I'm not married, however, I would want my wife to satisfy these needs:

1.  Intellectual needs  (Holds a conversation well/smart, funny)
2.  Good home maker (cooks, cleans, helps with stuff around the house)
3.  Likes to go out and have fun (dinner, movies, hiking, beach, etc)
4.  Loves to give BJs  
5.  Likes to be playful in the bedroom (try different things, open minded, easy going)
6. Has a career not a job.
7. She has a lot of good friends around her
8. Comes from a good family

These are the top 8  :  

And I don't mean the P4P world. She would need to be at home in my community and my society, and would need to be somehow involved in the same professions.

I think this is one reason that marriages in small farm towns work well. The kids grow up in the same world and share a perspective on life.

Although I enjoy being with people who are quite removed from my life, I would want to be in a marriage where both of us work towards the same goal, and each carries our on own social entity.

That said, she would fulfill me by being a whole self and a friend who respects me in the same way.

Can't imagine a fulfilled couple composed of two unfulfilled selves.

"The Normal Bar: The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples and What They Reveal About Creating a New Normal in Your Relationship"

So it deals with your question, but expands it to cover both sides of the equation, and all types of couples, including same sex, and unmarried couples. I got a lot out of it.

And I totally agree that it's imperfections that make life beautiful... and interesting. Life would be pretty boring if we were all perfect.

Thus the statement:  It's the little things that count.

So, in a marriage, each partner has to do the little things that show the other how much they care.  That care has to be acknowledged and returned in kind.  Believe it or not, this means saying things like please and thank you, to say nothing of "I love you."

It is easier said than done, but if people focus on that, things would be so much nicer.

Here are the best parts of what my wife and I did for each other when my marriage was good (and you're right, a good marriage has nothing to do with perfect). I think if one can hit as many of these notes from my off the top of my head top 10 list, I think they will form a patchwork of emotions that create 'the good' that two people can share together.

1.Someone who can be supportive even when we don't agree
2.Someone who will back you up and then to be sure to tell you gently in private where you were wrong
3.Someone with a short memory for the bad stuff and a long memory for the good
4.Someone who stays in the present when you disagree and not drag things up from a prior century
5.Someone who you don't want to have sex with but rather someone you can't wait to have sex with - you need to have sex with that moment, and she is the same person who you want to be with even more after the sex than before
6.Someone who you think about all day when you're apart and who can do no wrong even on days when they can do nothing right
7. Someone who makes me a better person through all their intangible qualities where I just want to be the person they deserve to be around.
8. Someone who doesn't quit when things get difficult
9. Someone who thinks your physically beautiful but that's never your most important quality - hint physical beauty is what you see when you look into someone's eyes as they eyes never get old - did you ever notice that?
10. Someone who'll make you a  damn good sandwich rather than leave after sex (hey, every top ten list needs a #10

Turns out I'm really, really bad at it and have learned my (expensive) lesson.

1. Needs to be sexual/ sensual. I am very sexual person... I love kissing and holding hands and shit.. Cuddling would be nice too.. Stop it nicky.. Stop it dawg.. No video needed. We all have seen it..

2. Needs to want to have kids. That's one of the main reasons why I want to get married. Otherwise, I am quite happy in my life right now..I will take care of the raising them part.. Take their homework and all.  

3. Needs to provide me with my space to follow Baseball and Football...Gawd I can't miss a game of football and watched 140 NATS games this year.

3.5 Can't interfere with my fantasy league.  

4. Needs to be able to cook well... My favorite food is Cheeseburger and Fries. Needs to be able to make both. Also, veal parmesan would be nice.

5. Make a stiff drink and provide good blowjobs...

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Just someone to keep my house clean, fix my meals and go away. JK. Sorta.  

Perfect imperfect wife? They don't exist!

A perfect wife would be one who rakes in a lot of money, highly educated, drop dead gorgeous, has an awesome magnetic personality, and makes my alarm clock obsolete Because she will be waking me up with a nice BBBJ every morning.

