BDSM
I am a pretty experienced player. I am fairly extreme, at least in some people’s opinion. But I have seen a lot of more intense play than I can handle, so I guess extreme depends on your perspective. I generally stick to a regular Pro Domme but lately I have branched out a little to see some other Mistresses.
I always play with a safe word and my regular Mistress has no trouble getting me to use it
Basically the only times she doesn’t get me to say the magic word is when we are pressed for time. When visiting a new Mistress I try to make it clear I enjoy being in pain, not to the point of permanent injury but I want to be hurt. For example when indulging in impact play I enjoy fairly deep bruising and even like blood drawn with cane etc if Mistress is so inclined. I can’t simply can’t start out at that intensity but once I have been properly warmed up I want to be lead into sub space where I take as much possible until I am forced to use my safe word. It is one of my favorite ways to fully engage with a Mistress. When Mistress and sub are in sync the rhythm of the impacts, the cries she draws from me with her implements, the whoosh as her implements cut the air, the building of intensity and tension towards a the climax are like a great symphony. If it is done correctly it is as intense and satisfying as great sex in my experience. My pain is my gift given to my Mistress, and it is her gift to me in the same measure. I do engage in feedback in sessions and try and encourage more intensity and harder play. I try and ask for what I want. But that tends to take away from the whole sub experience and borders on topping from the bottom. From a Mistress’ perspective how do you draw the line with new clients who are requesting intense play? I understand play should be just that, sane and not dangerous. But safe words are there for a reason. Honestly I hate it when a Mistress says she thinks it is enough before I reach my limit. And in a purely practical implication I am paying a lot of money for the experience. I know I am not for everyone. I try and assure any potential Mistress and I are a good match before booking a session. I would never book with a Mistress who only does “Sensual” sessions. And I don’t want any Mistresses to get the wrong impression. Most sessions have been very good. There have been a few duds but that is rare and not happened in many years. But I am looking for that great session that leaves my legs trembling, my mind in tatters, and takes a day to come back to earth. Are multiple sessions with a Mistress a required to have that great subspace experience? I hope not because I would love to visit and experience Mistresses in other parts of the nation, sort of a BDSM vacation tour. I am planning on booking a session later this month with a Mistress I have not seen before. As far as I can tell from our correspondence she is very much into my kind of play, and seems well respected and reviewed. I would appreciate any advice on making my desires clear and making sure the Mistress will push my limits
I may be a bit jaded, but I love to play hard, really hard, and I hear quite regularly from subby boys who claim to be able to take a good hard session then when they are in front of me, they can't take anything, and I end up disappointed 
so when I get a request from someone claiming to be a heavy bottom, I take the request with a grain of salt and wait until they are actually in my space before I get too excited. The only time I have ever called a halt to play was when marks were getting out of control, but even then I let the subby make the final call on continuing or stopping. Occasionally I get someone who can actually take what I like to dish out, and those sessions are awesome!
Good luck, hope you find what you are looking for
K