'm way too selfish.
I narrowly escaped my marriage, definition of insanity says I should not try that stupid shit again. One should learn from their mistakes.
But now I am cured. And I have told all my friends that if I tell them I'm getting married again they should shoot me.
I too have been married twice and I always say try it once and if it doesn't work out , give it a second try as everything deserves a second chance......but if that one doesn't work and you go to the well a third time, then your a dumbass!!
Those of us who figured it out after only fucking up once, call guys who need the lesson repeated a dumbass.
Now that said, those guys smart enough to have avoided marriage altogether are probably laughing at all of us dumbasses who ever got married even once.
take the money out of the relationship. I discovered than my (now ex) only married me for financial reasons & then hated me for it. By all means, the money must stop outside of your picking up the tab say for OTC dates. Get to know each other. See where it leads.
Lots of guys fall in l o v e with providers every day. Could it become something serious, yes. Those who have been there... and there are several on this board... will point out that this is a difficult road. But not impossible. Go slow. Keep your eyes open & your brain turned on.
If I were to have a relationship again, I'd be eager and proud to be in a relationship with a provider, they are after all my favorite people. I wouldn't mind if she was still providing, and the number of men she's been with is a turn on if anything.
But I am aware from experience, providers are providing a fantasy. Reality is if you weren't paying her she wouldn't be with you, or in the case of you driving her to the stores or taking her to dinner, sure she wasn't charging you but you were doing her a favor and/or paying for her dinner. This is not to say you aren't or can't be friends, I feel like friends with some of the ladies that I've been with and that's cool. But a true measure of if she really likes being with you, for you, is if she's with you when you aren't doing her a favor or aren't buying her dinner or there isn't something else in it for her.
I don't mean to sound cynical, I'm just trying to interject a small amount of reality. Put yourself in her shoes, if she wants a return client who she likes and is comfortable with, she's going to be extra nice and go to extra lengths to make you feel special. If I were a provider, I'd much rather have reliable and nice clients that I'm comfortable with than to take chances on multiple clients that I know nothing about. So, I'd be especially nice to those clients that I like in order to get them to be regulars.
Remember, the majority of people you meet in life have an angle or agenda for being extraordinarily nice to you or me or anyone else. In this great hobby, you and I know exactly what is motivating these wonderful women. And they know what is motivating us, and this makes it simple and perfect. I have no desire to be in a LTR, I'm old enough and I've seen and experienced enough to know I don't want to play the game anymore. Perhaps you are not as jaded, and that's awesome if you aren't, but take a step back and look at your situation for what it is. If indeed you find that she really wants to be with you and you really want to be with her then great, I wish you well. But we've had a lot of guys in here saying they're falling in love, they are looking through rose colored glasses and it seems they are headed for a certain rude awakening.
My intention is not to discourage you, but to caution you to look at this life for what it is.
Good luck.
On the other hand, never say never.
But, in my opinion, taking someone to the supermarket, drug store, or shopping mall (with not being charged??? wtf) is not even CLOSE to understanding someone or having a normal relationship.
The "thousands" of men she may have been with, is really not that important. However, when and if she wants to start charging you for the dinners, maybe that's a sign of normality.
In summary, I would give it a few years and see what happens. Don't forget, you can fall in love without being in love.
But if you can't do it without thinking about all of the other people she's fucked, then DON'T. You'll kill the relationship before it has a chance to breathe. If it makes you feel any better, she's chosen you out of all the guys she's been with. That's gotta be worth something to you - take it, move forward and don't look back. And really, all things must end, so just fucking have a good time while you're at it.
what difference how many men she's been with, any more than how many women I've been with? And as for continuing to escort, if she wants to continue, why not? Concern about such things stems from being conditioned your whole life to feel a sense of ownership of "your woman" and that you are supposed to feel a certain way about female promiscuity. Do your best to shed those beliefs and feelings, it's quite freeing and may allow you to see possibilities you've not seen before and experience your life in a much different, and I'll wager more satisfying, way. I will almost certainly not go down this path, for many reasons, but none of them have anything to do with a girl being a provider. If it feels like this is a real thing for you go for if...if you're wrong you'll find out in a hurry.
The way you met should not be such a huge deal if you are secure with yourself and know its just her occupation.
Many ladies meet great guys in the hobby.
I say go for it. She may make you the happiest guy and you may do the same for her.
Really like my ATF a lot. Such a Sweetheart and so Adorable. Would I Marry her? She's asked me to. I'll have to give this alot of serious thought. As of now I'm not sure. As for me being involved with her knowing she's seen alot of guys? Well that's how I met her. So I can't make a judgment call on that.
I'd start with New Hampshire and go from there
would be NO WAY!