A reasonably realistically perfect imperfect wife would probably bitch and whine about the smallest of things, things that men consider trivial, but that's ok as long as she's gorgeous and she and her girlfriend wakes me up with a nice BBBJ every morning.  

at least not directly. The kids. The propagation of the species. I will start out with the great marriage I had. We both were very  much attracted to each other, the sex was great for 16 years; we really were on the same wavelength regarding cognitive, emotional and physical intimacy. We were we able to ride out her families rejection of our marriage. We were able to have 3 healthy and beautiful children. All that can crumble if one or the other allows the kids to divide and conquer, and if one or the other places all the blame for their growing unhappiness upon the other, and not seek professional help. I guess that sums it up for me.  

Hey, same sex marriage is ok so how can you constitutionally stop this now?

Anyhow, 4 wives, ages 18, 28, 38, 48....keep adding every 10 years. They live in the house, I live in my own apartment. When they want sex, they make an appointment.

Note these are NOT in priority order...

1.  She needs to love her husband unconditionally.
2.  She needs to enjoy sex and want it on a regular basis (at least 3-4 times per week. - I ain't greedy - though more would always be welcome).
3.  She has to give killer BJ's (Here's the catch - ON A CONSISTENT BASIS IE. MULTIPLE TIMES PER WEEK)
4.  She has to have hobbies of her own that sometimes don't include me.
5.  She has to be intelligent (when we have a conversation she should be able to not only hold her own, but add to the subject being discussed)
6. She should have her own career.
7. She should be relatively cute and/or trim.  I'm not asking for a 10 forever, a little sag and gut are inevitable, but slobs with giant bellies and rolls not wanted.
8.  She should keep herself groomed.  I mean, while I love the "natural look".  The "hair everywhere" thing isn't for me.  Don't have to be bare down there (although preferred) but something less than a raccoon tail is nice.
9.  She should have a sense of humor and like corny jokes yet also be able to get serious when needed.
10. She needs to allow her husband to be his own man and accept him for himself without trying to change him unless he wants that change.
11. She should be clean and not mind cleaning up after herself and others (within reason- not looking for a slave, just someone who pulls their weight)
12. She needs to have friends and not be slavishly attached to me but not so many friends that she ignores me either.
13. Must enjoy the outdoors.  If she liked to fish she'd be great, if she liked to hunt as well, then hot damn, where's the preacher!!!  LOL but hunting and fishing aside, just enjoyjng hiking, biking and going to the beach or boating would be fine.
14. Be able to deal with criticism and not take everything to heart or make a big deal out of every word or statement.
15. Cooking would be a plus but not required.  (I cook pretty well).
16. See # 2 & 3

Currently, my SO has #5, 6, 9 down pat and has a remarkable #3 but which is so infrequent as to be negligible in effect. (5-6 times a YEAR is too little

and thanks to the person who posted it.  As you can see,  none of these things are difficult, complicated, or expensive.   And that is probably the key to a great and long lasting relationship.   Unfortunately wives don't always provide these things; and perhaps even more interesting is that many men are often too busy or just unaware of how meaningful and comforting these qualities can be.  Of course, those aren't our only needs or wants but I for one have lived long enough to have been at times in need of all of those things.

 What these ladies actually give us is priceless.  
 
When the rest of the world is mad at us, they give us a smile and a kiss.
When no one else cares, they listen to us.
when everyone in the world is rushing by us, they take the time to see us.
When the world seems to be shunning us, they embrace us.
When we are lonely they hold us tight.
When we are up tight, they relax us.
When we are celebrating, they join us.
When we want it sweet and compassionate, they are princesses.
When we want it wild and rough, they are tigeress.
 
And as long as we treat them like the ladies they all are,
they are there for us.  
 
Thanks ladies. You make our lives better.  
 

 
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1. Is emotionally balanced - shares emotional support as much as she demands it;
2. Has good self-esteem - knows she has great worth as a person;  
3. Takes care of herself physically - so she feels energetic, attractive and sexy; knows taking care of others is not possible if you do not take care of yourself;
4. Is an equal partner in life - chips in where and when needed, and lets me know when I must as well;
5. Is a brave communicator - shares the good and the bad without delay; talks through problems and doesn't hide them or expect me to "read signals" overly much.
6. Trusts - always trusts first, asks if curious. No jumping to conclusions.
7. Is unpretentious - is a normal woman, and doesn't need to flaunt money or success.  

I am just going to assume that I've chosen well enough that she'll be a pet lover, great Mom, will enjoy staying in a snuggling to a good movie as much as going out for a night on the town, and if physical intimacy tapers off - is willing to work on it.

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