I would be interested in hobbyists and providers views on upselling during the middle/end of a session.
I am not talking about menu options for services, I am totally OK with that.
I am talking about a provider, as things get heated up during a session, say for an additional $$, I will do this for you.
I recently saw a provider who advertise an erotic body rub. When I first arrived I even asked her about the menu options, but she was vague about it. ... as the session went on and she is still fully clothed, we started to get to the happy ending part, she then said "for additional donations I could play with her tits".
I just hate providers who try to get guys to think with the wrong head. To me, when I provider tries to upsell in the middle of session, it is a deal breaker for me ever seeing that provider again.
What are other people's thoughts on this
you wrote a review and included this info; and even naming her on the boards. This will save other hobbyist from getting upcharged by her; and possibly discourage other providers from doing the saame thing.
Like others have said, I'm okay with an upsell if it offers more service than was advertised (i.e. advertises topless FBSM but offers to go nude for more when you're there). I'm good with that situation. I don't like the FBSM advertising ladies who get you in there and don't do anything more than a rubdown unless you want to pay more. Even had one girl once advertise topless massages in her ad and was vague about details even before starting and then took her shirt off but kept her bra on and told me that's what was considered "topless" unless I wanted to pay more (wow...so I guess that makes La Jolla, Coronado, and PB all topless beaches based on that definition). So stupid. I always feel slighted and just want to leave after that (ruins whole experience) but I always tell the boards about them. This only happens when I TOFTT though
Other than the timing, how is this different than menu options or services? To me it's only offensive if attitude changes or services promised change if you decline the "opportunity" to upgrade.
I am not talking about menu options for services, I am totally OK with that.
I am talking about a provider, as things get heated up during a session, say for an additional $$, I will do this for you.
I recently saw a provider who advertise an erotic body rub. When I first arrived I even asked her about the menu options, but she was vague about it. ... as the session went on and she is still fully clothed, we started to get to the happy ending part, she then said "for additional donations I could play with her tits".
I just hate providers who try to get guys to think with the wrong head. To me, when I provider tries to upsell in the middle of session, it is a deal breaker for me ever seeing that provider again.
What are other people's thoughts on this?
You could take it that way, and if her attitude stank after you decline then it'd be a really bad thing. I'd never see her again.
The flip side is some girls start slow and won't discuss specifics to test the waters and see if you're LE, they may feel more comfortable later in the appointment with being more specific.
Since you said she started off vague, I'm more inclined to believe the second without more info. In my experience a girl who wanted to upsell you would have taken the opportunity when you presented it early on
She may have a pimp in her life that tells her this is smart, but we all know this is really stupid to do because it will make the guy not want to return. Why hassle with the upsell?
Find a respectful provider who values your money and time
who reallllly cares if someone implied ONLY manged providers do it ......?
As I first responded, to me, upselling is ok if it's really offering more service than the original agreement. What hobbyist (especially in the FBSM world) has not asked half way through the session if there's more on the menu? Any massage providers out there that want to chime in? When do you let a client know there may be more on the table, is during the session ok, or not until you tell him "hope I see you again..."?
I am not talking about menu options for services, I am totally OK with that.
I am talking about a provider, as things get heated up during a session, say for an additional $$, I will do this for you.
I recently saw a provider who advertise an erotic body rub. When I first arrived I even asked her about the menu options, but she was vague about it. ... as the session went on and she is still fully clothed, we started to get to the happy ending part, she then said "for additional donations I could play with her tits".
I just hate providers who try to get guys to think with the wrong head. To me, when I provider tries to upsell in the middle of session, it is a deal breaker for me ever seeing that provider again.
What are other people's thoughts on this?
charging more for certain services and having that be clear from the beginning via ads, web site, or PM is fine but upsell on the spot not OK.