I'm the same way. I have to have a two hour session minimum to get to know the provider first before I do anything.

Actually I don't even have to do that. I think I'm in the mood when I'm sleeping too.

Isn't there a song about that, Anticipation?

Shower, shampoo, shave, dress-up, grab the massage oil, and off I go.

I'm just about always horny.

One of my client-friends is pretty funny.  We could have a completely innocuous, non-sexual phone conversation, say about politics, and then he tells me he has a raging hard-on and can't get up from his desk.

So yes, some guys are just ON by the sound of a voice, or even a strong wind.  I guess we take it for granted that not all men are so "easy".

Wit gets me going, a dry warped sense of humor really turns me on.  

Big hands used firmly around my neck. Down around that crease between the hip and thigh area, just a graze will do it!  

Copious amounts of alcohol tends to make me horny, I drink entirely too much.

I find taking time and not rushing is the key.  First I start at the bar in the parlor for a drink and some flirtation.  Then a jacuzzi followed by mutual massage leading into what they desire

I have to say, when I'm seeing my ATF, just the thought of being with her puts me "in the mood." Just saw her, and I'm already looking forward to our next visit (which happily is not far off). My problem would run the other way, how do I think of anything else when a visit with her is coming up?

literally.  

For me, dancing with a woman that knows how to dance. (A hot looking woman helps, too, to get it on afterwards.)

At least I do, anyway,if it is going to be the great experience I feel the gentleman deserves.  
There is a lot of competition here and if he has narrowed down his choice to me I certainly do not want to disappoint.  In order to do that I have found that my genuine satisfaction is almost always just as important, if not more so to him, as his. That means I have to be in the mood, too.
Last minute requests make it harder to get in the mindset.  Getting ready at a more leisurely pace and having time to really pay attention to the details helps get the engine running a little bit.  A nice long hot bath or shower makes anyone feel sexy, I think.
Sometimes, I have a glass of wine while I am putting my makeup on.  I am not talking about getting shit faced, but a drink doesn't hurt to relax before hand.
Knowing what my date likes helps me feel confident= sexy= turned on.  It doesn't have to be a laundry list, but an idea here or there can sure go a long way, maybe the type of attire or a favorite color.
Playing music I like while getting ready is good.
Last but not least, playing with myself.  That takes a little "getting in the mood" all by itself.  It is definitely a step in the right direction.

s good.Those are just some of my little tricks to get in the mood.

a great pair of tits and a sweet hot ass kinda

do the trick for me ..soft voice doesn't hurt either ..that's it..  

And taking it slow and easy when I'm with the lady of the evening allows a "mood" of hopefully some unique quality for both of us to reach fruition between the first kiss and the first taste of her.

But a lot of times, none of that seems important and the mood falls in place as soon as she opens the door.

I don't turn it on...

it just turns on all by itself. A little anticipation, a thought, a look and a smile...

The real problem is turning it back off.

I'm sure your "dates" just hate it when you turn green, split right out of your clothes and eat the Tazmanian Devil.
Say, tell us, does your cock get gi-normous when that happens too?
Anyway, no, I don't need to be calmed down first and don't be jealous.  We all just are what we are.  Figure out what you need, tell her and she will provide it.  Assuming you've done your homework and she's the right one.

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I had a date a few weeks ago that I crammed in with a visiting provider in the only small time opening I had before heading out of town.  So I was extremely busy before the date, and had much to do right after it.
It was still fun, but when my mind is not 100% at ease, it does affect things.  I don't have problems getting up in that case, it's just the finishing that can take a very long time...

I also find that the longer and better the foreplay, the more quickly I will cum once the sex starts (which is generally a good thing for me, since I can be a long-laster).  A sensual massage with all kinds of teasing really gets me primed.

this ought to relax you a bit:

it is that relaxes your mind and frees it from your everyday troubles.  For me it is some light reading followed by a nice shower, shave, etc. while there is some soft music playing.  

Just like Aaron Rodgers said, "R-E-L-A-X".

how many Viagra pills do you take before you start?  

higher end provider? you're telling us that all "lower tier" (less than $500/hr) providers are horrible at their jobs because they can't calm you down?

go ahead and continue to be jealous. I don't give a shit.

The entire act of planning a date builds excitement...

Then add the anticipation build up as the moment gets closer...

Then we meet, and he shares things about himself... his career, some special interest of his... and he talks about himself with such enthusiasm, and his eyes light up, and he gets that look, you know, like a kid showing me his really cool toy on Christmas...

and I am totally there

I think of profane and lurid acts of carnal debauch.

Thankfully for all involved I'm a simple cuss.

I learned early in the hobby I can't do 1 hour dates. I don't have that instant on button and I usually prebook 2 weeks in advance. It's just to business like and takes away from the mood. IMO

Hands down is my erogenous zone more so than any other for play . hands down,