Now it's 98% no. She would have to quit for the 2% chance.
btw, posts like this enforces the idea to me that at least 50% of hobbyists are lying to themselves
i lie to myself. She lies to me. I lie to her. Goods times for all. Isn't fiction all a lie?
The only truth is how you feel
Now it's 98% no. She would have to quit for the 2% chance.
btw, posts like this enforces the idea to me that at least 50% of hobbyists are lying to themselves.
but not about the way she truly feels about you.
good point regardless.
I have many male friends that I love being with and dont want money from.
I dont think just because a lady escorts that means she wants money from every male she meets.....
Most escorts make enough thier own money and they fuck who they wanna fuck in thier real life and he need not give her money,
I fuck plenty of guys and sleep over thier apt or just have a random fuck and i wouldnt want thier money, we need to have fun too, !!!!
I tend to like guys with tats, in my own age group, nice body nice face.
If she finds you attractive and enjoys fuckin you and hanging why would she care if you have money?
you remeber escorts, make 250 an hour? if you decide to date her she isnt gonna need money from you! fuck she may even buy stuff for you....................I always would buy stuff for my boyfriends when escorting and not escorting, Even when i worked at a health food store, in cambridge and was poor and lived with a blonde hippie dude,
dam we didnt even have a bed! we slept on a mattress on the floor { I was 19 then }
i would buy him lots of good snacks from the grocery store and we loved each other alot,
why do you think escorts dont like to fuck hot guys too? you like to fuck hot women we like to fuck hot guys, we are same as every other red blooded female on the planet!!!!!
god i have certain guys i been fantasizin about all week,
Unfortunetly the one i am dreamin of now, i am gonna wait til i have the baby and lose the baby weight to go in for the kill again but i know i can get him in bed. I will die tryin if not, but i am certain when i got my good body after i do this mommy thing i will get that man in bed, I been dreamin of it like daily! god it makes me giddy just thinkin bout it, caNT WAIT!
AND HELL NO i WOULD NEVER MENTION MONEY I JUST WANT THIS GUYS DICK! IN MY FACE! FUCK EVERYWHERE HE IS DROP DEAD GORGOUS!
he happens to be ambitious and siccessful too but i dont care about anything but fuckin him, money isnt even on the brain, just wanna bang him!
we arent much different from you guys we have sex drives, we get horny and excited over attractive people, and yes most escorts love money, doesnt mean we try and work or hustle or solicit ourselves to every man we meet, only the ugly ones, hahaha !
just kidding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It can happen, shit it happened to me till one night she came to our appointment late, she looked like her had a great time before me and looked ragged, that was the does of reality that I needed and then I woke up.And something I remember awhile ago, if you're feeling like you're something special, then read her reviews, that should snap you out of it.
Reading her Excellent Reviews is the reason why I made an appointment to see her. I never ever expected to get friendly with her. Now I really like her.
Even though I'm probably somewhat unique as a client in this mishmash of hos and bros I feel love or some level of it with all the relatively few ladies I see. After a long and loving relationship with my wife she died. I mourned for several years but I not only missed her but I missed the intimacy and carnal aspects of a relationship. I went though the respectable dating cites and I made one friend but it wasn't a romantic kind of thing. Anyone my age just didn't turn me on. Hell! Who gets turned on by a 79 year old women unless you have known and loved her for many years? So with that preface. I see several younger ladies and I have had many off the clock activities with all but one of them. With her it was one and done. The others are my friends and I have affection for all of them. I do have a deeper affection bordering on a true love for another. I will do all I can, with my modest means to provide for her and her boy after I'm gone. I know all you rampant studs, exuding a trail of testosterone will scoff at this old fart, but, you know what? I don't give two farts in the wind what you think. LOL I know the fun I am having and the friends I have made, who I think will mourn when I'm gone. Even if the don't, I won't know.
Reading her Excellent Reviews is the reason why I made an appointment to see her. I never ever expected to get friendly with her. Now I really like her.
But first, I'm sorry for your lost, especially in the twilight of your life. To get to the point, enjoy yourself with that luckly lady. I hope she treats you right and that the memories you're creating with her will last forever...And I'm sure the Misses understands and would want to see you happy... Now you stud, go enjoy yourself.
Thank you Happy, Many years ago my wife and I assured each other that if one died the other should feel free to marry again if we found the right person. I even joked that during the time i was mourning I''d only date black chicks.
you're both human beings, of course you can fall in love. Just try to separate the fantasy from the reality and keep your perspective.
The fact that she's been a provider would not bother me in the slightest. I could say, who am I to throw stones, lol?
But remember, you're a guy, and you're getting some really hot sex, and it's hard not to equate that with love.